There are a lot of things that can hold you back when you are in a relationship or even in life. Don't let them! Live your life and really get to know yourself. Below are some of the top things that hold me back – don't let it happen to you.
1 Your Way of Thinking
You have a way that you think and you make a hell of a lot of assumptions about a hell of a lot of things. That can weigh you down a lot – it does me all of the time.
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2 The Person That You Think Other People Want You to Be
This holds me back a hell of a lot time too. People expect me to be a rockstar, expect me to be reliable, expect me to be anything but what I want to be.
3 Life is a 'dress Rehearsal'
If you constantly think that you are 'preparing' for life, you'll never actually live.
4 The Fear of Discomfort
You've got to get over the discomfort of life. Seriously. Life is out there and it's uncomfortable.
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Stepping outside of your comfort zone might cause some butterflies, but it's essential for growth. Every time you shy away from a challenge because it feels uncomfortable, you're missing out on a key experience that could shape your destiny. Embrace the unease; let it fuel your journey rather than obstruct it. Imagine the inner strength you'll develop as you conquer each apprehension. The confidence and resilience that blossom from facing fear head-on will make every awkward step worthwhile. After all, no great story ever starts with, "I stayed where it was safe."
5 Your past Failures
You cannot dwell on the past. It doesn't do anything but hold you back.
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Reflecting too much on previous setbacks invites a cycle of negative self-talk that can chain you to yesterday's disappointments. Learn from mistakes and then let them go. Embrace the lessons they've taught you, but free yourself from the weight of regret. Move forward with the valuable knowledge that these experiences have built your resilience and wisdom. Every misstep can be a foundational block for a brighter, more successful path ahead, if only you give yourself the permission to step over them rather than standing still.
6 The Habits You've Developed
Remember #1? The way you think? This is the same thing. Ditch some of those habits you have; they are holding you back.
7 All the Useless Information You're Being Stuffed with
In this day and age, we have so much information being thrown at us, it's hard to shut our brains off. Ditch the useless information and make time for yourself and your partner.
8 False Beliefs
There are some beliefs that you might be clinging onto that actually have no facts behind them. Let them go!
9 All the Negative Friends
Oh my gosh, this is huge. If someone is constantly negative around you, get rid of them. You need positivity, not someone that is negative all the time.
10 The Need to Be Constantly Doing
Sometimes, you just need to chill. Sometimes, you need to not do anything. Be still for a while.
11 Your Parents Relationship
I constantly compare my marriage to my parents marriage – that isn't right. My marriage is so different and that's the way it should be.
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Many of us subconsciously use our parents' relationship as a benchmark, but doing so can add unnecessary pressure. Each relationship is unique, with its own challenges and triumphs. It’s important to remember that comparing often overlooks the individual growth and experiences that shape your personal journey. Embrace the distinct aspects of your partnership, learn from others, but always forge your own path to happiness without the weight of comparison.
12 The Way You Thought Your Life Would Be
Yes, sure, you had a way that you thought your life would be. It might turn out that way or might not, but don't let that hold you back!
13 Greed
The need to have a ton of money, all of the love, everything to be perfect. Let that go!
14 Complacency
There are so many relationships that are ruined by this. Don't let it happen to you.
15 Is Stress a Bad Thing?
Stress is not always a bad thing - keep that in mind.
16 Poor Self Image
Your self image is the biggest thing that can hold you back.
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How you perceive yourself sets the boundaries for your potential. If you're shackled with thoughts of inadequacy or believing you're not good enough, it's time to break free. Remember, you are your own harshest critic. Overcoming a poor self-image means nurturing positive self-talk and embracing your uniqueness. Don't let a distorted perception cloud the reality of how truly capable and deserving you are. Begin to celebrate small victories and gradually you'll build the confidence to conquer the world.
17 Your Mental Health
And physical health.
18 Your past Partners
This is big. Your past can haunt you in many ways, especially when it comes to your previous partners.
