There are a lot of things that can hold you back when you are in a relationship or even in life. Don't let them! Live your life and really get to know yourself. Below are some of the top things that hold me back – don't let it happen to you.
1. Your Way of Thinking
You have a way that you think and you make a hell of a lot of assumptions about a hell of a lot of things. That can weigh you down a lot – it does me all of the time.
2. The Person That You Think Other People Want You to Be
This holds me back a hell of a lot time too. People expect me to be a rockstar, expect me to be reliable, expect me to be anything but what I want to be.
3. Life is a 'dress Rehearsal'
If you constantly think that you are 'preparing' for life, you'll never actually live.
4. The Fear of Discomfort
You've got to get over the discomfort of life. Seriously. Life is out there and it's uncomfortable.
5. Your past Failures
You cannot dwell on the past. It doesn't do anything but hold you back.
6. The Habits You've Developed
Remember #1? The way you think? This is the same thing. Ditch some of those habits you have; they are holding you back.
7. All the Useless Information You're Being Stuffed with
In this day and age, we have so much information being thrown at us, it's hard to shut our brains off. Ditch the useless information and make time for yourself and your partner.
8. False Beliefs
There are some beliefs that you might be clinging onto that actually have no facts behind them. Let them go!
9. All the Negative Friends
Oh my gosh, this is huge. If someone is constantly negative around you, get rid of them. You need positivity, not someone that is negative all the time.
10. The Need to Be Constantly Doing
Sometimes, you just need to chill. Sometimes, you need to not do anything. Be still for a while.
11. Your Parents Relationship
I constantly compare my marriage to my parents marriage – that isn't right. My marriage is so different and that's the way it should be.
12. The Way You Thought Your Life Would Be
Yes, sure, you had a way that you thought your life would be. It might turn out that way or might not, but don't let that hold you back!
13. Greed
The need to have a ton of money, all of the love, everything to be perfect. Let that go!
14. Complacency
There are so many relationships that are ruined by this. Don't let it happen to you.
15. Is Stress a Bad Thing?
Stress is not always a bad thing - keep that in mind.
16. Poor Self Image
Your self image is the biggest thing that can hold you back.
17. Your Mental Health
And physical health.
18. Your past Partners
This is big. Your past can haunt you in many ways, especially when it comes to your previous partners.
Frequently Asked Questions
- How can I stop overthinking in relationships?
- Try focusing on what you can control and communicate openly with your partner to reduce unnecessary worry.
- What’s the best way to forgive someone who hurt me?
- Allow yourself time to heal, and remember forgiveness is about freeing yourself from resentment, not excusing their behavior.
- How do I stop carrying past heartbreak into new relationships?
- Focus on self-love and set healthy boundaries to create space for new, positive experiences.
- Why is it important to let go of toxic love?
- Letting go frees you from emotional pain and opens the door to healthier, happier connections.
- How do I know if I’m holding on to love that’s no longer good for me?
- If the relationship consistently causes more stress than joy, it might be time to re-evaluate its place in your life.
- What strategies help build self-confidence after a breakup?
- Practice self-care, surround yourself with supportive people, and pursue activities that make you feel empowered.
- Can focusing too much on love affect my personal growth?
- Yes, it’s important to balance love with your personal goals to maintain overall well-being and growth.
- How do I avoid comparing my relationship to others’?
- Remember every relationship is unique; focus on what works for you and your partner instead of external comparisons.
- What role does forgiveness play in moving forward in love?
- Forgiveness helps release emotional burdens and allows you to heal and grow from past experiences.
- How can I maintain my independence while being in a loving relationship?
- Communicate your needs clearly and ensure you have time for your interests and personal space.