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7 Good Reasons Never to Get Involved with a Married Man ...

By Alison

The reasons not to get involved with a married man are numerous - it's a really bad idea and something that no sensible woman should ever do. It will only lead to heartbreak and can devastate not just your own life, but that of his family as well. Getting involved with a married man has huge potential to hurt everyone involved. So here are some sound reasons not to date a married man.

1 Wrong

Of all the reasons not to get involved with a married man, the primary one has to be this: it's just plain wrong. Both a married man and his girlfriend can come up with all sorts of reasons to justify what they're doing - it's real love, his wife doesn't treat him right, etc. Those are excuses - cheating is never right, and a decent person just wouldn't be part of it.

2 Second Best

When you get involved with a married men, you will always be second best. His wife and family will come first. Let's remember, he's covering up his cheating, so you won't be able to contact him easily, he won't be there for important occasions, and you'll never be able to rely on him. Is that what you want out of a relationship?

3 Lies

Another of the significant reasons not to get involved with a married man is that they lie. Whatever he says, he won't leave his wife, and he's almost certainly still sleeping with her. Married men who cheat enjoy having two women - why would he leave his wife and disrupt his comfortable life when he can get the best of both worlds?

4 Would You like It?

There is one question you should always ask yourself if you become interested in a married man: how would you like to be the one who is cheated on? You may justify your own behavior by arguing that you are not married, he is. That's still not right. You wouldn't like it if another woman went after your partner, so don't do it to anyone else.

5 Repeat Performance

There is a saying: if you marry the mistress, you create a vacancy. Men who cheat can never be trusted. If you do manage to bag your man, and he leaves his wife for you, how can you ever be sure he won't do the same to you? The fact is, you can't. So don't put yourself in that situation, or it could be you getting hurt next time.

6 Children

As well as abstract reasons, there are living reasons not to get involved with a married man. If he has children, your involvement in his life could be incredibly damaging to them. Don't be a part of messing up children's lives; stay well away. Besides, can you respect a man who puts his own selfish needs before that of the children he brought into the world?

7 Unhappy Ending

If you do get into a relationship with a married man, you'd better do so with your eyes wide open. There is an almost 100% certainty that it will end badly. It could get very messy, and you will get hurt. Do you really believe that is what you deserve? Find yourself a man who is free to be with you and only wants you, not another woman as well.

There are so many reasons not to get involved with a married man and nothing that can be said in favor of it. You will never be his priority, and a man who can treat his wife like that is really not worth having. Value yourself highly enough not to put up with a man who is already in a relationship. Have you learned the hard way that married men are trouble?

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