By Alison • 10 Comments
Breaking up with your partner can be devastating, and leave you feeling like you'll never feel happy again. You have to pass through a difficult stage, and there's no telling how long it will take for you to feel better. But the upset will pass, and you can actually come out of it stronger and happier than you were before. Here's how to pick yourself up and feel better and stronger …
Make a conscious decision to look forwards and not dwell on what went wrong win your relationship. It's over, and you need to move on. Of course it will take time to recover, but you do have the power to recover. Our happiness does not depend on one person, but lies within ourselves. Onwards and upwards!
The relationship ended for a reason, or even several. It wasn't meant to be, so accept that. It's natural to mourn the loss of someone you love, but it's the end of one chapter in your life, not the whole story. You'll look back and realise that you're better off and that the feeling of upset has passed.
We all want to find a partner who accepts and loves us as we are. But it can actually be harder to be ourselves in a relationship. Partners do try to change each other. So a breakup can actually be a positive change, and give you back the chance to be yourself without someone telling you to be different. Plus you can do exactly what you want - your life is your own again.
When you're going through a breakup, you don't feel very strong. But you are, so remind yourself of that. You'll come through this just fine, and in time meet someone new. They may even be much better for you. It's by going through hard times that we really just how strong we are - and this isn't as bad as it seems anyway.
Be kind to yourself while you're coming to terms with the end of the relationship. If you want to spend some time watching box sets and not going out, then do so. It's a time for indulgence, tranquility, and recovering from the hurt . Treat yourself to things that will help you feel better.
One advantage of finding yourself suddenly single is that you can do anything you want, and don't have to worry about someone else's needs. So enjoy the freedom that it gives you. It's actually quite liberating to only have yourself to please, so make the most of it.
The end of a relationship can be devastating. You feel that you'll never get over it, or find it difficult to imagine a time when this will all be in the past. But you can really develop as a person and learn to be independent again. Speaking from my own experience, I've really gone from strength to strength since my marriage ended, and am far happier now. I'm a very different person, and I think a better and happier one.
So try to see the breakup as an opportunity for a new and even better life. You really can come out of the experience better off, but you do have to find the courage to move on. Do you look back on someone you loved and wonder what you ever saw in them?