We would all like to think we are a good kisser. And I’m sure many of us have experienced a kiss we would rather forget. You can learn to be a good kisser and it's fun practicing. Just don't make these mistakes and become an expert in lip locking.
1. Don’t Be Unconfident
There is nothing worse than a tentative and unsure kisser. Be confident in your convictions and go for it!
2. Don’t Wait Too Long
If you wait too long to make a move, the moment may be lost and there will be a great deal of awkward tension in the air.
3. Don’t Be Aggressive
Overconfidence can sometimes seem aggressive; don’t go in for the kill if you sense the other person isn’t in the mood!
4. Calm down with the Tongue!
There is a fine line between a good tongue kiss and turning into a giraffe, so be mindful of what you are doing!
5. And Speaking of Tongues…
Make sure you have some sort of rhythm going on. Don’t just swish around and around like a washing machine, that’s not sexy!
6. Kiss, Don’t Lick!
Make sure you pucker just as much use your tongue, otherwise it will be of a face lick than a romantic kiss!
7. Don’t Come on Too Strong
You have to learn to pick up on the other person’s signals, sense how they are feeling and act accordingly. Don’t just go straight in because that’s what you want to do.
8. Do Indicate Your Intentions
A little inclination of the head, or a romantic touch of the face - just give them some kind of warning that you are going to kiss them. Going in cold can end with awkward results!
9. No Kissing Selfies!
Kissing selfies are cringeworthy and completely ruin the moment. A kiss should be something shared privately between the two of you, not in still form for the whole of Facebook to see!
10. Don’t Be Shy
Don’t be one of those people that always seem to get embarrassed after kissing. You’re not 13 anymore, you don’t have to go red and start giggling!
11. Slow down
There is nothing worse than a fast, over acting kisser, it can start to feel more like getting licked on the face by a dog than getting a smooch from your loved one!
12. Avoid Banging Heads
We can’t all be Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams in The Notebook. Sometimes you can’t rush in without giving each other a black eye, so be careful!
13. Be Careful of Holding Too Hard
Hands in hair can be sexy, but try not to hold their head too hard. It might start to feel like they are trapped in a human vice!
14. Watch out for Suction!
Don’t turn your mouth in to a vacuum cleaner while tongue kissing. It’s a weird sensation for the other person and not enjoyable at all!
15. Don’t Think about Someone else
Be present in the moment and don’t picture somebody else as you are kissing a person, it detaches you from the moment and the person you are kissing will be able to feel it.
16. Don’t Be Self Conscious
If kissing in public, don’t worry too much about what those around you are thinking. If you are lucky enough to have somebody worth kissing, you should be proud to kiss them wherever!
17. Stay Away from the Teeth
Don’t start examining each and every tooth in their mouth with your tongue. It feels super weird and they will start to feel as though they are the dentist instead of kissing the person that they like!
18. Not Having Fresh Breath
No one wants to kiss someone with spinach in their teeth or has a tongue that tastes of fried onions. If you’re going to snog, have fresh breath.
19. Avoid Dribbling
Some people are very sloppy kissers. It's more like kissing a bassett hound than a human. Learn to control your saliva.
20. Don't Be in an Awkward Position
Over reaching, overstretching, and awkward angles should be avoided when you're not a confident kisser.
21. When a Kiss is Not a Kiss; It's a Peck
Pecks have their place but make sure it isn't a replacement for a real kiss. If a kiss is called for, kiss, don't peck.
Did you practice kissing before your first real kiss? Time to fess up if you practiced on your hand or teddy bear!
Frequently Asked Questions
- How can I make my kisses more enjoyable?
- Focus on reading your partner's cues and keeping your kisses gentle and varied.
- What common mistakes should I avoid while kissing?
- Avoid being too aggressive, using too much tongue, or ignoring your partner's comfort.
- How important is fresh breath for kissing?
- Very important; fresh breath shows respect and makes the experience pleasant for both.
- Should I use my hands while kissing?
- Yes, gentle touches on the face or waist can enhance intimacy without being overwhelming.
- How do I know if my partner is enjoying the kiss?
- Look for positive body language like leaning in, soft moans, or relaxed breathing.
- Can nervousness affect my kissing?
- Yes, staying calm helps you be more present and responsive during the kiss.
- Is it okay to mix up different kissing styles?
- Absolutely, varying pressure and speed keeps things exciting and engaging.
- How do I avoid awkward moments during a first kiss?
- Take your time, maintain eye contact beforehand, and go slow to build comfort.
- Should I kiss with my eyes open or closed?
- Most people prefer closed eyes to enhance sensation, but do what feels natural to you.
- Can practicing help improve my kissing skills?
- Definitely! The more you connect and communicate with your partner, the better your kisses will become.