Understanding Why Its Cool to Embrace the Single Life ...

By Leyla • Sep 4, 2014

A lot of us don't like being single. We worry too much about what others will think or when the next boyfriend will come along. Stop. Breathe. And enjoy your single status. Here's guest contributor Leyla Javadova's post on why it's perfectly okay to be single.

I'm sure you've had those "Why Not Me?" thoughts when you see couples holding hands and canoodling near you. Stop worrying and being hard on yourself. It's great to be single! Here's why:

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1. Finding Yourself

Being single gives you the chance to find yourself personally and professionally. Take different classes and learn more about your interests and hobbies. Take the time to enjoy your own presence. Have Me-Time with a margarita!

2. Stabilize Yourself in a Career

Not having that loved one gives you more time to concentrate on your work. Take the time to grow in your professional life and take the needed exams or courses in order to improve yourself. You may not realize the importance of it right now but you will someday.

3. Finding the Right One

Being single doesn't mean that you're ugly or unwanted. You're single because you won't settle for just anyone. You deserve a man who's willing to stay when you're going through a rough time, someone who will shop with you, cook with you, travel with you, and share your dreams and hopes. Don't settle for less. Know your value!

4. Exploring Your Choices

Not being in a relationship means you can meet different men to find that 'right guy'. It's okay to date and explore your options. Dating doesn't have to immediately translate to a relationship, it means you're expanding your social circle and seeing what's out there. So put on a sexy dress, your sexy smile, and have fun on those dates!

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Unlimited 'YOU' Time

You want to have a girls' night? You need to have a spa day all to yourself? Done and done! Of course, you can do these things even when you're in a relationship, but when you're single, you don't have to think about anything or anyone. You have more 'Me' time to enjoy and to cherish. As mentioned above in #1, take the time to know yourself. Oh and hey, you don't have to shave your legs, take short showers or take those extra few minutes to look good for 'somebody' - do all those things for yourself.

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6. Travel Time

When you're in a relationship, traveling can be somewhat difficult to do since you're thinking about his availability also. When it's just you, you can simply buy that airplane ticket and travel the world. Nothing beats exploring places you've never been to. Traveling can also be a good way to find your inner stability and calmness.

7. Be Alone, Not Lonely

There's a huge difference between being alone and being lonely. It's okay to be alone to live, to grow, or even to explore. Don't look at yourself in the mirror and whisper the question 'Why?' thinking that you're lonely. You're not. You're single, alone, and need to learn to love that state.

Look at the bathroom mirror and smile. The woman you see in front of you is single and fabulous! And remember, in order to be loved, you must love yourself first. What's your favorite part about being single?

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I love being single! I have accomplished so much person and carrier wise. I am surrounded by positive friends and family. I do not feel "lonely" ever. I would rather find "love" then be comfortably "settled". Well said! Single, independent, and loving it!

soo true! Gotta love being single!

I've been single for 3 years now not one date even!!! But I love it, maybe one day I'll feel different but certainly not at the mo :-)

I love this article especially the last part: There's a huge difference between being alone and being lonely. It's okay to be alone to live, to grow, or even to explore. Don't look at yourself in the mirror and whisper the question 'Why?' thinking that you're lonely. You're not. You're single, alone, and need to learn to love that state. --- i love being single and carefree!

Been single 4 years nearly and I've definitely grown. What I'm attracted to has changed drastically and I've learned so much about myself. Most people my age are in relationships or are dating at least (21). I haven't. To be honest I do appreciate the pros of being single, especially the freedom, but I don't mind giving it a try after 4 years.

I love being single.

I have been single for around 9 months now, it took me awhile to get use to it. Its true about the lonely moment when seeing other couple holding hand and asking a question "why not me?". The worst part about that it is friends and family keep questioning why you still single and give you a pity look. But then I decided to stop seeking and start focusing on developing my career and my hobby, learn to love and make myself better everday, I discover that life is not just about being in relationship, there are much more to explore and experience. Now, I am in best stage of mind, health and career. Just enjoy being single :)

True article.

Total agreeeeee!!!!

Great article! Being single definitely make u learn skills that will help u if eventually u get in a relashionship! Besides that u can deal better with your thoughts and ansientys

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