Trying to remember all of the reasons to never go back to an ex can be hard. But, sometimes after a couple of cocktails or a particularly sad romantic movie, you find yourself sitting there wondering if could be different this time around? Well, press stop on that DVD and sit down, while I give you seven reasons to never go back to an ex.
That is by far one of the most important reasons to never go back to an ex. But, just in case you need some reinforcement, I’ll give you some more - once a cheater, always a cheater. Chances are he’s already moved onto another girl (or, two) and is cheating on her for all of the same reasons why he cheated on you. A cheating boyfriend will only become a cheating husband.
Have you dated the ‘come around the bend’ guy? That charming lad who wines and dines you while you fall helplessly in love with him, only for him to leave you for a number of life pressing reasons? His job has become too demanding for a relationship, or he needs to get his life in order before entering a committed relationship with you. Here’s the thing - they’re all excuses. The ‘come around the bend’ guy tricks you so that you’ll go back to him — but only when it’s convenient for him.
If you’ve been in a relationship with a ‘come around the bend’ guy, you know how difficult it can be to move on. He may call you up and tell you he misses you, but don’t be fooled — he’s only trying to get you back when it’s convenient for him. He may promise that he’ll change and be the man you want him to be, but chances are he won’t.
It’s important to remember that if you go back to this type of guy, you’ll only be setting yourself up for more heartache. He may have a knack for making you feel special, but he’s not capable of giving you the kind of commitment and loyalty you need in a relationship. He may come around again, but he’ll eventually slip away again when it’s convenient for him.
The older we get, the scarier it is to try something or someone new. Going back to the tried and true seems easier than going on a bunch of bad dates and bar hopping. No one likes dating, but it’s how you meet people, just like your ex. Resist the urge to go back to your old guy and try the unknown. Who knows? Maybe your ex will seem like the distant memory by the end of the night.
One of the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to relationships is going back to their ex-boyfriend. It’s understandable to feel comfortable with someone you’ve been with before, but it’s important to remember why the relationship ended in the first place. Going back to an ex could be a sign that you’re not ready to move on and take a chance with someone new.
It’s familiar to go back to an ex, but it’s not always the best choice. If you’re feeling lonely or are having trouble meeting someone new, it’s best to try something else. Going to a bar, joining a dating site, or even just talking to friends can help you meet new people and get out of your comfort zone.
It’s also important to remember that your ex may not be the same person he was when you were together. People change over time, and your ex could have different attitudes, values, and goals than he did when you were together. If you go back to an ex, you could be setting yourself up for disappointment.
Finally, it’s important to remember that relationships are about more than just chemistry.
But, you might just get what you need. Sometimes we want something (like an ex) but it’s important to remember all of the reasons why it didn’t work out before your daydream away. Make a list of reasons why it didn’t work out and be honest with yourself. Maybe it’s time to accept that it happened for the best.
Do you love drama? Is The Bachelor your favorite show? Let me remind you, when you’re in a healthy relationship you generally want to stay in a healthy relationship. If you’re breaking up and getting back together every other week, it creates a false sense of passion. What you’re living off of isn’t the connection between you two, but rather the disconnection you like to make. Re-evaluate why you are in your relationship and whether it’s because you really want to be or if you only like the drama of it.
If you’re having a relationship where it’s you against the world, it isn’t romantic, it’s unrealistic. If you plan on spending the rest of your life or even a chunk of it with someone that your friends and family generally don’t like, expect to have a lot of two people parties. If you want to alienate yourself from your life, dating someone your friends and family don’t approve of is a perfect way to do it.
It’s easy to call up an ex and make it feel like the first time all over again. But, that feeling only lasts for the first time. That rush of adrenaline quickly fades and all of the reasons you didn’t work out the first time will come rushing back to you.
As tempting as it may seem to call up an ex and return to the love nest you once remember, take a long look at the why you broke up in the first place. Like the saying goes, never go back. Do you have a story of why you should never go back? Let me know!