Have you learned the hard way the reasons why you shouldn't rush into a relationship? Coming out of a relationship is invariably difficult, and you may miss having a partner so much that you look for a new partner before you're really ready. This rarely works out well. So if you haven't already made this mistake, remember these reasons why you shouldn't rush into a relationship in the future …
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1. Rebound
One reason why you shouldn't rush into a relationship is if you've just come out of another one. Rebound relationships rarely succeed, because you're not over your ex and nor are you ready to be with someone else. It's important to take time to come to terms with a relationship ending before you embark on a new one.
2. Wrong Choices
Rushing into a relationship can be a sign that you're in the habit of making wrong choices. Perhaps you've ended your last relationship because you met someone else. Or you may rush into relationships because you fall in love without taking the time to get to know someone properly. It's true that you can't really know someone until you date them - but you should at least try to get some idea of the kind of person they are before committing yourself.
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3. No Need
Relationships can be wonderful, and we all enjoy that feeling of being loved and wanted. But we don't need to be with someone; we can manage perfectly well on our own. If you find being on your own difficult, you need to learn to cope without a partner - a relationship should enhance your life, not be something you can't live without.
4. Time out
When a relationship comes to an end, you should always take time out. It's never wise to rush from one to another. You need time to adjust to the changes in your life and the end of something that you may have hoped would last forever. Learn to know the difference between wanting a relationship, and when you're really ready for one.
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In the context of the article, taking time out after a relationship has ended allows you to process your emotions and reflect on what went wrong. This can help you avoid making the same mistakes in future relationships. Additionally, rushing into a new relationship may not give you enough time to heal and can lead to rebound relationships. It's important to take the time to focus on yourself and your own needs before jumping into a new relationship. Rushing into a new relationship can also put unnecessary pressure on both parties and may not allow for a strong foundation to be built.
5. Worth Waiting
Like most good things, a decent relationship is well worth waiting for. If you're in a hurry, you're less likely to find that and more likely to get yourself into one that's unfulfilling and doesn't give you what you really want. It's not a race, so put the brakes on and wait for someone who really captures your interest and is right for you.
6. Needy
Work out how much time you've spent as a single person. If you've had a number of relationships, with very little time in between, this could indicate that you're too needy to be able to handle being single. This isn't healthy emotionally. Do you really want to be the needy person who just can't hack being alone, or would you rather be a strong independent woman?
7. Repeat Mistakes
Finally, be wary if you're making the same kind of mistake every time. Do you continually fall for guys who turn out to be completely wrong for you? Take a step back before you charge headlong into another relationship, and see if there are any patterns that you can learn from.
Some rushed relationships do work very well, but on the whole, patience is the better option. Wait for the right person to come along! Have you rushed into a relationship that went really wrong, or beautifully right?
Comments
Nosey: 16 and apparently proud she pulled an Asian man. Good luck on your relationship though, Selena.
Anna: This was me. Not anymore
Selena: I find this article a bit false for me, I rebound into another relationship and it turned out to be the best thing ever. I may not of known him well but he turned out to be perfect for me. And we spent everyday together for 7 months before he was shipped away because he's a Unites States Marine but I can tell you that he's worth the wait and when he gets back in December he's proposing to me! 😍
Marlie: You are 16 years old honey. Don't rush it.
Sasa: This article is right on target. I am still not over my divorce and I did jump into a relationship in which wasn't right. I'm happy now that I have a relationship with myself.
Janet: Was meeting wrong guys and now focus on being healthy with hobbies like dancing, singing and reading
Selena: Also dating A lot doesn't mean your needy sometimes it does but dating a lot can tell you who's ment for you and who's not
Star: Hoping to get some advice. I am 31. I got out of a emotionally abusive relationship. I ended get in a relationship shortly after. My new guy is great. He makes me feel great, beliefs in me, and is very patient with me, we never argue. I feel like I am not too crazy about him anymore. he is a good man. I know from experience that is hard to find. We both want a family someday. I don't feel like I'm in love. I know I haven't ever given myself time to be single. ( I do have a 6 yr old son).
Igemsy: Firstly Selena, It don't matter what race your boyfriend is and i find it very strange you have to put that out there. Secondly this article is wrong and right. I got out of a very bad relationship before I met my fiancé and so did he. We have been together for almost 4 years now and looking to buy a house. Age isn't a massive factor as long as your mature about it. Girls these days are having babies at 14 but I'm being grown up about it and looking to buy a house and focus on my career rather than starting a family asap. You shouldn't rush into anything and even after 4 years Im learning new things about my other half to this day. His sister and her fiancé were the same and met over 9 years ago and are only just getting married.
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