The Golden Rules of Girl Code ...


If you want to make great friendships for life you best take heed of the 7 Rules of Girl Code. These are the (unwritten) rules of female friendships put into words for you. True girl friends have your back when you’re down, give you advice and help you to be the best you can be. So forget the haters and invest your time in the friends that really matter. If you want to make your friendships stronger than ever make sure that you never break the rules of girl code, and you will be one step closer to being BFFs.

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"Sisters before Misters"

The most important rule of girl code is “Sisters before misters” – translated as girls before boys. Best friends stick together and don’t let any boy drama get in the way of their friendships. No boy should be worth losing your best friend for. So if you both like the same guy the solution is simple: talk to each other first and make a plan before one of you gets hurt. Secondly never date a best friend's ex-boyfriend. There are plenty of fish in the sea so you don’t need to fight over the same one. This is the most sacred of the rules of girl code as even the strongest of friendships can be tested over men.


Be Her Wing Man

If you friend gets dumped, cheated on, or is simply miserable in her relationship, it is your duty to take her out and cheer her up. If that means watching endless episodes of the Vampire Diaries whilst crying into a tub of Ben and Jerry’s or heading out for a wild night on the town, then do it. Make sure that when your friend is feeling down, you are the reliable girl she can count on to make time for her and help her forget her worries.


Don't Disappear

If you get a new boyfriend, don’t disappear. I always remember when I was younger I had a friend that would come and hang out every Friday night with the girls. Then one time she got a boyfriend and we didn't hear from her. Nine months later I got a call on a Friday night asking me what we were doing that night. It turns out she got dumped and wanted to be one of the girls again. I mean its fine to fall in love and get swept away, but always remember to make time for your friends. They are the ones who will be there for you in the long run.


Have Some FUN

Yup, friends make you happy and you are supposed to have a good time hanging out together. I love nothing better than to spend an evening sharing my hopes and dreams with my friends and chatting into the night. Enjoy each other’s company whether it be shopping together or taking trips to the cinema. Sharing life together is important and if you're not having fun together than you not doing it right.


Be Honest

All relationships require trust and honesty to survive and thrive. Sometimes it’s hard to tell the truth and share your true thoughts with a friend, but the act of sharing and being honest will strengthen your bond. If for whatever reasons you start lying to your friend, it will break your unspoken bond and you won’t be able to rely on each other in the same way.


Be Inclusive

As friends you are not required to do absolutely everything together. I have lots of friends that are very different to me, and I embrace our differences. But I can rely on the fact that no matter what new hobby or trend they are following I am also allowed to join in if I want. I can go to their parties, try their new yoga hobby with them, or go with them to meet their other set of friends. I will never be turned away.


Be Supportive

The last but by no means least rule number 7 requires that you are supportive of your friend. That means helping them if they need it, giving them the confidence to follow their dreams and be open to their ideas and suggestions. If you friend tells you she wants to skydive and you think she’s crazy – fine! Tell her she’s crazy but when she books up to do it anyway, make sure you are waiting on the ground when her parachute touches down to show you are still with her no matter what.

So there we have my 7 rules of girl code, aka the holy grail of successful female friendships. If you want to be Best Friends Forever, make sure you stick to the rules and always have each other's backs through the good fun times and also through the bad. So if you are lucky to have a great friend now make sure that you stay that way and keep best friends for life. So who is your BFF? And do you share the girl code?

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I agree with most of this. Just not the "sisters before misters" and "don't disappear." I had friends in Highschool who asked me to choose between them and my then boyfriend. Real friends don't make you choose. Real friends understand something new is happening in your life and it's a big deal too and don't pressure you.

Rule #1 Don't date your friends ex

I think rule number one should be 'Don't Have A Crush On Your Best Friends Hard Core Crush'


Can I ask a question please? I am currently a teenager and I have this friend and at school and at school functions, we are inseparable and I really do value our friendship but lately she has been acting weird outside of school. And she excludes me from almost everything, what is a good way to approach this?? Do I need to directly approach her or just let it play out?

I'm sorry, I really don't agree with number one. My best friend is currently dating my ex boyfriend and I couldn't be more happier for her, I'm not going to hate on her for dating my ex just because they've really clicked together, why would I force my best friend not to date my ex just because I didn't have that feeling she has for him?

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