Do you have a “type” – a certain type of man, one who has the same set of characteristics (physical or emotional) as those who went before him? Or do you not know? Knowing you do or do not can help you in making decisions about who you date. So how do you tell?
This is a classic symptom of having a “type.” Do you find yourself attracted to men that are very similar in appearance and personality to your ex or exes? There is nothing wrong with having a type, but beware of trying to re-tread old ground. Typically, the man you think is just like your ex usually turns out to be nothing like him.
Women are not naturally nor automatically attracted to funny men. There. I said it. Being funny is just a perk, just like hard abs, a fancy car and a missing mother in law. It only becomes a lever of attraction when you are attracted to the funny type, and if you seem to end up with the funny ones, then you may have a type and be purposefully seeking funny men out without knowing you are doing so.
There is nothing wrong with being attracted to a tall man. There are some women that have trouble dating men that are not tall. Some women have a type, and their type is tall men.
Some women are attracted to social butterflies like moths to a flame. The occasional boyfriend that happens to be popular is no indication of anything, but if you have had a few that are popular, then you may have a type.
In our modern hyper-feminist society, we are frowned upon looking for a good provider or enjoying being with one…but everybody does. Watch an episode of Judge Judy and you will see the opposite, where women are looking after men and getting screwed over by them. You are not attracted to his wealth, but it is certainly a desirable perk.
Muscular men may be a “type” of their own, but that may not be what you are attracted to. You may be attracted to men that make you feel safe. When you are dating a muscular guy, you may feel as if you are protected from the other men in the room. We have all met the types of guys that make you wish you tasers were legal. You may be attracted to the type of man that make you feel physically safe when you are around him.
It is not that you are attracted to guys that have kids, but there is something about men that have kids and bother to look after them that you are interested in. Ask yourself if you fully trust and/or are attracted to men that don’t have children--because you may have a type.
Some women are attracted to men that are dog owners. Their reasons for this are as complicated as they are pointless. Just be sure you do not justify a loser by the fact he has a cute puppy. Try not to fool yourself into the idea that you are with him because he is nurturing because it may not be true.
Soooooo many women seem to fall for this type of man. They spot potential in a man that is rough around the edges and figure they can fix him up and make him perfect.
Some women find volunteering men to be very attractive. This may be because their brand of sensitivity is what they are attracted to, and sometimes it is because of lack of availability. After all, many volunteer projects have more women than men, and there are bound to be a few single people in the mix.
Are you a chubby chaser? It is nothing to be ashamed of. Some women’s type is a big cuddly teddy that takes up most of the sofa. Your “type” may be men that overeat and are fat or big and fat.
No, you are not attracted to the abusive type, or to men that are too dumb to agree with you. You may not even be attracted to the argumentative type. You may be attracted to the drama and emotion that comes with arguing with a lover. You may be an emotional junkie.
No, you are not attracted to men that you make miserable. You are attracted to a moody person. The world is full of them. They are self-indulgent people that enjoy being moody. If you are a typically happy person, you will want to make them happy, but all they will do is turn you into a miserable person. It is not your fault, so please do not feel bad. Here is a video explaining what I mean about being happy called Why be happy?
He may not be your type. You may be looking for a family of your own. If you are fond of his mother, ask yourself if you are trying to create a surrogate family with his. In which case, ask yourself if you truly want to be with him.
There are some women that only meet men through friends and through online dating because they do not have the confidence to try and attract people in their day-to-day life. Then there are women that trawl Facebook for their friends’ friends. This doesn’t really mean that you have a type. It just means that you are a little uncreative when it comes to attracting a mate.
You are not attracted to strangers. They are not your type. You are attracted to surprises. You like being pulled from your normal monotonous routine. Be careful ladies. This attitude can get in you trouble sometimes, but it is darn exciting. You may enjoy the company of a man that surprises you in general, so that maybe you don’t have to go looking for other men to break the monotony of life.
There are quite a few women that find a scrappy beard or slightly scruffy hair to be attractive. Do you find yourself attracted more to men that have this? Do you suddenly find your partner a little more attractive if he is less well polished? There are varying degrees of this, going from the slightly imperfect facial hair, to the all-out hipster with the uncontrollable beard, weird clothing choices and long hair or unusual hair. Sometimes it is just a case of not being attracted to men that are too neat and tidy, and other times it is because you like the type of man that has a little scruff.
Have you worked out if you have a type or have you always been aware you're attracted to similar men?
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