One of the worst feelings to have in a relationship is when you think you are seeing signs your boyfriend likes his female friend. You might feel that the relationship that your man has with this other girl is too close for comfort. Below I’m going to share the signs your boyfriend likes his female friend, so you can determine if you should stay or exit the relationship.
1. Listen to Your Gut
One of the signs your boyfriend likes his female friend is when your gut is screaming that he is developing feelings for another woman. This inner instinct is an alert system that you should pay attention to. If your gut feeling tells you that your man is up to no good, don’t ignore or make excuses for it. If you are feeling this way, it's time to discuss your concerns, suspicions and fears about the friendship he has with his female friend.
2. They Flirt Together
There is harmless flirting and then there is suggestive flirting with sexual innuendos and sexy body language. Take note of how your boyfriend and his female friend act when they are around each other. Think of the way you acted when you began crushing on your man. Are you seeing similarities in her behavior when she is hanging out with him?
3. Her Name Always Comes up
Think of the conversations you have had with your man lately. Is his female friend always a topic of conversation regardless of the subject that you are talking about? When a guy begins to crush on a girl, he is constantly thinking of her so he frequently talks about her. If you are sick of hearing his female friend’s name because he is always talking about her, I hate to say it but it's highly likely your man is secretly crushing on her.
4. She is on a Pedestal
Another sign he is crushing on his female friend is that he puts her on a pedestal so she can do no wrong. For example, when the three of you hang out she is blatantly rude to you, which is a really uncool thing to do, and yet he still manages to defend her. It might seem to you that your boyfriend is wearing rose-colored glasses when it comes to his female friend even when she is totally wrong. If it seems like his female friend is Ms. Perfect in his eyes, maybe it's time for you to find a new guy that will always put your feelings and needs first.
5. Comparing the Two of You
Every good boyfriend knows that he should never compare his girlfriend to another woman. Most guys understand that this is a really hurtful thing to do to a girl that they love. If your man has suddenly started comparing you to his female friend, loud alarm bells should be ringing in your head. When you hear these kinds of comments from him, it means that he is starting to think that she is better than you.
6. You Are Uncomfortable
When the three of you hang out, you began to feel like you don’t belong and are the third wheel on their date. When your boyfriend is around her, you feel totally ignored. You notice them having prolonged eye contact and he doesn’t look at her the way he looks at other girls. You can’t even remember when he looked at you in that special way.
7. She is His Priority
Lately your boyfriend drops everything when she invites him to hang out alone. You are beginning to see a pattern of him blowing you off just so he can spend time with this other female. You feel like you have become second to her. He is spending way more time with his female friend than he does with any other girl, including you. You are so uncomfortable around them, all you want to do is get out of their presence.
If you have discussed your concerns about this friendship with your boyfriend and he doesn’t change his behavior to minimize your worries, it’s time to walk, ladies. Do you have any other tips you can share when a boyfriend likes his female friend?
Frequently Asked Questions
- How can I tell if my boyfriend likes his female friend?
- If he talks about her constantly, defends her often, or spends more time with her than with you, these could be signs he might have feelings for her. Also, if he's secretive about their relationship, that's definitely a red flag.
- What should I do if I suspect my boyfriend likes his female coworker?
- Start by having an open and honest conversation with him about your concerns. It's important to express how you feel without accusing him. Also, observe his behavior to see if your suspicions hold weight.
- Why does my boyfriend always talk about his girl best friend?
- If he's always bringing her up, it might mean he's thinking about her a lot. It could be harmless, but it's worth checking in on why he feels the need to talk about her so much.
- How can I cope if my boyfriend defends his female friend more than me?
- It can feel hurtful if he seems to take her side over yours. Try to discuss your feelings with him, and if it doesn’t change, consider whether this relationship meets your emotional needs.
- What are some clear signs my husband likes his female friend?
- Some clear signs include him texting or calling her frequently, prioritizing her over you, and getting defensive if you bring up your concerns. If he seems emotionally invested in her, it might be time for a serious conversation.