By Jennifer • 19 Comments
You've suspected it for a while now, but you just want to confirm it once and for all: have you landed a Nice Guy? Here are a few ways to make sure.
Waiters, cashiers, cab drivers — he treats them all with politeness, courtesy, and frequently, he's downright chatty with the service staff he interacts with. This, my dear, is one sure sign the guy you're with is indeed nice.
They're not "I love you" or "I made dinner" ... though those things are nice too! The magic words I'm thinking of are "I'm sorry." If your guy has no problem admitting when he's wrong, it's another clue that he's got a heart of gold.
... but only with appropriate jokes, of course, never anything racist, sexist, misogynistic, etc. Bonus points if he can make you laugh by laughing at himself.
Feminism. That F word. If he uses it, and he actually seems to be truly interested in equality for all, regardless of sex or gender, then he's a nice guy. The end.
If your fella's BFF is furry and named Fido, and if he takes good care of his Fido friend, he's probably a nice guy. I mean, really, how many good pet owners have you know who weren't just the best?
... and he certainly doesn't do it. He doesn't understand why people give women (or men) such a hard time about their bodies, and he doesn't call out what other adults should or shouldn't be doing or wearing.
Does your man want to take care of you when you're sick? Does he take good care of his siblings, parents, and other friends and family? Oh. Yep. He's probably a nice guy.
If you've met his friends and family, and they're all nice, since birds of a feather flock together, he's almost certainly a nice person, too.
Some people seem afraid of, or are offended by, that word, "nice." But if you've heard him graciously accept the compliment "You're so nice!" then he might actually be trying to further cultivate his niceness, which is fantastic!
So... do you have a nice guy? When did you first suspect?