You've suspected it for a while now, but you just want to confirm it once and for all: have you landed a Nice Guy? Here are a few ways to make sure.
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1. He Treats Service Staff with Respect
Waiters, cashiers, cab drivers — he treats them all with politeness, courtesy, and frequently, he's downright chatty with the service staff he interacts with. This, my dear, is one sure sign the guy you're with is indeed nice.
2. The Magic Words
They're not "I love you" or "I made dinner" ... though those things are nice too! The magic words I'm thinking of are "I'm sorry." If your guy has no problem admitting when he's wrong, it's another clue that he's got a heart of gold.
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3. He Loves to Make You Laugh
... but only with appropriate jokes, of course, never anything racist, sexist, misogynistic, etc. Bonus points if he can make you laugh by laughing at himself.
4. He's Not Afraid to Use the F Word
Feminism. That F word. If he uses it, and he actually seems to be truly interested in equality for all, regardless of sex or gender, then he's a nice guy. The end.
5. He's an Animal Lover
If your fella's BFF is furry and named Fido, and if he takes good care of his Fido friend, he's probably a nice guy. I mean, really, how many good pet owners have you know who weren't just the best?
6. He Doesn't Get Shaming
... and he certainly doesn't do it. He doesn't understand why people give women (or men) such a hard time about their bodies, and he doesn't call out what other adults should or shouldn't be doing or wearing.
7. He Takes Care
Does your man want to take care of you when you're sick? Does he take good care of his siblings, parents, and other friends and family? Oh. Yep. He's probably a nice guy.
8. His People Are Good
If you've met his friends and family, and they're all nice, since birds of a feather flock together, he's almost certainly a nice person, too.
9. He Takes It as a Compliment
Some people seem afraid of, or are offended by, that word, "nice." But if you've heard him graciously accept the compliment "You're so nice!" then he might actually be trying to further cultivate his niceness, which is fantastic!
So... do you have a nice guy? When did you first suspect?
Comments
Hannah14: Hello
Bunny: Are you looking for a lover or a clown 😱😹😹
peony: Why mentioning feminism on anything...
Mae: I first thought my man was crazy!!! For letting in strangers live with him without shouldering any expenses. Although these people really needed a home, my man was juggling so many things all at the same time then
Lesley: Oh god. He's the one. I met him at my Summer Program and thought he was the one, my soulmate. He lives in another state though, can't believe myself! 😭❤️
Kashish: I think feminism is quite a negative word. Its more like you want to put females above men. What is more appropriate is equalism.
AndreaAqn: So funny, but true!!!!
Indi: Kashish I completely agree 100%. I never much liked the term feminism.
Esther: I finally found me a nice guy too! He's my best friend and we love each other. There's marriage in our future👫❤️
TheMisshoney69: Mine is mostly the opposite of these
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