Ever wonder what you should keep to yourself when talking to a bisexual girl? The results are in, and your top questions have been answered. Seventeen magazine interviewed bisexual women about what not to say, and their answers prove these questions are both annoying and harmful--even if you were just curious and had good intentions. Here are 11 things to keep to yourself when talking to a bisexual girl:
1 "It's Just a Phase"
So, I'm going to wake up one day and not be into the person I'm dating? That's totally rude to both me and her, and something that diminishes really any same-sex relationship. While sexuality can be fluid for a lot of people (meaning sometimes you might be feeling one gender over another), that doesn't make it a temporary thing.
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2 "Are You Trying to Get Back at an Ex-BF?"
My ex is not my boyfriend for a reason, maybe even because I think he's a jerk. So, first, not trying to get him back, and second, if I were, I would never use another girl to do it. That would make me a jerk, too.
3 "Being Bisexual is so Trendy Now."
Look, I'm not saying I don't have Ruby Rose as my lock screen pic (guilty), but the rise in visibility of queer girls on screen is only a good thing. Seeing girls who like other girls on TV and in movies is never going to turn anyone gay or bisexual — it just might allow them to feel comfortable expressing their own sexuality. Basically, even if it is ~trendy~ that's in no way a bad thing. And doesn't make it any less real.
4 "do You Want to Hang with Me and My BF?"
Nope, not at all, no thanks. Being bisexual does not mean that I literally want to date both guys and girls at the same time.
5 "Everyone Experiments in College."
Hmm... definitely not everyone. And even if some girls do, college is a great time to explore and find out who you are. Again, that doesn't make bisexuality a thing for everyone, or a phase.
6 "You'll Eventually End up Gay."
When you meet a lesbian couple, how do you know if one of them is bisexual? You don't unless they tell you, and many don't because of the stigma that's often attached to bisexuality. So you might think they are "ending up gay," but really, they are just ending up in a same-sex relationship. That doesn't change their orientation one bit.
7 "Guys Are the Worst. I Wish I Wanted to Date Girls, Too!"
I don't date girls because I'm sick of guys, or I'm bored with them. It doesn't work that way, the same way it wouldn't work for a straight girl to start dating other girls because a guy broke her heart.
8 "You're Just Confused."
Just because you're confused about my sexuality, doesn't mean I am. I'm attracted to both guys and girls and it really isn't that complicated.
9 "I Just Don't Know if I Could Trust a Bisexual Enough to Date One."
There's this stigma that if a girl is dating another girl, she must "miss" guys and will then cheat on her girlfriend (or the other way around.) This couldn't be less true. Most bisexuals feel totally happy and satisfied in a relationship with either gender.
10 "You're so Lucky That You Get to Go out with Twice as Many People."
Whether you're bisexual, straight, or any other orientation on the planet, dating is tough. Finding a guy or girl you like who actually likes you back isn't a breeze for anyone. And bisexuals don't have it any easier.
11 "Bisexuals Don't Actually Exist..."
We exist. Hey, right here! With more and more girls in the media coming out as bisexual, hopefully the invisibility feelings that many bisexuals have will be a thing of the past.
Do you agree with these 11 things to keep to yourself when talking to a bisexual girl? Did we miss anything? Let us know in the comments.
