A divorce party is a fun way to move on from the past and welcome in a new chapter in your life. It’s a chance to celebrate and embrace your new-found freedom and all the possibilities that the future holds. If you need a bit of guidance as you are planning this event, here are a few tips that can help you throw a memorable divorce party.
1. Type of Party
Since this is a celebration of your new single life, the type of party is ultimately up to you. It could be a casual low-key party held in your home, backyard, restaurant or local bar. Or it could be a lavish black tie affair with everyone that you know. If you feel that you have missed out on something while you were married, such as a hobby or a place you wanted to visit, you could even use that as a divorce party theme.
2. Guest List
Your guest list should include anyone that was there for you throughout the divorce process. These are the people that provided comfort when you were drowning in tears and heartbreak. Keep coworkers or bosses off your guest list unless they are close friends. A divorce party can be a highly emotional event and you don’t want to fuel the gossip and rumor mill at work.
3. Set the Mood
There are many cool ways to create a festive and fun atmosphere for a divorce party. Greet your guests at the entrance with a banner that says "Just Divorced" or "Just Single." If you want bouquets of balloons, colors commonly used include black and silver or hot pink and black. Black roses are also common party décor. You could even put up a piñata that resembles your ex.
4. Funny Divorce Cake
Regardless of the type of party you choose, a divorce cake is a must-have for this event. There are many hilarious divorce cake ideas out there like a bride standing on top of the cake while the groom is tumbling down the side with his clothes scattered everywhere. Another idea is an upside down three-tiered cake that is just as elaborate as a wedding cake. On the other hand, you could have a sheet cake with the words "Single and Ready to Mingle" or "Just Divorced" on it.
5. Have Fun with Your New Status
A bachelorette typically wears a tiara and a brightly colored sash in a proud display of her soon-to-married status. A divorcee can do the same but with a twist. Be the life of the party with a glittery sash that says "newly single," "divorced diva," "just divorced" or "divorced and single." You can also wear a tiara attached to a black veil instead of a white one.
6. Perform a Symbolic Ritual
Many divorcees perform a symbolic act during the divorce party to release negative emotions about the failed marriage. One idea is trash the wedding dress any way that you like while friends cheer you on. Some burn anything related to the marriage, such as the wedding dress, wedding documents or wedding photos in a bonfire. Another idea is to perform a funeral ceremony for the marriage and place the wedding ring in a tiny coffin. These ideas can help you move on and get closure which is especially important if you were blindsided with the divorce.
7. Party Activities
Think of a divorce party as a reverse bachelorette party because you are celebrating starting a new life without a partner instead of being tied down to one. Group sing-alongs of your favorite breakup songs when guests have had way too much to drink are always fun. You could also play the "I-Knew-He-Was-The-Wrong-Guy" game in which your guests take turns sharing the exact moment they realized that your ex wasn’t right for you. You could hit the clubs or hire a couple of strippers if you like.
Life is much too short to be stuck in the past with the memories of a failed relationship. It’s much more fun to celebrate your new lease on single life than to wallow in misery. Ladies do you have other ideas for a fabulous divorce party you would like to share?