If you have a date which you can't make but it's only couple of hours away, there are some ways to cancel a date at the last minute which will mean you may not have blown your chances with that person if you do want to see them again. On the other hand, you may not want to see them again, in which case these ways to cancel a date may also help you out!
Table of contents:
- call asap
- unexpected circumstances
- other excuses
- suggest an alternative
- white lie
- be prepared
1 Call ASAP
One of the first ways to cancel a date is of course to call that person as soon as possible. It seems obvious but the last thing you want to do is to leave your date waiting for you, only to find out then that you can't make it. And standing someone up is never a good idea, no matter how much you loathe them. I'm not sure how I feel about texting or emailing to cancel a date. Of course, if you would rather not speak to them then this may be the best way for you, but it seems a little colder than the personal call. And as amazing as technology is nowadays, the text or email may not even get to them.
2 Unexpected Circumstances
If you have a genuine excuse then use that, but if something has come up that you would rather not disclose and you still want to see that person again, say that an unexpected work meeting has come up or family has arrived from abroad unexpectedly. Either way, say you're really sorry and you really want to come but...
3 Other Excuses
Perhaps you want to create an excuse. For example, you double booked, you're tired, you need to help out a family member or you're just feeling low and really not feeling like going out.
The best option is of course to tell the truth. If you're not interested then make this known. Say that you're not ready to date anyone right now or whatever reason you have for not wanting to spend time with them. I would never condone lying, but sometimes needs must and people have all sorts of reasons for being economical with the truth.
5 Suggest an Alternative
If you genuinely want to see this person again, then perhaps suggest an alternative date or leave the conversation open for another invitation. Say you'll make it up to them but don't shower them with empty promises just so you don't hurt their feelings. People really appreciate honesty.
6 White Lie
As I said, I don't like condoning lying, but some people really won't take no for an answer! Maybe you want to say that you're seeing someone else or you've decided that now is not the right time to start dating. Either way, be firm and don't stay on the phone for too long or it may give them the impression that you are actually interested but you're just playing it cool.
7 Be Prepared
If your date calls you later for some reason, make sure you say you're where you said you were going to be. This is especially important if you do want to see that person again. Again, honesty is always the best policy because it saves all the bother of having to remember the lie, but if you really have to, make sure you do remember the lie!
These are just a few ways to cancel a date. Has anyone been in a similar situation and had to cancel their date at the last minute? How did you deal with it?
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