We all know what layoffs are. Youโre working someplace, they announce cutbacks, and you get a pink slip for all your years of dedication and service. But what about when you are the one giving a pink slip in a โromanticโ relationship?
Breaking someoneโs heart is no easy task. It is especially difficult if the person you are leaving is wonderful in every way. You may ask, โwhy leave?โ Well, that can get complicated and simple at the same time. Complicated, in that you canโt explain why. Simple, in that you simply donโt love the other person.
Love and like gets tricky. You can almost go through a check list of everything you ever wanted in a relationship. The person you are about to give the โpink slipโ fulfills every category. Theyโre this, theyโre that, the sex might even be respectable. But, what if the love ainโt there? You got nothing but an empty relationship, prime for a โpink-slip.โ
That all makes sense. And, you should leave. But, what if the person is so nice and sweet you canโt stomach breaking their heart? Some people start treating the other person really bad, hoping the sweet person with โresignโ from the โposition.โ Others just pedal along, hoping by magic, they can somehow exit the relationship, and not hurt anybodyโs feelings.
The fact is, there is never a right time except the right time. Sometimes you just have to do it; rip the Band-Aid off so-to-speak, so the real healing can begin.
Remember, you are not only wasting your time but the โhopelessly in loveโsโ time also. Healing begins when the relationship ends, as painful as it can be.
I compared breaking someoneโs heart to โlayoffs.โ This is not by accident. When someone gets laid off, there is always a little hope inside that the company will call them up one afternoon and say, โWe love you, come on back!โ In an unwanted relationship, this can be a problem. You have to be very careful when you get out of a relationship with this really nice person who loves you. If you are gonna walk, walk. Donโt keep them suffering and hoping, when there is no hope of ever getting back together. Yes, you have to cut them off, not โlay them off.โ
Beware! If you are not careful, a sweet person will beg and guilt you right back into the same situation. Feeling sorry for someone by getting back with them, is not love. In fact, itโs a problem. You may say this article is a little too harsh and cold, but it is not. It is not written for you, it is written for the ones who are helplessly in love with you. In a sense, this note is pleading with you to be honest with your โnice personโ and yourself. They need you to do what they canโt. Donโt waste anymore of your time or theirs.
Bottom line, itโs never a good time to do what you know you need to do. They need you to be strong for the both of you. Itโs your call, just be respectful.
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