There are things you should never tell your partner, or let your partner say to you. If there is an element of abuse in your relationship, it needs to end. You can either discuss the situation in order to fix it, or you can break up. There's no reason to put up with emotional abuse. Here are some crucial things you should never tell your partner, or let your partner say to you:
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1. I'll Leave if...
You can't give your partner an ultimatum over every little thing. Don't claim that you'll break up with them if they refuse to go to your friend's party, or if they keep snoring in their sleep. Constantly warning your partner that you'll leave them over their little actions is one of the things you should never tell your partner, or let a partner say to you. It's a way to control you, and it's incredibly unhealthy.
2. I'd Kill Myself
Never threaten suicide. It's not fair to your partner. Do you really want them to stay with you out of fear that you'll harm yourself? You can't try to sway someone's opinion by saying that you'll hurt yourself, because it'll make their decision even more difficult.
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3. You're Useless
It's rude to tell someone that they're useless, especially when you're the person whom they love the most. Hearing the words from anyone can be scarring, but hearing them from someone they care about is devastating. If you're angry, tell them why you're angry instead of yelling out insults that will hurt them.
4. Be More like Him/her
You can't compare your partner to an ex, or to any other person in your life. It sets unrealistic standards for them, and if you like someone else better, then you should leave to be with them. There's no reason to continue your comparisons, and keep hurting the person who loves you.
5. I Hate Your Parents
Don't bring your partner's parents into an argument just to get them angry. It's not your partner's fault that their father is an alcoholic, so why throw it into their face? It has nothing to do with them, which is why it's a low blow. It's just an easy way to hurt them when you have nothing better to say.
6. I Could do Better
If your partner thinks they can do better, leave them and let them find out the truth. There's no reason to stay with someone who doesn't see how amazing you are. Your partner is supposed to believe you're the greatest thing on Earth. It's healthy for him to recognize your flaws, but it's unhealthy for him to dwell on them and use them against you.
7. Nothing
Ignoring your partner can be just as bad as screaming at them. If you never talk to or touch the person you're dating, something is wrong. It's normal to occasionally have a fight that lasts a while, but if your isolation has been going on for months, it's time to end things.
Emotional abuse is not something to take lightly. If your partner treats you terribly, then you shouldn't settle for them. No matter how much history you have and how much you love them, you can leave to find someone better suited for you. Have you ever been a part of an unhealthy relationship?
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Adriana: You'd need to get counselling for these issues, especially #2. Have to agree with #1, I've said this in anger before, not realising the damage it does
Star: Emotionally abusive relationships scar you just at bad as physical abuse. After hearing over and over that you are not worthy you start believing it. I left the relationship, and I am seeking counseling now. I am constantly struggling with self-esteem issues. If anyone is in this situation I suggest they leave and seek help. We all deserve so much more.
Leslie: I'm on here because it gives me an outlet to express my feelings and what I'm going through. I've tried the sweetness. But it doesn't work. I say he cheating and evidence proves like so. Other things have happened. That I'll not mention here. I'm here for support for me. When I post. I tell it as it has happened. I think he is hanging onto me so he doesn't have to face a divorce. But the cheating is what I'm talking about. Phones locked. Separate bank accounts. The list goes on. But the disrespect is the worse. After 30 years you'd think I could get a little. But no! The man rules. He's made me physically sick. But can I leave no. I can't take care of myself on my salary plus I'm sick with vertigo. So unless you have some good advise for me then keep r mouth shut .
Camipapillon: I totally agree Im_Maat! I stared at the photo trying to find some redeeming reason for why it would be used for this topic. Obviously, there is no good reason. This is not the first time, however, this is just the most blatant. Very poor taste indeed! It's unfortunate, as I really like most of the content on this platform.
MaleBoo: Being ignored is hell. I just came out of a relationship were I was served silent treatment for weeks. The worst was 3weeks. That's when I decided to leave
Camipapillon: Neecey Beresford, I also meant to add that the content of the posting itself is very important and relevant and should not be experienced by anyone.
Im_Maat: The cover photo for this article is very discriminatory...very poor taste.
Camipapillon: Neecey Beresford, thank you and your team for changing the photo. Regardless of the multiracial make-up of the team, it's just a matter about being thoughtful about choosing images and words to communicate a message, especially in the racially charged atmosphere in which we live, especially the messages that have been communicated for eons in this country by photos like the one that was posted. But, thanks again for making an effort to make a change.
Leslie: Know one knows what it's like to be a trophy wife. So all u young girls have no idea. Unless you know my husband and I each individually then how can you post comments on things you shouldn't say yo r husband or boyfriend. You know neither one if us. You have no idea how truly hateful this man is or do you ? m
Im_Maat: Camipapillon, thank you for vocalizing your opinion as well. I definitely agree with all of your points. I was staring at it trying to find something redeeming and I couldn't...I literally teared up. Neecey, thank you for understanding and changing it.
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