If you're looking for reasons to take a break from dating, you are not going to be disappointed. There are several things that can go right for you when you take a break from the dating scene. If you recently ended a relationship, it makes sense to take some time for yourself and reassess what you want from your next one. Check out all of the benefits of being single and you'll be so glad that's where you are right now.
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1. Boost of Self Esteem
Embarking on a dating hiatus spiked a huge boost in my self esteem. The things I used to be insecure about suddenly became the things I love. I began to see myself differently, but in a good way. I realized my self worth and taught myself that if a man was not willing to love me for me, flaws and all, he didn't deserve any part of me. I realized I was still beautiful without all of the glitz and glam. I walk around with such confidence now because I know that I can do any and every thing. I began to see myself as worthy of love, loyalty, and commitment. I began to love myself. Self-esteem and confidence is a daily struggle for all of us women and can be even more difficult when just getting out of a relationship, especially if you have been cheated on. If you decide to go on a dating hiatus, it is very important to work on loving yourself to not only be a better you for you, but also for your family, friends, and future significant other. And that's one of the best reasons to take a break from dating.
2. You Are Judgement-Free
No more feeling guilty for eating that whole box of pizza by yourself or feeling obligated to save him the last slice. You can walk around in your undies, bloated as hell and not feel an ounce of guilt or embarrassment. You can binge watch an entire series...or two and no one can can anything about it. Feeling anti-social? Stay home as much as you'd like (with the exception of work and/or school) without someone trying to force you to go out. You can wear whatever you like and look or act however you please.
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3. Flawless Skin
I know what you're thinking. How does being single help your skin? While I was on my dating hiatus, I began to wear less and less makeup, and not necessarily by choice, but because of the circumstances surrounding me. I was single, not working many hours, being sort of a homebody, so I wasn't getting out much either. There was no reason for me to wear any makeup. Turns out that this was the best thing that I could have done for my skin. Before my makeup-free days began, I would wear makeup all the time, no matter where I was going. This was mainly because I was insecure, but also because I wanted my boyfriend at the time to think I was without a single flaw, which made my skin go downhill. I started getting dark spots and hyper-pigmentation and my skin was severely dry. I would breakout constantly, which made me want to wear even more makeup because I would try to mask all of my imperfections. Once I rid myself of my ex-boyfriend, I began to see a drastic change in my skin. Now mind you, I've never had problematic skin. I just wore too much makeup, which negatively impacted my skin, but my skin began to glow, it was plump and firm, smooth, blemish-free, even toned, and most importantly breakout-free once I kicked him to the curb. I still wear makeup and I enjoy wearing makeup, I just wear much less than I did before. One of the things that changed about me is that I used to wear makeup to make me pretty, now I wear makeup to enhance what is already there.
4. You Are Liberated
No more feeling like you can't do something because your S.O. doesn't approve. For instance, posting a racy pic on Instagram, or going away for a girl's trip, and even taking that job opportunity in Seattle that you've always wanted, but worried it would destroy your relationship. You have the freedom to be completely and totally yourself or a new version of you, if you feel it's necessary. You'll feel liberated that you can wear whatever you want, say whatever you want and act however you want. You can go to a bar and get completely wasted with the girls or sit at home with a glass of wine and pizza and binge watch a TV series in peace and quiet.
5. You Are Stress Free
Having a significant other can be fun and fulfilling, but it can also be stressful and overwhelming. When you're in a relationship with someone, you have to constantly keep them in mind for most of the decisions you make. Your actions and words impact your partner and you constantly think or worry about your future together or if the two of you even have a future. Going on a dating hiatus can reduce your stress significantly. Plus, why would you want to go from one stressful situation to another? Take the time you need to de-stress whether it be days, months, or even years.
6. Reconnecting with Family and Friends
Being in a relationship can sometimes distance you from family and friends, not intentionally of course, but because sometimes you are so in love and enthralled with that person that all you want to do is be with them, and that can cause you to isolate yourself. Going on a dating hiatus allows you to reestablish the connection between your family and friends and rekindle those relationships.
7. Return to Your Workaholic Self
So you're a "workaholic" as your S.O. puts it. Does he complain that you spend too much time at work or work too much, period. Going on a dating hiatus frees you of the neediness and constant complaints. Whether you are a workaholic because you love your job or just have a lot of important work to do, feel free to work as much as you want, without fearing the repercussions.
8. Rebuild Your Relationship with Your Higher Power
If you're not much of a religious person this won't resonate with you as much as the ones who are. Often, we put our relationship with God on the back burner especially when your relationship is going well. You don't always feel the need to pray, go to church, or participate in any other spiritual activities. But once you are out of a relationship it's important to rebuild the connection you have with your higher power. When you have a relationship with God you feel invincible, you tend to worry less, and your faith is much stronger.
9. You Have Peace
There's a sense of calmness that comes with being on a dating hiatus. The world is already chaotic enough so to be able to have a clear mind and focus on yourself and the things or people you love most is extremely peaceful.
10. You Are Reinventing Yourself for the Better
This is the final and most important point of the article. The entire purpose of going on a dating hiatus is to reinvent yourself into a newer and improved you, to help you become the best version of yourself possible. This is not an article glamorizing being single or to make being in a relationship sound egregious but instead to encourage you to use the situation for your own good and learn something from it.
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