7 Ways to Support a Friend in an Abusive Relationship ...


Knowing how to support a friend in an abusive relationship is difficult.

We hate to see people we care about being treated badly, so it makes us feel helpless that we can't get them out of the situation.

Sadly, we can't dictate what other people do, we can only be there for them.

So here are some tips on how to support a friend in an abusive relationship …

1. Don't Judge Her

My first tip on how to support a friend in an abusive relationship is to avoid judging her for not getting out.

Most likely we think that in the same situation we would leave, but there may be many reasons why she hasn't done so.

Even if she is aware of the abusive nature of her relationship, she may not be ready to pack her bags and leave.

It's a very big step, and one that she must take only when the time is right.

2. Open Door

Being a supportive friend is all about being there for her when she needs you.

Really close friends know that you have their back no matter what.

In the case of an abusive relationship, it's best not to constantly go on at her about leaving.

Instead, just let her know that if she needs a space to go to, she can count on you.

3. Avoid Criticising Him

You may be all too keen to confront this man about the way he treats your friend, but resist getting into a fight with him.

Rightly or wrongly, your friend loves this guy, and if you have a confrontation with him she will probably take his side.

Avoid criticising him as well.

It will probably have the opposite effect from what you want, and make her defend him.2

4. Honest but Tactful

If your friend asks your advice, be honest, but try to phrase your opinion as tactfully as possible.2

People don't always want to hear the truth, even if they ask for it.

So say that you're worried about her, but don't say that he's the biggest jerk you've met in your entire life.

Again, that may actually cause her to defend him.

Offer Her Opportunities to Confide in You
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