You should take the time to think before you have sex for the first time. You don't want to end up regretting your decision. To avoid making a major mistake, here are a few questions you should ask yourself before you go through with losing your virginity:
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1. Can You Talk about Sex without Cringing?
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If you can't have a conversation about it, then you shouldn't be doing it.
2. Have You Found a Man You’re Comfortable with?
This is important. Even if you're ready to have sex, you shouldn't pick any random partner to sleep with. You need someone you trust.
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3. Do You Have a Private Place to do It?
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If your parents are always home and won't let you keep the door to your room closed, you won't have enough privacy for sex.
4. Do You Know All about Birth Control?
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You should know about all of the different forms of protection and figure out which one is best for you before you sleep with someone.
5. Do You Know about STDs?
You need to realize that STDs can be spread through oral, and by touching, even if there isn't any penetration involved. You should also know how to prevent STDs, because you don't want to end up with one.
6. Are You on the Pill?
Ask your doctor if the pill is right for you. Your best bet is to take it while using condoms. Two forms of protection is better than one.
7. Do You Know How to Make Yourself Orgasm?
You can't expect a man to make your orgasm until you learn how to do it yourself. Masturbation should come way before intercourse.
8. Is Anyone Pressuring You?
Don't let your boyfriend, friends, or society pressure you into having sex before you're ready. Wait as long as you'd like.
9. How Old Are You?
If you're closer to single digits than to your 20s, you should probably wait until you're a little older.
10. Do You Care if He Leaves You after?
Some men will use you for sex. If you find out that your boyfriend doesn't want you anymore after you sleep with him, would you be able to handle it?
11. Do You Think You’re Responsible Enough for a Child?
There's always a chance you'll get pregnant. You shouldn't have sex unless you think you can handle a newborn baby.
12. Are You Nervous?
If the thought of having sex gives you major anxiety, wait a while longer. You shouldn't do it until you're 100% comfortable with the idea.
13. Have You Kissed Someone Yet?
You need to crawl before you can walk, and you need to kiss before you can have sex. Take things one step at a time.
14. Is It against Your Beliefs?
Don't be embarrassed about waiting until marriage to have sex. Everyone has different beliefs. You don't have to give up yours to fit in.
15. Do You Know What It Entails?
If you don't even know how sex works, then you should wait a while before trying it yourself.
16. Will You Regret Sleeping with Him?
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If you already know that you'll regret sleeping with him, then don't sleep with him. It's as simple as that.
17. Is It Something You Really Want?
You should only have sex if it's what you genuinely want. Do it for you, not for anyone else.
Answer all of these questions before you have sex for the first time. Is there anything else you'd add to the list?
Comments
dolapo: Number 11 is dumb because there's options that you have if you do get pregnant. Abortion for example and also virginity is a social construct designed to make women feel impure if they aren't having sex with their husband or something
RwandaN: Well I do not want kids, so I'm indifferent to #11, however as mentioned in this article, two forms of protection is better than one.
Kira: Virginity is social construct made to make women appear as damaged if they have ever had sex. As long as you educate yourself on different types of protection and your various options if indeed you do become pregnant, then you should be properly prepared. Just make sure you give clear consent of you are emotionally ready to have sex, and that goes for anytime you're with someone.
Chiggy: I agree with'em all !!!
Sabrina: I agree but ppl don't always wanna get pregnant that's why they use protection
bebe: Thanks a lot for this article!
peony: @kira Hanna Keppel you hit it on the nail! You couldn't have put it any better
Sophie: Wish I read this beforehand
Adoracion: a lot :)
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