How to Be a Good Girlfriend Even during the Rough Patches ...

By Alison • May 29, 2015

It's easy to forget that the path of true love never runs smoothly. Even the best relationships hit rough patches! And when we're cross with our partner we distance ourselves, or act like they're ruining the relationship. But if we accept that there are difficult times between couples, we are showing maturity and being a good partner. Here's how to be a good girlfriend, even during the rough patches …

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1. Accept His Flaws

When things are a little tricky between you and your boyfriend, it's easy to focus on his flaws and get even more cross with him. But his flaws are part of him, and nobody's perfect. It's far more realistic to accept him as he is, rather than wishing he was something he's not.

2. Support His Decisions

Supporting his decisions is one way of being a good partner, even if you don't always agree with them. You do have a right to be concerned how his choices will affect you, but equally he has the right to make those choices. Maturity means supporting what our loved ones do, even if we don't always understand or agree with them.

3. Be There when He Needs to Talk

Men have a reputation for never wanting to talk about their feelings, but that's not always true. If he needs to talk, be there for him. If you're having problems, talk about them as adults; don't distance yourself or flounce off in anger. Mature people discuss their issues. And try to 'read' him, so that you can tell when he needs some gentle encouragement to talk.

4. Wait It out

Every relationship has its rough patches. There isn't one single couple in the history on mankind that's never had an argument! So sometimes the best thing you can do for your partner and your relationship is wait it out. Don't assume at the first sign of trouble that your relationship is doomed! See it as something that's perfectly normal - you have to take the rough with the smooth.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Remember That It's Not All about You

We can be rather selfish in relationships and see ourselves as the priority. But remember that it's not all about you. His feelings and thoughts count as well. Sometimes it's only fair to let him follow his own path, so if you're getting cross with him because he wants to do something you're not happy with remind yourself that there are two people in the relationship.

6. Work at It

The best relationships are between people who are willing to stick it out and work at it. It can't be all romance and flowers, and we need the tougher times so that we can appreciate the better times. Be a good girlfriend by putting the effort into the relationship.

7. Give Him Space

Finally, as well as being there when he needs to talk, you should also know when it's better to give him some space. As much fun as being in a relationship can be, it can also be intense and sometimes a bit stifling. Know when he needs to be by himself, and don't push him to always put you first.

Being a good girlfriend doesn't mean being a doormat, but rather being accepting and considerate of his feelings and needs. Do this, and your relationship will be stronger. What do you think are the three most important aspects of a relationship?

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  • She

    2015-05-31T17:11:36.398Z

    Dana, glad I'm not the only one
  • Akki

    2015-05-30T16:26:31.808Z

    I need an advice over on thing. My boyfriend and I were in a proud relationship but because of few disagreements we chose to be on a break. It has been a month and we haven't talked to each other. Whenever I see him, I just try to ignore him and walk away. I don't even know about his reactions. For his birthday gift, I wrote a novel on him and accidentally this surprise got leaked but still I really wish him to read this novel. I'm even eager to get it printed. But I seriously can't afford to loose him, so should I gift this novel to him or not?
  • Allana

    2015-05-30T14:18:08.825Z

    This exactly what I have been trying to explain.... To a friend of mine.
  • Ramen

    2015-05-30T04:38:42.007Z

    This stuff should equally apply to a how a boyfriend should make same effort. It makes it sound like females are always working their hardest to make sure her man is A okay at all times and nothing is bothering him. Feels like men are wanting to be treated like princesses these days. SMH . Guys should put the same effort in during rough times equally . Not saying that they don't.
  • Kaitleen

    2016-12-12T06:52:11.299Z

    @Shaila We all need a man who is more then happy with us and shows us off to the world and makes us there number 1.
  • Sandy

    2015-06-25T00:28:25.658Z

    2,5,6 the most important ones :) Thanks
  • Claire

    2015-05-30T03:46:47.877Z

    Having a 'finance' who, when he does go out, stays out until 5-6am. I can't deal with a relationship like this. It's driving me nuts. He thinks he isn't doing any harm but he couldn't give a shit how it's effecting me.
  • Shaila

    2016-11-09T04:10:52.443Z

    When my boyfriend asked me If theres a problem I pretend like everything is ok until one day he knew everything and he was so shocked about it and told me "i dont know if I can still trust you"..
  • Dana

    2015-05-30T16:10:47.706Z

    Yep, I'm with you She Loves Love.
  • She

    2015-05-31T17:09:35.431Z

    Aubrey lol
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