Have you ever had a day where you've put a lot of time and effort into trying to feel sexy (think: bangin' brows, seriously sharp eyeliner wings, and soft, kissable lips)—but it still falls flat? Feeling sexy, confident, and desirable can be hard work! And it doesn't always take place in the bedroom, either.
Whether you buy a new shade of lipstick, show off some cleavage, or simply wear something you feel comfortable in, there are plenty of different ways to make yourself feel sexy and confident. If you're looking for some new ways to feel sexy as hell in bed, try out these 8 suggestions tonight.
Feeling sexy in bed doesn't always start there. Sometimes, it starts at the beginning of your day and involves doing something that makes you feel confident and fierce. It could be anything—from wearing your favorite T-shirt to your favorite pair of heels. If you start your day off looking and feeling good, you're much more likely to end it that way, too.
While your plain nude bra and comfy, cotton panties may be your everyday essentials, there's nothing quite like treating yourself to something fancy every now and then. If you want to feel like a sexy siren, try something in a bold red hue or a super sexy corset that accentuates your shape. If simplicity's more your thing, you can never go wrong with a little bit of classic black lace. And remember—you don't have to go all out if you don't want to, but don't be afraid to try something a little racier than usual.
We've all been in dressing rooms before—and we all know that no one looks good under harsh fluorescent lighting. If you want to feel sexy as hell, turning the lights in the bedroom down can certainly help you get there. Set the mood with some dim lighting and scented candles. If you want to take your lighting game up a notch, try investing in a color-changing lightbulb turning out all of the other lights in the room, and putting it on a fun, exciting color like pink or red.
Music can really amplify the mood—and it doesn't always have to be something slow and sensual like "Let's Get It On" by Marvin Gaye. Find something that gets you in the mood and turn it up. Loud. When you're focused on the beat, you won't be worrying about your nerves, which can help you to feel more confident in bed. And varying the genre and artist depending on your (and your partner's!) moods can make things even more fun.
Essential oil, massage oil, body oil, what have you. Rub some on yourself, rub it on your partner, or ask them to rub it on you. It's inexpensive, fun, and practically guarantees that you'll feel sexy as hell. Who doesn't want to feel like a swimsuit model?!
Using oils not only moisturizes your skin, making it silky smooth to the touch, but the act itself can be incredibly sensual. Certain essential oils come with the added bonus of having aphrodisiac properties—think jasmine or ylang-ylang—to really ignite the flames of desire. Plus, the scents can be seriously intoxicating, setting a luxurious mood. Just remember to do a patch test to ensure you don’t have an allergic reaction, and be cautious with oils if you're using latex condoms, as some oils can degrade the latex. Now go ahead, indulge in the sensory delight!
It's a lot more difficult to enjoy yourself in bed when you're feeling stressed out or worried. Take some time for yourself just to relax every once in a while. Whether you choose to have a glass of wine with dinner, go for a run, or do something else, having some time just for your is essential. Trust us—your libido will thank you!
Relaxation is key for feeling sexy in bed. Taking time for yourself to relax can help reduce stress and anxiety, allowing you to feel more confident and sexy. There are many ways to relax, such as taking a hot bath, meditating, listening to calming music, or even going for a walk. Taking time for yourself can also help you to reconnect with your own body and feelings, which can be important for feeling sexy. Taking the time to relax can help you to feel more connected to your partner and more in tune with your own desires, allowing you to have a more enjoyable and intimate experience in bed.
What GGG* partner doesn't enjoy taking some initiative and getting things started every now and then? Of course, you don't have to initiate every single time, but doing so once in a while and knowing that you're the sole reason your partner is moaning from pleasure can be incredibly hot. And—it can make you feel incredibly sexy. Look at all the power you have. You go, girl! Drive them wild!
Taking initiative in the bedroom can be an incredibly empowering experience. It involves taking control of the situation and leading the way to pleasure. When you take the initiative, you can make sure that your partner is getting the best experience possible. It can also make you feel incredibly sexy, as you are the one in charge of the pleasure. Taking initiative can involve anything from initiating foreplay to choosing the positions you want to try. Ultimately, it is a great way to make sure you and your partner are both getting the satisfaction you desire.
Nothing can take you out of the heat of the moment like worrying about how your body looks in a specific position or what your partner thinks of the tiny scar on your stomach. It may be cliché, but as they say, comparison truly is the thief of joy. If you're feeling down, admire yourself in the mirror. There's more about you to love than you even realize—you just have to take the time to see it.
* Resource - psychologytoday.com