Have you ever had a day where you've put a lot of time and effort into trying to feel sexy (think: bangin' brows, seriously sharp eyeliner wings, and soft, kissable lips)—but it still falls flat? Feeling sexy, confident, and desirable can be hard work! And it doesn't always take place in the bedroom, either.
Whether you buy a new shade of lipstick, show off some cleavage, or simply wear something you feel comfortable in, there are plenty of different ways to make yourself feel sexy and confident. If you're looking for some new ways to feel sexy as hell in bed, try out these 8 suggestions tonight.
1. Wear Something That You Feel Confident in
Feeling sexy in bed doesn't always start there. Sometimes, it starts at the beginning of your day and involves doing something that makes you feel confident and fierce. It could be anything—from wearing your favorite T-shirt to your favorite pair of heels. If you start your day off looking and feeling good, you're much more likely to end it that way, too.
2. Splurge on Some Fancy Lingerie
While your plain nude bra and comfy, cotton panties may be your everyday essentials, there's nothing quite like treating yourself to something fancy every now and then. If you want to feel like a sexy siren, try something in a bold red hue or a super sexy corset that accentuates your shape. If simplicity's more your thing, you can never go wrong with a little bit of classic black lace. And remember—you don't have to go all out if you don't want to, but don't be afraid to try something a little racier than usual.
3. Turn the Lights down
We've all been in dressing rooms before—and we all know that no one looks good under harsh fluorescent lighting. If you want to feel sexy as hell, turning the lights in the bedroom down can certainly help you get there. Set the mood with some dim lighting and scented candles. If you want to take your lighting game up a notch, try investing in a color-changing lightbulb turning out all of the other lights in the room, and putting it on a fun, exciting color like pink or red.
4. Turn up the Music
Music can really amplify the mood—and it doesn't always have to be something slow and sensual like "Let's Get It On" by Marvin Gaye. Find something that gets you in the mood and turn it up. Loud. When you're focused on the beat, you won't be worrying about your nerves, which can help you to feel more confident in bed. And varying the genre and artist depending on your (and your partner's!) moods can make things even more fun.
5. Rub on Some Oil
Essential oil, massage oil, body oil, what have you. Rub some on yourself, rub it on your partner, or ask them to rub it on you. It's inexpensive, fun, and practically guarantees that you'll feel sexy as hell. Who doesn't want to feel like a swimsuit model?!
6. Take Some Time to Relax
It's a lot more difficult to enjoy yourself in bed when you're feeling stressed out or worried. Take some time for yourself just to relax every once in a while. Whether you choose to have a glass of wine with dinner, go for a run, or do something else, having some time just for your is essential. Trust us—your libido will thank you!
7. Take Some Initiative
What GGG* partner doesn't enjoy taking some initiative and getting things started every now and then? Of course, you don't have to initiate every single time, but doing so once in a while and knowing that you're the sole reason your partner is moaning from pleasure can be incredibly hot. And—it can make you feel incredibly sexy. Look at all the power you have. You go, girl! Drive them wild!
8. Don't Worry about Anyone else but Yourself
Nothing can take you out of the heat of the moment like worrying about how your body looks in a specific position or what your partner thinks of the tiny scar on your stomach. It may be cliché, but as they say, comparison truly is the thief of joy. If you're feeling down, admire yourself in the mirror. There's more about you to love than you even realize—you just have to take the time to see it.
* Resource - psychologytoday.com