First dates are fun and exciting! There’s the newness of a fresh relationship and so many possibilities about what could be. But you want to be careful of what you talk about on a first date. There’re some subjects that you’re better off not discussing until you’re in a committed relationship. Keep it light and casual by avoiding these 7 subjects on a first date.
1 Your Ex
You may have an ex to top all over exes. And no doubt you have some stories to tell about him and the crazy relationship you had. Your first date with a new guy is not the time to do that. If you end up in a committed relationship from this first date then you might consider sharing some things about your ex if you feel it’s appropriate. Until then, focus on getting to know about each other.
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2 Your Sexual History
This’s something you’ll probably want to share at some point. But it’s not a topic for first date conversation. Wait until the subject comes up between you. At that point, it’s natural to share about your sexual history. You’re more open-minded after you’ve gotten to know one another which can be helpful when discussing topics like this one.
3 Your Bad Habits
Ladies, keep this one mum. Now and forevermore! We all have bad habits and that’s just part of being human. But the guy in your life will discover them soon enough without you telling him. No need to ‘fess up to the fact that you bite your nails, are a tad messy or whatever other bad habits you may have.
4 Politics
You do want to know about the political views of someone you’re going to be in a relationship with, especially if politics are important to you. But first dates aren’t always the best time for that conversation. First dates should be fun and friendly, not deep and emotionally charged. The only sparks you want to see fly are the ones from the chemistry between you! 💫 Wait until you know you’re headed into something a little more serious before you worry about this topic.
5 Problems with Friends or Family
You rarely go through life without experiencing at least a few problems with friends or family members. It’s frustrating and upsetting when that happens. And you do need someone to talk to about it. But your first time date is not the person for that job! You need to at least be headed into a serious relationship before you start spilling the dirt on people in your life.
6 Financial Problems
Rare is the person who never faces a financial problem. But it’s still not a good topic for a first date. You don’t really want to talk about your credit card debt or the fact that you’re late on your car payment, do you? It doesn’t make for fun conversation. Focus on the handsome guy you’re out with and all the fun you’re having right now. Financial problems should be talked about when the relationship becomes serious and definitely before you combine finances.
7 How Many Kids You Want
Of course this’s a serious topic that you want to discuss with the man you’re going to have a future with. But you don’t know if the guy you’re going on a first date with is going to be the man you have a future with. Until you do know, stay away from topics that belong in a committed relationship. This topic is well-known for being one that scares guys off if approached too early in a relationship and you don’t want that!
8 YoursElf
Sure, it's important to talk about yourself on a first date so the person gets to know you--TO A POINT! No one wants to sit and listen to your life story on date #1 so hold off on monopolizing the convo until later on. Show some interest in them.
9 Sex in General
Yes, I've listed sexual history, however, sex in general is pretty tacky conversation for first dates. Don't talk about your favorite position, your sexual fantasies, anything along those lines is just off limits!
10 Your Strengths and Weaknesses
Overtalking your strengths makes you seem cocky and full of yourself so don't do that. You also probably shouldn't list your weaknesses because then they will see you as weak or worse, use your weaknesses against you later on.
I hope this helps you to have a great time together on your first date. What do you usually talk about when you’re on a first date? I’d love to hear from you!
