We love to glorify the olden days, but they weren't as great as we like to think they are. After all, in the past, women weren't treated as equals. Why would you want to go back to that way of thinking? Instead of talking about the old fashioned dating habits that we should resurrect, here are a few old fashioned dating habits we should keep in the past:
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1. The Man Always Pays
It's nice to order a fancy dinner without the responsibility of paying. However, do you really want a man to take care of you financially? If you have the money to pay for your own dinner, then you should at least go dutch and split the bill. That way, he'll realize that you're capable of taking care of yourself. Then he'll understand that you don't need him around. You just keep him around, because you like him.
2. You Should Have Sex after Three Dates
There's a silly old rule that says a couple should have sex on the third date. However, that's a ridiculous concept. If you want to wait a year, then you should wait a year. If you're so attracted to him that you want to sleep with him on the first date, then do so. Whatever makes you happy.
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3. The Man Should Make the First Move
If you like a guy, you shouldn't wait around for him to ask you out. Move things along by walking up to him and asking him out yourself. Some guys are shy, which means they might never take the initiative. It's better for you to do the dirty work than for you to wonder what could've been.
4. Men Should Make the Date Plans
If you have an opinion, don't be afraid to share it. That means you're allowed to tell your partner where you want to go on your date. You don't have to give him all of the responsibility. If you have a fun idea, then tell him. He'll be relieved.
5. Play Hard to Get
If a guy you like asks you out, you don't have to pretend your schedule is too busy to fit in a date with him. Just accept his offer and have a blast! Why would you pretend that you're not interested, even though he's already show interest in you? It's silly. Just be honest with him from the start.
6. Don't Involve Technology
Some people miss the days when technology didn't exist. However, it's actually super helpful when it comes to relationships. Phones and laptops can help you connect with your partner, even when you're miles away. It'll make you two feel closer than ever.
7. The Woman Should Order a Salad
There's no reason to pretend that you don't eat. Your partner knows that you need food to survive. So if you hate salads, don't order them at a restaurant. No decent man would mind if you ordered a hamburger in front of him. In fact, he'll probably be relieved that your stomach won't be growling the whole night.
8. Chaperones
Chaperones accompanied women on every single date during the Victorian Era, which seems really silly now. If anything, you can go on a double date to ease the tension if you're meeting for the first time and nervous, but the idea of someone chaperoning you is so outdated.
9. Dressing up on the First Date
If this relationship ends up working out, he will see you at your worst and will love you just the same. Not to say you shouldn't put effort into your appearance on the first date, but an elegant and expensive outfit and accessories aren't necessary.
10. He Picks You up at Your Home
In the age of technology, most people have no idea who they are meeting. If you met online, it's safest to meet in a public place, so driving separately is the smart thing to do. And, if the date isn't going as you thought it would be, it'll be easier for you to escape!
It's time to stop wishing we lived in the olden days and appreciate the fact that we live in the modern world. What other old fashion dating habits would you like to see die?
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alka: Zina you sound foolish...
Zina: Being treated*
Tayliscious: So a lot of these I don't agree with, some things are better to be preserved then die out it when it comes to dating and chilvary...
Kris: If you're on a date, you'd damned well better put down your technology. People who are present deserve the attention of the people they date. If you're waiting for an extremely important phone call, inform your date, leave your phone on vibrate, take the call private
Melissa: Technology yes on dates should be put away. Back in the day I remember going out with my 1st bf, and we both had pagers...lol...(yes I'm a lol older than you young girls! :) ) and I loved how we just talked and talked for hours. We really got to know each other, and didn't show anybody things on Instagram or Facebook, and other social media. We could go out for coffee and talk all day. Now I go into coffee shops and see everyone with their cell phones out! Ppl sitting together but no one is talking to anybody! What's with that?
Taylor: @zina that worked for you and that's greats but doesn't work for everyone. If you don't want to conform to the binary that marriage is I guess you wouldn't have sex. I dated my partner for 7-8 ish years before we tied the knot (why do I need a ring to show were committed?) and having sex at the 1 year were together or the 8th year wouldn't have changed anything. Depends on the person, people are different (; *finishes popcorn*
Taylor: Opened comments expecting a storm and I got a storm lol *eats popcorn*
Ayra: @zina curtean both my husband and I made that decision too and it certainly was the best decision ever we both made.
Zina: Sex after marriage is the one of the best decisions I've made in my life. My husband is sooooo thankful that I kept myself for him. Girls, that is so worth it. He followed all the old fashioned rules and this is GREAT. I love beating treated as a LADY. I respect and will respect him further for this. I would better called them "Golden Rules" not old fashioned.
Fjdjsjd: Why would I have sex with them only after one date just because I'm attracted to them? Why should I trust them that much after one what the fuck? Lol not to mention theyl think badly of me so I rather wait
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