9 Reasons Being Single in Your Twenties Really Isn't so Bad ...


I wouldn’t admit to this unless I was comfortable with it, but I’ve been single by choice for the last 10 years of my life and have learned that being single in your 20s really isn’t so bad. I don’t hate men and I do hope to have a relationship sometime soon, or later in my life, but I needed some time to get to know myself before I asked someone else to get to know me too. I grew up insecure, and unable to feel confident unless I had a boyfriend. At age 18, I lost a boyfriend due to a bad breakup, and after that, decided to take a step back and evaluate some things. What I learned was that being single in your 20s can have its ups and its downs, but overall, it really isn’t so bad. Now, I don’t have any advice for those of you in your 30s and I’m hoping I won’t be writing this article 10 again years later!

1. You Can Get to Know Yourself

As I said, one of the best things about being single in your 20s is you can get to know yourself. Sure, you know your name, height, age and what town you grew up in. That's not truly getting to know yourself though. Learning who you are is learning what you love to enjoy without the influence of anyone else, what your beliefs are outside of anyone else’s opinion, and learning what you want to do with your life, outside of anyone else’s persuasion or effect on that. I don’t think I’d ever spent true alone time before my early 20s where I enjoyed just doing things alone. I couldn’t even go to the store before that without having someone with me. Not even your friends can tell you who you really are. Being single in your 20s allows you to discover who you really are as a person and I wouldn’t trade that for anything.

It Gives You Freedom


Julia Ramos
Thank you for this article. :)
Dai Dai Williams
Ill be 20 next month and I had a bad break up at 18 too !
@zlati ...yikes!!..that's 2 kids in their 20's...not 20 kids !!
@LadyDidi ..agree a million percent...!!
This is an excellent article I wish I had read many years ago...I was married in my 30's, but spent way too many years in my 20's going from one bad relationship to the next..what a waste of time and ...
I was in a toxic relationship also. I'm in my twenties and I'm single so I'm glad this reminds me it's okay bc all my friends are married and I'm not lol 😋
Tia Coss
I love this article I just turned 26 and while at the beach realized I was the only single one and felt a bit lonely. This is a good reminder why and that its ok. I was in a very long toxic abusive re...
Up to 30s I do not recommend getting married at all. I see everybody around me who got married and all those kids... I do not know what to say. Okey feeling secure, having a family is nice but there i...
I got married at 24. I'm 26 now and it's ending. Although the reasons are much bigger than this, I think if I had stayed single for the rest of my 20s and learned the things you wrote about I would have been a lot better off.
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