There are some great aspects to being single but no one can deny that there are certain things about it that are not fun! Despite how many times people try to tell you that it's fine, when you're single all you can think is, "what happened?" Here's 7 insights into why dating sucks but being single sucks even more.
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1. You Feel Left out
Being single sucks because...when all your friends in relationships are on group dates you know you aren't going to be invited, and if you are, you know it's out of pity. Also, even when it's not a group date but you know everyone is going to be with their SO, you decide not to go because you feel like you are 'third wheeling it.' Girls nights even just become them texting their special someone and you're left out in the cold.
2. The PITY
I hate when people pity me, just like others hate when their Aunt Martha squeezes their cheeks. It feels demeaning and also brings your single status back to your mind. Being single seems like nothing but pity-especially the older you get.
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3. Blind Dates/Being Set up
Being single sucks more than **dating sucks **because most people have friends that try to either send you off to a blind date or whisper, "Hey if you think he's cute I'll get his number for you." First of all if I think someone's cute I will gladly talk to him on my own. Secondly, I would prefer to choose my future BF on my own.
4. My Family
I don't know about your family, but in my family, once you reach a certain age they start to wonder if you're going to be an 'old maid.' Once they start thinking that they freak out and go back to #3...... This leaves you in the awkward position of either owning up to being single or suffering through crappy dates to bring someone with so family shuts up. Either way, single or dating sucks.
5. "I Wish I Was Single."
I hate that phrase.... I hate it. First of all if you wish you were single then why are you dating someone?! Secondly, don't bash on you own relationship just to make someone feel better because most likely it is just going to p*** them off. These people show that dating sucks just as much as being single sucks.
6. The Questions
"How are you still single?" "But, you are soooooo pretty." "Wow those guys are SUCH fools." Stop. It is not comforting. If anything it makes single girls feel worse because looks can be changed, but what's on the inside is harder to fix.
7. Being Single is a Choice
Whether you choose to be single or whether you were kind of pushed into it, being single is your own CHOICE. Don't let people make you feel guilty or lesser than them just because you are single. It would be like making someone feel bad for being in a relationship.
I hope this is helpful. To the people who are in a relationship, to the people single by choice, to the single ladies out there who needed someone to understand how THEY feel for a change. I know being single sucks and I know dating sucks but we all need to raise a glass to all our single and relationship laden ladies out there! It's about supporting each other, not tearing one another down.
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Ranjini: When you yourself say being single is a choice, how can you say it sucks? Being single means a lot of freedom and time for yourself. Also it is not like somebody who is single is going to be so forever. And being single is way better than being in a relationship just because everybody around you are in relationships!
Wendy: Being single doesn't suck
Miranda: I embrace being a modern women and being able to be on and off with relationships is part of that. I love being single at times of my life and love being in the right relationship at other times of my life. Society has a problem when they can't put a label on a type of relationship, which in turn as a single person can make you feel ostracised at times. I feel humble that we as modern women can choose how to live our lives,have a career, have children out of wedlock, have different relationships, without being vindicated by some archaic religion or law.
Rolita12: and how is this kind of articles helpful? I'm single by my own choice, the freedom to do whatever I please is priceless... there are benefits to being in a relationship but you shouldn't need a person to make you happy.
Imoon: Loved it because it's true
Sawyer: Being single certainly doesn't "suck." It's difficult, sometimes, but it's not the end of the world.
Assert: Lmaoooo k seriously? Please don't write anymore
Natach: I love being single:)
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