You may be a single woman nearing 30, but whether that's your choice or not, there ARE good reasons to stay single throughout your 20s. I'm 25 myself, and I've already felt the pressures of finding a husband and starting a family. However, I realized a few positives that have helped me during this time of stalemate. So, here is a list outlining the top seven reasons to stay single and free until 30 - if that's the path you're headed on.
1. Freedom to do What You Want
One of the primary reasons to stay single until 30 is to give yourself a chance to enjoy personal freedom and independence. You can come and go as you choose and make personal decisions as you please. When it pertains to dating, you're practically free to go out and have as much fun as you want without feeling restricted by someone else. Plus, it allows you to get to know different people without someone controlling your social life. Dating experiences obtained over the years may one day help you construct a list of what you expect from a relationship or a future lover, making it easier to someday find just what your heart desires.
2. No Responsibility Other than Your Own
This section is definitely meant for those who aren't too fond of taking on any responsibilities other than their own. For starters, you won't have to worry about cooking, cleaning, and running errands for a significant other. Secondly, when you're childless, you won't have to carry the responsibility of being a parent. However, the freedom of taking care of someone else won't completely eliminate the opportunity to learn what it means to be responsible, reliable, and dependable. In fact, you can learn similar responsibilities by volunteering in the community, caring for family members, or taking on leadership roles at work. For right now, just enjoy every moment of being accountable for you and only you!
3. Personal Space
Ahh, the luxury of waking up to serenity! As a single and free woman, most of the time you will wake up or come home to an empty house (that's if you don't have company… if you catch my drift). But, for the most part you will have your own bed to stretch out on, your own fridge to pig-out on, and your own TV to flip through without worrying about someone else's interests. Basically, the only person who will have access to your world is you, unless you invite someone into it.
4. Peace of Mind
You will be free of the typical hurdles that come with relationships, giving you peace of mind. Now, I'm not saying that all relationships are just consumed with issues, but there is the good and THE BAD in any type of relationship. Being in a relationship with someone can take a toll on a person, especially if you're the type of person who puts all your energy into making something work. There may be disagreements as far as family values, living conditions, or finances. However, the single life will give you peace in knowing that the only person that could cause complications for you right now at this time in your life is YOU.
5. Concentrate on Career and Goals
All the points stated before ultimately will give you room to focus more on your own personal ambitions, interests, and career goals. You could possibly lose yourself being wrapped up in your significant other and their dreams. On the other hand, a relationship can interfere with your career pursuits. When you're single and in your 20s, you can enroll in college and pursue your career without worrying about limitations set by relationships. It is very possible to have someone who aids in pursuing your dreams, but sometimes it's ideal to know how to take this journey alone.
6. Build a Relationship with Yourself
Staying single and free until 30 gives you time to become acquainted with yourself. Like the saying goes: you can't love someone else without loving yourself first. Therefore, you can take this time to learn whom you are inside and out. Maybe you have questions about your purpose in life or what makes you who you are. This is the perfect time to figure those things out. I typically like to look at the 20s as a time for struggle, confusion, and growth. Sometimes relationships and raising a family can distract you from analyzing who you are as a person, so now is the time to put the puzzle together.
7. No Regrets, No Identity Crisis
I had a lot of older people tell me that I should patiently wait for marriage and children. I always wonder why this is so, but then I found out that this can help you avoid a pre-30 or midlife crisis. Pursue everything for yourself NOW while you have nothing standing in your way. You're never too old to pursue your dreams, but at the same time you don't want to have any regrets later on in life once you reflect back on every opportunity you let pass by. Not all women will experience this, but at some point it's very possible -especially if you've never taken time out to nurture your own interests in life.
I'll leave you with this quote by Kyoko Escamilla "Your 20's are your ‘selfish' years. It's a decade to immerse yourself in every single thing possible. Be selfish with your time, and all the aspects of you. Tinker with shit, travel, explore, love a lot, love a little, and never touch the ground." What are some other reasons to stay single and free until 30? In what ways do you not agree with this advice?