No matter how much you love your partner, there are temptations that ruin relationships. We’re all human, so we all have desires that can lead to destruction. There’s nothing wrong with those feelings, as long as you don’t act on them. Here are some of the most common temptations that ruin relationships:
Snapshot Survey
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Please subscribe for your personalized newsletter:
1. Desire to Cheat
The most obvious of all of the temptations that ruin relationships are crushes. If you’re in a long lasting relationship, but meet another cutie, things can become complicated. You’re always going to be tempted by other men or women. The only way to keep the relationship going is by refusing to give into that temptation. What’s more important: remaining faithful to your loved one or partaking in some temporary fun?
2. Constant Lies
When you know you did something that your partner wouldn’t approve of, it’s tempting to lie to them about it. Although it may make things easier in the moment, your fibs will haunt you in the long run. If you really love one another, you should feel free to tell the truth. You don’t want your relationship to be based on lies. How can you trust one another if you’re always tossing lies back and forth?
Frequently asked questions
3. No Alone Time
The grass is always greener on the other side. When you’re in a relationship, you may get jealous of all of the free time that your single friends have. However, don’t let the temptation of alone time cause you to break up with your partner. You can still have time to yourself while being in a relationship. You just have to rearrange your schedule, so that everyone’s happy.
4. Uncalled for Fights
When you’re in a bad mood, all you want to do is yell. However, you can’t take it all out on your partner. If you scream at them simply because you want to let out your emotion, they could get hurt. You don’t want to risk upsetting them, do you? If you’re tempted to vent, scream into a pillow. Don’t blame your loved ones for issues that they didn’t cause.
5. Starting to Steal
If you’re super close, then you might be tempted to steal your partner’s cash or clothes without asking. While some couples are okay with this ‘yours is mine’ mentality, others aren’t as comfortable. Make sure that your partner knows what you take, and how much you take. Never 'borrow’ from them without their permission.
6. Taking Advantage
Even if you can walk all over your partner, don’t do so. If they make you breakfast each morning and wash your clothes for you, let them know that their hard work is appreciated. Don’t take their friendliness for granted. Treat them with respect, even if they’ll stick around no matter how you act.
7. Reducing Your Effort
Once you’ve been together for long enough, you’ll feel ‘too’ comfortable. That comfort is a good thing, but it can become dangerous. You don’t want the temptation of sitting around, doing nothing all day to become a habit. You still need to put effort into the relationship if you want it to last.
As long as you don't act on your dangerous desires, your relationship should stay strong. Which one of these temptations is the hardest for you to avoid succumbing to?
Comments
Yamuna: If only men and women follow this rules diligently the relationship will be peaceful and less separation in this world!
kissmebbylove: great advice! there should be an app like this for men for relationships. women aren't the only guilty ones!
Megan: Taking advantage. Sometimes I get really mad at the situation even though he did everything right.
Anoes: If you have the desire to cheat or if you steal from your boyfriend you don't love him.
Tina: I didn't want to lie to my ex but he was so jealous over my contact with men that sometimes I had no choice even though it was innocent. Jealousy is not a good trait in a person
:
Feedback Junction
Where Thoughts and Opinions Converge