Dating is a bit like trying to find an earring that you lost in the bottom of your handbag or the Amazon Jungle ~ same thing really. And as you get older, it well, it gets harder. A bit like being transported back into your school days when the teacher told you all to pair up and you were left standing in the middle of the room, partner-less. But the good news is that dating in your 30s is great, in fact, it is better, than that - it is excellent. Here are 5 ways to hooking up the ultimate date and how to find keepers everywhere.
1. Stay Away from Married Men
This one should just be a no brainer, but funnily enough, ahem, it’s the cardinal rule dating breaker that far too many women have admitted to breaking. Yes, okay, fair enough, he was single to start off with, and then out came the 2.5 kids, the soccer mom and the white picket fence. There is only one solution to this scenario – get up, walk out the door, close it behind you and never look back. He will never, ever, ever leave his wife. Don’t settle for being the second choice.
2. Look after Yourself
Before you all get your claws out at me this does not mean go on diet and start subscribing to the skinny thin celebs out there that seem to float by on a handful of organic peas a day. I am saying look after yourself, do regular exercise, stop smoking, lay off the booze. Entering your 30s means it’s time to clean up your act, find something more enjoyable to do than 12 tequila slammers every night and start working towards attracting the partner you want, unless he is in his 20’s and also likes to drink 12 tequila slammers every night, doesn’t have a job and likes to chill with his homies during the day. Sorry Honey, then you ARE on your own.
3. Listen to Your Inner Jungle Woman
If it sounds too good to be true, it is. It’s the ultimate survival rule when it comes to life and dating no matter how old you are. If your inner jungle woman is screaming at you – listen to her before you get tangled up in something that ends in tears – usually yours. You are in your 30s now, so the chances are some of these stories are going to start sounding familiar; don’t even waste your make up.
4. Get out There
Ladies, this does not mean get out there into the bars and clubs. Those slutwalk days of hip grinding with some sweaty stranger until 3 am are over; it’s time to swop nasty for classy. Join a local running club, art appreciation society, hiking group or language class. Put yourself in a position where you will be meeting like-minded individuals who have things going for them like a steady job, a steady frame of mind and whom are of sound pocket and heart. You are in your prime right now, this is not the time to muck about.
5. Say No to Sex
Just before you all want to beat me with your handbags, wait a minute. Say no to sex until you are ready and that is not after 4 frozen margaritas on your first date. It’s the 21st century, everything is about sex and it has become an expectation from both parties. But it shouldn’t be. Get to know your date a bit first. Making them wait a bit will also be a clue as to what kind of person they are, and when you eventually arrive there it will be a meeting of the minds as well as the bodies, so don’t rush it.