Getting married is a wonderful thing. Being married is special. There are dozens of reasons to get married. But, there are also some very good reasons why not to. Simply wanting to is not good enough. Here are some of the wrong reasons to get married:
1. Family Pressure
Top of the list of wrong reasons to get married is pressure from your family to finally settle down and begin the next chapter of your life. What parents and grandparents tend to forget is that times have changed significantly since their marriages and it is simply not a foregone conclusion that you have to marry your long-term partner anymore. The decision to get married should be one made by you and your partner alone; no external voices should be heard!
Do not agree to marry somebody just because you may feel like you are too old or too tired to feel like you deserve better. Many relationships go way over their use by date without a breakup happening. Before you commit to entering into the final chapter of your love life, consider the real reasons for your partnership. Are you madly in love or are you just settling?
3. Fear of Loneliness
For some people, the most important thing in life is to make sure that you are never alone, whether it be through family, friends or lovers. Accepting somebody's proposal simply for the fact that it may solve your problem with regards to permanent companionship is not fair on your or your intended. You are denying both them and yourself a chance at marriage for the right reasons - true love.
4. Cultural Obligation
Getting married simply because of cultural obligation and thinking it is the traditional thing to do is never a good idea. Whether these traditions are to do with religion or just a wider societal norm, over all of this you need to listen to your heart. Only enter in to marriage when you are 100% sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with a person.
5. You Want Children
There seems to be a disconnect that stems from past family values that states you must be in a marriage in order to have children. Culturally, this is no longer true and millions of unmarried, committed couples have children; nothing about having a marriage license changes that. Alternatively, if you are single and have financial security, there is nothing to stop you raising a child alone. Marriage does not equal the magic pass for motherhood!
6. Trying to Patch up a Relationship
You would be surprised by the amount of couples that think all of their relationship troubles will magically be solved by getting married. We all know that in reality, marriage will do nothing but amplify all and any problems that you may be experiencing on a regular basis. It's not like you are pressing the reset button and starting a whole new life together. All of your issues will just be brought in to your marriage and tensions will be higher than ever because either one of you could start feeling trapped on top of everything else.
7. Legal Loopholes
Marriage can often be the route that people go down to appease a number of varying legal issues in theirs or their partner's life. Whether it's to be able to stay in the country or for more complicated financial situations, these marriages of convenience very rarely end well. At the end of the day, true love and 100% commitment and willingness on both sides is the only environment for a successful marriage.
Let’s open up the floor for discussion. Who knows of other wrong reasons to get married? Do you feel you got married for the wrong reason?