7 Things Every Girl Absolutely Needs to Ask Herself before Losing Her Virginity ...

By Holly • Oct 25, 2017

Losing your virginity isn't going to change your entire life. However, you should still be careful about who you choose to do it with and when. You don't want to rush into a sexual relationship before you're ready for all that it entails. If you've been thinking about letting a certain boy pop your cherry, here are a few questions that you should ask yourself before you actually go through with losing your virginity:

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1. Are You Comfortable with Him?

If you feel awkward when you're out at dinner with a man, then you're going to feel even more awkward when you're naked in his bedroom. That's why you should wait until you find someone that makes you feel safe and secure. Sex is an intimate experience, which is why it's important for you to sleep with someone who makes you feel completely comfortable.

2. Are You Being Pressured?

You shouldn't sleep with someone, just because you feel like you're too old to be a virgin. Don't let society, your boyfriend, or your friends pressure you into having sex. You shouldn't do it to have a fun story to tell. You should do it because it's what you truly want.

3. Do You Feel like You're Mature Enough?

Everyone has a different opinion on how old you should be before you lose your virginity. That's why you should think about the situation in terms of maturity. If you're eighteen, but you and your boyfriend still behave like children, then you should hold off on having sex. However, if you think you're mature enough and responsible enough to handle a sex life, then you can go through with it.

4. Do You Know Enough about Sex?

Health class doesn't teach us all we need to know. That's why you should do some research on the male body, the female body, and protection. If you don't know about the success rate of condoms and the pill, then you should learn about them before you actually have sex.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Will You Regret It if He Leaves You Tomorrow?

Even the nicest boys have slept with a girl and then left her. That's why you should never have sex with someone with the hopes of turning them into your boyfriend. If the man you sleep with leaves you tomorrow, will you regret that you've had sex with him, or will you still think that you've made the right choice?

6. Do You Have a Secluded Place to do It?

This is more of a technical issue, but it's still important to consider. After all, you can't sleep with someone if you don't have a secluded place to do it. While losing your virginity inside of a car might sound sexy, it'll be pretty uncomfortable. You need a nice, relaxing place to do it your first time.

7. Is It Really What You Want?

This is the most important question that you can ask yourself. If you don't have much of an interest in sex, then there's no reason for you to do it. You might be asexual, you might be too young, or you might be waiting to find the right person. There's no reason to lose your virginity if you don't have your heart set on doing so.

Losing your virginity isn't the end of the world. However, you could end up regretting it if you do it with the wrong person, or do it before you're truly ready. That's why you should ask yourself these questions to see what the right decision is. Which one of these questions is the hardest to answer?

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  • Ritchie

    2015-09-19T02:49:56.961Z

    Trechx actually I have been both sides of the fence, where I had 4 partners at the same time, and often slept with 2 or 3 on the same day. Thats when I used to work the clubs as a barman, and I didnt care. Now Im the total opposite. Sex isnt a sport, I have turned my life around and would say to anybody that its worth the wait. Trust me.
  • Megalomania

    2015-09-19T04:20:09.581Z

    It's like what they say in the movie, "The Breakfast Club." If you do, you're a 'slut,' & if you don't you're a 'prude.' Respect your body and be comfortable with your decision whether or not to wait.
  • Taylor

    2015-09-18T15:22:04.657Z

    And there is the first aggressive comment. Why does it matter what other girls chose to do? Maybe some people just see it as human nature and some people see it as special. No where in the article did it say every single girl in the world has to sleep around. We are all special and we all deserve love, even negative Nancy's like you
  • Picabelle

    2015-09-19T15:27:29.220Z

    I downloaded this app a long time ago because I like the concept but today is the first time I ever really looked at it. I didn't realize that it skewed so young. I can recall the day I lost my virginity and it wasn't special at all. It was messy and awkward and uncomfortable for us both. We loved one another but eventually went our own ways. I went on to have other very meaningful relationships and had sex in those relationships. I didn't sleep around but I have certainly had sex before meeting my husband and I don't regret it at all. Like many here have said, be confident with your decision and don't beat yourself up if it doesn't turn out like you had envisioned.
  • KeshL

    2015-09-19T16:04:34.148Z

    Just don't wait until you're Married to have sex. What's if it's horrible? Now what? Lol
  • Lunalaft

    2015-09-19T00:46:08.096Z

    I'm choosing to abstain from sex until marriage, but that's just me. I don't give a flying piece of poop what anyone does with their bodies. No judgment whatsoever. Do whatever you're comfortable with. Good article! 💗💗💗
  • Rutykitty

    2015-09-18T15:56:22.346Z

    oh wt u wanna say is " be a bitch but in an elegant way " cmm onnn duh
  • Ritchie

    2015-09-19T03:56:18.588Z

    And yes it is magical and sacred, but people with your whatever goes attitude demeans it. What would your teach your kids, God help them?
  • Trechx

    2015-09-19T02:34:59.687Z

    People really need to calm down. This isn't the 1800s. Sex is normal. Your first time is not magical, whether it's your "true love" or not. Your first time is awkward. People have extremely high expectations. Do you thing but consider the realistic aspect
  • Jennapher

    2015-09-19T14:16:02.060Z

    Leave it to a guy to say "trust me"...lol...
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