7 Things Every Girl Absolutely Needs to Ask Herself 🤔 before Losing Her Virginity ...

Are You Comfortable with Him? • Are You Being Pressured? • Do You Feel like You're Mature Enough? • Do You Know Enough about Sex? • Will You Regret It if He Leaves You Tomorrow? • More ...

By Holly • Oct 25, 2017 MD

Losing your virginity isn't going to change your entire life. However, you should still be careful about who you choose to do it with and when. You don't want to rush into a sexual relationship before you're ready for all that it entails. If you've been thinking about letting a certain boy pop your cherry, here are a few questions that you should ask yourself before you actually go through with losing your virginity:

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1. Are You Comfortable with Him?

If you feel awkward when you're out at dinner with a man, then you're going to feel even more awkward when you're naked in his bedroom. That's why you should wait until you find someone that makes you feel safe and secure. Sex is an intimate experience, which is why it's important for you to sleep with someone who makes you feel completely comfortable.

2. Are You Being Pressured?

You shouldn't sleep with someone, just because you feel like you're too old to be a virgin. Don't let society, your boyfriend, or your friends pressure you into having sex. You shouldn't do it to have a fun story to tell. You should do it because it's what you truly want.

3. Do You Feel like You're Mature Enough?

Everyone has a different opinion on how old you should be before you lose your virginity. That's why you should think about the situation in terms of maturity. If you're eighteen, but you and your boyfriend still behave like children, then you should hold off on having sex. However, if you think you're mature enough and responsible enough to handle a sex life, then you can go through with it.

4. Do You Know Enough about Sex?

Health class doesn't teach us all we need to know. That's why you should do some research on the male body, the female body, and protection. If you don't know about the success rate of condoms and the pill, then you should learn about them before you actually have sex.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Will You Regret It if He Leaves You Tomorrow?

Even the nicest boys have slept with a girl and then left her. That's why you should never have sex with someone with the hopes of turning them into your boyfriend. If the man you sleep with leaves you tomorrow, will you regret that you've had sex with him, or will you still think that you've made the right choice?

6. Do You Have a Secluded Place to do It?

This is more of a technical issue, but it's still important to consider. After all, you can't sleep with someone if you don't have a secluded place to do it. While losing your virginity inside of a car might sound sexy, it'll be pretty uncomfortable. You need a nice, relaxing place to do it your first time.

7. Is It Really What You Want?

This is the most important question that you can ask yourself. If you don't have much of an interest in sex, then there's no reason for you to do it. You might be asexual, you might be too young, or you might be waiting to find the right person. There's no reason to lose your virginity if you don't have your heart set on doing so.

Losing your virginity isn't the end of the world. However, you could end up regretting it if you do it with the wrong person, or do it before you're truly ready. That's why you should ask yourself these questions to see what the right decision is. Which one of these questions is the hardest to answer?

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  • Ritchie

    2015-09-22T04:45:37.300Z

    Peony Blue, I think you and me have a Love hate relationship going on.
  • Lavi

    2015-09-18T19:36:13.029Z

    Great article.. Agreed with @island girl :)
  • Taylor

    2015-09-19T03:20:19.467Z

    Go back to school? Excuse me lady, we all have a right to an opinion, if it's respectful. I wouldn't say sex is a sport but it's also not this magical thing. It can be awkward, messy, fun or whatever
  • Ritchie

    2015-09-18T21:20:01.010Z

    Taylor go back to school after your comment Rutykitty, I agree. People dont understand that Sexuality isnt just physical, but thats fine, seek pkeasure for today and dont worry about tomorrow. I doubt many understand or care..
  • Island

    2015-09-18T17:10:26.523Z

    I really like how this article mentioned about regretting afterwards. #5 is not something we hear as often as we should. Good article!
  • RXTree

    2015-09-19T07:09:35.937Z

    Whatever you think is fine, as long as you are happy. I don't religiously believe sex after marriage, but I do believe it'll happen naturally in due time.
  • Cbkay

    2015-09-19T00:15:01.704Z

    The hardest question will be "will you regret it tomorrow" because practically one doesnt usually know the answer to this until that time actually comes therefore making this a perfect question because if duly considered will put alot of things into perspective for a girl in this kind of situation....
  • Ritchie

    2015-09-19T02:49:56.961Z

    Trechx actually I have been both sides of the fence, where I had 4 partners at the same time, and often slept with 2 or 3 on the same day. Thats when I used to work the clubs as a barman, and I didnt care. Now Im the total opposite. Sex isnt a sport, I have turned my life around and would say to anybody that its worth the wait. Trust me.
  • Taylor

    2015-09-18T16:08:33.417Z

    no because I respect your opinion but only if said in a mature matter. Like @cici did. We all have to make our own choices in life for us. Like I only need to be with my guy but others may not feel the same
  • Trechx

    2015-09-19T02:34:59.687Z

    People really need to calm down. This isn't the 1800s. Sex is normal. Your first time is not magical, whether it's your "true love" or not. Your first time is awkward. People have extremely high expectations. Do you thing but consider the realistic aspect
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