Do you feel like your sex life is dragging? Maybe it’s okay but nothing spectacular is happening in the sack? If this’s the situation you’re in, don’t despair. These’re 7 tips to make your sex life hotter than ever.
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1. Get Enough Sleep
This may sound counterproductive to you. You may be wondering how are you going to have more sex or better sex if you turn in early. Let’s look at the flip side. If you’re exhausted then you’re not going to be interested in sex. Being well rested will give you the energy for sex whenever you can make it happen.
2. Do Things That Make You Feel Attractive
If you don’t feel good about yourself then your interest in sex is likely to be low. Feeling good about yourself makes you feel more sexual. What makes you feel attractive is going to vary from woman to woman. For some, it may be wearing a favorite perfume or putting on some makeup. Other women may feel more attractive after they workout because they know they’ve done something good for their body.
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Understanding that confidence plays a central role in sexuality, identify activities that amplify your self-esteem. Perhaps it's as simple as slipping into lingerie or styling your hair in a way that frames your features exquisitely. Experiment with what sparks that inner siren. For some, it could be reading an erotic novel or practicing seductive dance moves. Remember, when you cherish your body and your sensuality, it shines through, adding an extra layer of allure to your intimate encounters. Whatever your method, revel in the process, and watch how it transforms your sexual energy.
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3. Get Rid of Ratty Pajamas
The ratty pajamas need to go. They aren’t going to make you feel sexy. It’s okay to have some cozy clothes for lounging around the house but get rid of those that’re no longer in good condition. It’s also a good idea to wear some things that make you feel sexy. When you feel sexy, you’ll be in the mood for sex.
4. Be Open to Spontaneous Sex
Sometimes you want sex at a different time of day than your partner does. You may prefer it at night whereas he prefers it in the morning. This can be part of what’s making your sex life not so hot anymore. But give spontaneous sex a chance. Try it at a different time of day. You may not love it as much as your preferred time for sex but it could still be fun.
5. Plan Special Times Together
A healthy sex life is a combination of both spontaneous sex and planned sex. Couples are most content when there’s a mixture of both. Plan some special times together where you take your time and make it amazing for your partner. You’ll likely find that they’re more than happy to return the favor when you do. Don’t let romance die either; set the mood with candles, music or whatever you love.
6. Let Bygones Be Bygones
Sometimes your sex life is suffering because of how you’re feeling emotionally. You might be upset over an argument you had or dwelling on an issue in your relationship in the past. If your relationship is stable and healthy then let bygones be bygones. You could also be upset over something external to your relationship such as a fight with your sister. Processing and dealing with your emotions can help you to have a better sex life.
7. Make Sure Nothing is up Physically
If you’re still struggling in your sex life after trying the other tips listed here then it may be time to pay your doctor a visit. There could be something physical causing your low libido such as your hormone levels being off or a side effect of a medication. Many times something as simple as changing your medication can help restore your sex life to it’s former, hotter state. Likewise, if your guy is the one suffering from low libido then he should see his doctor. It could be exactly what’s needed to make your sex life steamy again.
These’re 7 things you can do to make your sex life hotter. What do you do when you need to spice things up? What tips would you offer others?
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In addition to the tips mentioned in the article, there are a few more things that can be done to make your sex life hotter.
One of the most important things to do is to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Talk about what you both like and what you don't like, and be sure to listen to each other. This will help you to be more comfortable with each other, and will also help to ensure that you're both getting what you want out of your sex life.
Another tip is to make sure to take time for yourself. Self-care is important for keeping your sex life hot, as it can help to reduce stress and increase your libido. Taking time for yourself can include anything from getting a massage to reading a book to taking a hot bath.
Finally, make sure to keep things interesting. Don't be afraid to try something new. You can do this by trying new positions, using toys, or even role-playing. Doing something different can help to keep things exciting and can help to reignite your sex life.
Comments
Sharmeen: Thanks for responding Cindee ! Yes I got my thyroid checked about a month back , it was normal. But I was diagnosed pre diabetic. I'm losing my hair, have put on weight, feel lethargic most of the time, have swelling on my feet. One more thing I want to tell is that I have vitamin D3 deficiency, for which I'm talking medicine.
Coco: Good post. Thanks
MCQGarro: I'm gay and its works with my relationship !! Amazing and so true !! Appreciated
Cindee: Sharmeen Khan I really don't think it could be menopause at your age. Are you going through depression, have you had your thyroid checked? That's what happened to me.
Jayant: Great
Brittany: I'm on an antidepressant and it pretty much destroyed my libido. I feel bad for my husband because I used to be very sexual more times than not, and now it's a battle for me. I'll be talking to my doctor about it! Thank you for the tips!!
Alyx: @brittany if you haven't been on it for long, wait it out. Usually side effects like that go Away after 2-6 months. If you've been on it longer than that, unfortunately there's nothing a doctor can do except take you off or switch you to another, which will likely to have the same effect. I know from personal experience lol, but also from dealing with antidepressants every day at work. Forcing yourself to try to feel sexy can help too, or even play with yourself even if you are not in the mood, it can boost you into the mood.
Loveinabottle: @Sharmeen Khan this might be a dumb question, but have you tried exercise? And not just waking but getting your heart rate up at least 5 min/day. I felt your symptoms until I made working out a regular part of my life. Start small; stay consistent
Sharmeen: Hello! I'm 34 years . I'm feeling low libido since a few months. Is this the onset of menopause?
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