It might not be nice, but there are some reasons he ignores you. If you're finding that your boyfriend is ignoring you, what do you think are some of the reasons? Do you think that he feels pressured? That maybe he is done with your nagging? To make it easier to see some of the reasons he ignores you, I've compiled a list of the top 17 reasons he not be paying as much attention to you!
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1. You're Always around
A guy likes to be able to miss the girl he's with, and he might be ignoring you if you're constantly around for him NOT to miss. Truthfully, you want to make sure that you leave a little mystery to your relationship. If this is one of the reasons he ignores you that you've noticed, make sure that you let him plan a night out with the boys while you go out with the girls.
2. Stress
Sometimes, when a guy gets completely and totally stressed out, it could be one of the reasons he ignores you. It could be his way of dealing with the stress. Or at the very least, it could be his way of ensuring that he isn't going to drive you away, push you away or snap at you.
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Stress can be caused by a variety of factors, such as work, school, family, or relationships. It can manifest in physical, emotional, and mental symptoms. When feeling overwhelmed, it is common for people to withdraw as a way of coping.
When a guy is stressed, he may ignore you as a way of dealing with the stress or to ensure that he doesn't drive you away. He may not be able to handle the stress of a relationship while also dealing with other life stressors.
It is important to remember that stress affects everyone differently and that it is not always easy to recognize when someone is stressed. Signs of stress can include fatigue, difficulty concentrating, irritability, and changes in mood or behavior.
It is important to be understanding and supportive if your partner is feeling overwhelmed. You can help by listening to him, offering comfort, and providing a supportive environment. Try to be patient, as it can take time for him to process and work through his stress.
You can also offer to help him manage his stress. Suggest activities such as exercise, yoga, or meditation. Encourage him to talk about his feelings and to seek professional help if needed.
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3. He's Feeling Pressured
Have you been with your boyfriend for a while and you're still waiting on a ring? Or what if you've been dying to move in together but haven't yet? If a guy feels pressured, it could absolutely be one of the reasons he's ignoring you. The best remedy for this is to make sure that you just calm down. Don't pressure him for a ring or moving in – if it's meant to happen, it'll happen!
4. Constant Nagging
When a guy feels like he is constantly being nagged about chores, being nagged about his job and being nagged about – well, everything, it might cause him to shut down. One remedy for this is just to chill out a bit. Change your nagging into soft little reminders and maybe space them all out.
5. Changed Feelings
Sometimes, when you are in a relationship, the guy you are dating might sense a shift or change in his feelings. Instead of breaking up with you, he could just draw away and start to ignore you. If you feel that he is ignoring you, you might want to talk to him about it. This definitely isn't something that you want to just sit on, ladies.
6. You're Too Clingy
If you are constantly clinging onto your man and constantly dependent on him, he might start to resent that. Most men are attracted to not only confidence but also a woman who is independent. If you notice that your man is ignoring you, one of the reasons he might ignore you is because of the fact that you are clinging to him a little too much!
7. Insecure
Insecurity is something that affects every single woman. However, did you know that it affects men too? If a man is really insecure and you keep pressing his buttons, it might be one of the reasons he ignores you. So ladies, lay off your guy, you might see a huge difference in his attitude!
8. Too Young
If you notice that your man is ignoring you, it could be because he is too young. Age does make a difference and sometimes, if a guy is too young, he is also immature, which means that he might not understand exactly what it means to have a girlfriend and how to treat a girl.
9. You Want More than He Does
While many guys like to have a girlfriend, they might not be in the neighborhood for a future wife or potential fiance. Your guy just may like dating you, but not want anything more serious than a simple relationship with no commitment promises in the cards.
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may be content with the way things are. If you're looking for a deeper connection or long-term commitment, this mismatch in desires can lead to feelings of being ignored. He might pull away to avoid complicated conversations or future heartbreak. While it's natural to want more, it's important to communicate your needs and understand his perspective. This way, you can both make informed decisions about whether your relationship is worth pursuing. Don't settle for less than what you truly want, and make sure you're both on the same page regarding the future.
10. He's Seeing Someone
I don't suggest you jump to this conclusion first, but this could be a reason why your guy is missing in the act or ignoring you lately. Perhaps, goodness forbid, he could be seeing someone else. I don't think it would be smart to demand to see his phone or stalk him 24/7, but it's definitely something to think about. Oh, and here's a tip: don't question him to death until you find out for sure.
11. YOu Said Something
Don't get all paranoid on me, ladies, but sometimes we say things that guys either don't understand, or take to heart. Even though they pretend they aren't all sensitive, they really care more than they let on about what you say. Have you had a recent conversation about his job, family, your relationship, your career, what he dresses like, other girls, etc? These types of discussions tend to get personal if he takes them to heart. Or, if he disagrees with what you said, and doesn't want to say anything about the issue, it may be another reason.
12. He's Avoiding an Argument
A guy will avoid an argument like the plague. If he senses you're touchy about something, in a bad mood or you're upset about something, he might avoid you to avoid the argument ahead. Instead of getting mad, talk to him about something lighthearted to try to start conversation. Give it time and then see if it might be for another reason.
13. He's a Workaholic
Some guys are workaholics, even at a young age. This is one of the many personality traits among men today, for a very simple reason. Men like to think of themselves as providers, and are usually always striving for more money, power, success, etc. Many guys also throw themselves into their work to deal with stress from other issues. If this is the case, let your guy know that you appreciate his work ethic, but would like him to make more time for you if possible.
14. You're Not Compatible
How much do you and your guy have in common? Do you like to do the same activities, eat at the same places, hang out with similar people? Do you have topics to talk about you can each relate to? If you come from different areas of life, that's fine, but if you don't have any common interests, it could be a reason he ignores you.
15. He's More into Casual Dating
While this is similar to not wanting a commitment, it's not quite the same. Some guys are into seeing girls every few weeks instead of on a regular basis. These are known as casual daters, who usually never settle down either. Know one before you choose one.
16. He Has an Addiction
Believe it or not, your guy could have an addiction, leading him to ignoring you. This could include everything from drinking, to porn, to gambling, to hanging out at bars or strip clubs, and even video games, which is one on the rise today, even in married couples. If he has an addiction, there's nothing you can do besides confront him gently and ask him to get help. Just be prepared because he'll probably deny it and won't accept it well.
17. He's a Jerk
I'm not a man basher, so don't take this the wrong way, but the guy you're obsessed with or in love with could just be a downright jerk when it comes down to it. If you're giving him distance, not hurting his feelings through conversation and if he promises you things and then you don't see or hear from him for a week, he could be taking advantage of you. Consider getting a new guy that you deserve!
So ladies, now that you understand some of the reasons he ignores you, make sure that you take notice of them. If you're nagging too much, it might be a good idea to transform that nagging into something else. These are just my top 17 reasons he ignores you, what about some other reasons, ladies? Have any?
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Zeba: I like this guy but he completely ignores me what shall I do. Guys help me!!!!
Meagan: I have this guy I really liked and we've been friends for a while and one day we started talking and it got super flirts and love dovie and he told me that he liked me alot and has for a long time and that he would defiantly see me before he leaves so we were supposed to meet the next day for New Year's Eve I sent him the address and he made it sound like he was for sure going but he never did then I found out he went to a different party and kissed someone else he after that he didn't answer my text and ignored me like it never happened then went and hung out with one of my friends and tried flirting with her and now he left back for the army still ignoring me why would he do all this!????
Zeba: Somebody help I want this guy to like me
laravenclaw: I must admit that I feel a little silly about commenting on one of these... But an impartial third party would definitely help. I am a high school/college student with a little bit of dating under my belt. I haven't dated in two years, though- my last relationship ended in an absolutely horrid manner and I have been reluctant to trust anybody since. He is a college freshman (a complete nerd, like me) with absolutely no dating under his belt. We met at work in September and I quickly developed feelings for him. This was a surprise for me. So, anyways... We started going to movies and stuff (in groups and alone), but I always initiated these outings. As he went to high school with my friend, I knew quite a bit of his background and assumed it was because he was shy with girls. So, last Friday night I revealed to him (using a flip book) that I "was wondering if he go on a date with me?") He smiled the entire time I presented the flip book, and said that he "would love to go on a date with me." He confirmed that it would be his first. (I FEEL LIKE I'M WRITING A BOOK FOR YOU GUYS- please be patient with me). So we arranged to go to Thor on Sunday at 7. We're both comic nuts. We talked in the parking lot for around 30 minutes after the movie and he asked if he could kiss me. And I, of course, said yes. So we kissed once. It was his first kiss. It was chaste. But super sweet. Afterwards, I texted him. I told him I had an amazing time and he said that there would be a second date. But when I texted him on Thursday, asking him if he would be able to do something over the weekend, he didn't even respond. I mean, I wouldn't have been angry had he said no. But it does bother me that he doesn't seem to deem me worthy of a response. And on Friday, at work, he treated me in the same way he always does (which isn't bad) but didn't even seem to acknowledge that I had sent the message or even that the date had even occurred. I really don't want to seem overly clingy.... But I have never put my heart out on the line like I did before... And to be honest, I kind of regret it because I now feel ridiculously vulnerable. I keep thinking it could be because of my body (I'm 5'6 and weigh 171 pounds, so I'm kind of fat) and he's ridiculously skinny (he's probably 5'10 and he once told me he weighs 170)... But anyways, we don't look that awkward together. I mean, I'm losing weight and since he's taller than me, I don't look like a giant next to him. I've rambled long enough. To the point- Has he already lost interest? Was he never interested? I know you haven't met him, but... I tried to be as thorough as possible. PS- please don't sugarcoat it. If the information that I have given indicates that he doesn't want me, then please tell me.
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