Are you in the position of wondering if your breakup was actually a mistake? Having thoughts along that line could mean you need to reevaluate it. It’s not unheard of for happy couples to have broken up and got back together. Many times they’re a stronger couple for it. These’re some things to consider when you’re wondering if your breakup was actually a mistake.
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1. You Made Your Decision in Anger
There’s a lot of truth to the old saying, “Act in haste, regret at leisure.” It’s never a wise idea to make an important decision when you’re highly emotional. You don’t make the same decisions when you’re angry as you would when you’re calm. That’s because anger can skew your sense of logic. If you decided to break up because you were angry instead of because it was the right decision then it may have been a mistake.
2. You Regret Breaking up
If you regret breaking up then that’s a big sign your breakup was a mistake. It’s important to be careful not to confuse sadness with regret. True regret is when you deeply wish you’d never gone through with the breakup, if it was your decision. However, if it was his choice then there’s nothing to do but move on. That’s key in every one of these points; he has to have the desire to get back together, too.
Frequently asked questions
Feeling sad is totally normal and doesn't always mean you made the wrong choice. Breakups can hurt, even if they were necessary. Give yourself time to see if the sadness fades.
If you're sure about how you feel and have weighed if it's worth a shot, it might be worth reaching out. Just make sure your reasons are solid! A heart-to-heart conversation can be illuminating.
If you notice you've lost someone who was genuinely good for you, or if you're filled with regret and keep daydreaming about getting back together, those might be signs.
Absolutely! Sometimes taking a step back can give us the clarity we need to truly understand our feelings. It's possible that distance makes you see the relationship in a new light.
It's a tough call! If you find yourself constantly missing them and comparing everyone else to them, it might be a clue. Think about why you broke up in the first place. Were those reasons justified?
3. You’re Not over the Breakup
It takes time to recover from a breakup. But if you feel like you just can’t get your heart to move on then your breakup may have been a mistake. Sometimes giving yourself time can reveal how your heart truly feels. Make sure you’ve taken time to really examine that before you make a move to try to work things out again. Trust that if it’s meant to be then it will be.
4. Your Relationship Was (Mostly) Amazing
Feeling like yes, you had your moments but it was mostly magical between you is a sign your breakup may have been a mistake. If you look back at your relationship and feel nothing but fondness then that’s a sign you shouldn’t have went through with the breakup. It’s okay to give your ex a call when you’re ready and see how it goes. Find out if he’s in the same place you are.
5. You Rarely Fought
Conflict is a part of every relationship. Some relationships have more conflict than others. Having a lot of conflict can be a red flag that your relationship was heading in the wrong direction. Having a low amount of conflict in your relationship is a sign that your relationship is healthy. If you rarely fought then your relationship may have been better than you realized.
6. You Still Think He’s an Amazing Guy
If you still think your ex is an amazing guy then you should probably try to work things out. Having the thought that any girl would be lucky to have him is very telling. Why shouldn’t you be that lucky girl? Having these feelings is a huge sign you should try to work things out. If you’re worried if your perspective is accurate then talk to someone you deeply trust to make sure you’re not seeing things incorrectly.
7. You Daydream about Getting Back Together
Does your ex fill your thoughts? Do you daydream about getting back together? It’s one thing to remember the good times but it’s another to hope for a future together. If you’re daydreaming of him and you truly miss him then listen to your heart. You don’t want to go back to him because it’s an easy option though; make sure it’s the right option.
These’re some signs that your breakup may have been a mistake. Do you see any of these in yourself? Do you feel inspired to try to work things out with your ex?
Comments
Melissa: Omg this post is sooooo freaking accurate. I been broken up with my ex for about a year now and to this day I still think about him. He's probably over me now and I understand that. At the end of the day I feel like I was the one who was at fault and I'm not afraid to admit that. I feel like I'm still trying to figure out my life though.. I want to get to know myself on a whole other level before I let any guy into my life. But I do regret breaking up with my ex. I loved him so much and the memories we had I will never forget. I hope he's doing well and that he finds somebody that can fulfill his happiness.
Manuela: I need this article now. Gosh my ex is coming back now. I'm in a relationship I always wonder about my ex and thinking Wht if?? But I can't live again in a ldr relationship with my ex it's been 4yrs since we break up but our feelings never changed.
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