Learning a few ways to deal with your boyfriend’s female friends can help you eliminate feelings of jealousy and insecurity. Forbidding your boyfriend from having female friends isn’t the answer because he will most likely secretly resent that you are trying to control his friendships. If you are facing this relationship dilemma, I’m going to share 7 ways to deal with your boyfriend's female friends.
A major reason why you are jealous over his female friends is that you fear he will leave you for one of them. One of the ways to deal with your boyfriend’s female friends is to become their ally. To calm these fears, get to know each of them on a one-on-one basis. Invite her to have brunch or dinner with you.
Or if you prefer, you could hang out as a group instead. Invite her to hang out with you, your man and a group of other friends. If she has a significant other, invite him as well. This will give you a chance to see what this girl acts like when she is around your man. If she has ulterior motives, her body language will give it away.
Whenever you hang out with this girl, just act like yourself rather than a jealous girlfriend. Avoid being cold or rude to her as that will only build tension and negativity, making everyone feel uncomfortable. She might be a cool person that you could bond with so give her a chance. You will also gain points with your boyfriend by accepting his female friends.
Chances are you instantly become suspicious whenever you see a text message from an unknown female on your boyfriend’s cell. Before you make the worst assumptions, ask for information about this girl. Your boyfriend should tell you facts like the length of time they have been friends, how did they meet, were they ever involved romantically and is she single. He should also be willing to show you a text message from her if you ask.
Another type of female friend that your boyfriend may have is a flirtatious one that actually wants him for herself. This girl is easy to spot because she is the one that is incessantly calling, e-mailing or texting him. She is also known to call late at night while you are in bed together. When dealing with a girl like this, your boyfriend has to set the friendship boundaries. If you try to do it, she will only increase the annoying man-stealing behavior.
If it's making you uncomfortable that your boyfriend is friends with this girl, ask yourself why. Is it because you are jealous or insecure about the relationship and just assuming the worst? Or is because you have concrete proof that something fishy is going on between them? If you suspect his female friend has ulterior motives, bring up the issue with your man.
If their friendship appears completely platonic and your boyfriend treats her like one of the guys, stop worrying over her. Although she may be model-hot and have an awesome personality, remember that your boyfriend is committed to you. Unless you see signs of suspicious behavior from him, trust him. It will only make him miserable and strain the relationship if you are constantly fighting over this issue.
Of all the things that you do when dealing with his friends, try not to give ultimatums unless you are seriously prepared to end the relationship. Do you know any other healthy ways to deal with your boyfriend’s female friends?
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