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7 Ways to Deal when It Comes to Your Boyfriend's Female Friends ...

Learning a few ways to deal with your boyfriend’s female friends can help you eliminate feelings of jealousy and insecurity. Forbidding your boyfriend from having female friends isn’t the answer because he will most likely secretly resent that you are trying to control his friendships. If you are facing this relationship dilemma, I’m going to share 7 ways to deal with your boyfriend's female friends.

1 Become Allies

person, blond, A major reason why you are jealous over his female friends is that you fear he will leave you for one of them. One of the ways to deal with your boyfriend’s female friends is to become their ally. To calm these fears, get to know each of them on a one-on-one basis. Invite her to have brunch or dinner with you.

2 Hang out Together

Or if you prefer, you could hang out as a group instead. Invite her to hang out with you, your man and a group of other friends. If she has a significant other, invite him as well. This will give you a chance to see what this girl acts like when she is around your man. If she has ulterior motives, her body language will give it away.

3 Give the Friendship a Chance

human action, person, image, red, photography, Whenever you hang out with this girl, just act like yourself rather than a jealous girlfriend. Avoid being cold or rude to her as that will only build tension and negativity, making everyone feel uncomfortable. She might be a cool person that you could bond with so give her a chance. You will also gain points with your boyfriend by accepting his female friends.

4 Dealing with Incoming Texts or Calls

music, Chances are you instantly become suspicious whenever you see a text message from an unknown female on your boyfriend’s cell. Before you make the worst assumptions, ask for information about this girl. Your boyfriend should tell you facts like the length of time they have been friends, how did they meet, were they ever involved romantically and is she single. He should also be willing to show you a text message from her if you ask.

5 The Flirty Friend

meal, sense, Another type of female friend that your boyfriend may have is a flirtatious one that actually wants him for herself. This girl is easy to spot because she is the one that is incessantly calling, e-mailing or texting him. She is also known to call late at night while you are in bed together. When dealing with a girl like this, your boyfriend has to set the friendship boundaries. If you try to do it, she will only increase the annoying man-stealing behavior.

6 Discuss It with Your Boyfriend

romance, If it's making you uncomfortable that your boyfriend is friends with this girl, ask yourself why. Is it because you are jealous or insecure about the relationship and just assuming the worst? Or is because you have concrete proof that something fishy is going on between them? If you suspect his female friend has ulterior motives, bring up the issue with your man.

7 Stop Worrying

human hair color, hair, face, person, blond, If their friendship appears completely platonic and your boyfriend treats her like one of the guys, stop worrying over her. Although she may be model-hot and have an awesome personality, remember that your boyfriend is committed to you. Unless you see signs of suspicious behavior from him, trust him. It will only make him miserable and strain the relationship if you are constantly fighting over this issue.

Of all the things that you do when dealing with his friends, try not to give ultimatums unless you are seriously prepared to end the relationship. Do you know any other healthy ways to deal with your boyfriend’s female friends?

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ryleigh my boyfriend has this friend that I think is flirting with him all the time and I'm not sure what I should do she's been his friend for like ever way before I was even in the picture but she is gorg. funny older and is smarter than me. I don't really know how to push my insecurities aside I know I should trust him and I do and I've tried talking to him and he said that he'll stop being so close but I went to her and she told me I was insane that she only cares for him as a friend but she hugs him when Im around and he isn't thinking anything about it. Am I overthinking there friendship
Nina My boyfriend cheated on me at one point but has changed and shown that he really cares about me and doesn't want to lose me. My problem is that he gets along with females more so he tends to have more female friends and I feel comfortable with it given the previous situation. How can I overcome this?
Tiffany @SydneyT no, you need to know u deserve more than that.
Tiffany @Adviceplease that's not acceptable behavior dude. He needs to honor you. Talk to him and tell him that's not okay. And if he chooses her, do u rly want him?
SydneyT I need help trying to master this
Adviceplease My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. He recently started hanging out with this girl, who is very flirtatious, touchy and has strange friend boundaries. She's constantly wanting to hang out with him and texting him at all kinds of hours. I saw how the two of them interact with each other and she is way out of line. My boyfriend says she makes him uncomfortable but he really likes her as a person and friend. He has limited their contact but she's constantly trying to get him alone to hang out with her. I'm worried that he has feelings for her too. What else can I do to put this problem to rest?
Lucywoo What if he wants to meet up with a girl he used to like?
Mandy2629 well I was able to talk to my boyfriend about it but eventually it did not work out, he refused to tell his good female friend that he was in a relationship stating that is private and that it is difficult to be a friend with the opposite sex and he did not want their friendship to change, also he refused to tell his ex fiance that he was in a relationship again citing that it is private and then refriended her on FB after they had a dinner together and she apologized for breaking up with him...so I tried to do the lets all be friends etc, but to not even tell them that I exist after a year and a half, we are now done...and can you believe it I actually am struggling with it
Jellytinkles @Kaitlynn no girl no! My boyfriend did the same to me and after 6 months I told him "if you can't add me to your social networking site I am out the door" and I meant it! If your man won't add you (or his mama) on Facebook... it's probably because he's doing stuff neither of you would approve of!
Merarri Ladies thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts!!
Merarri It depends how long they were together and what kind of feelings remain now. If they have both moved on, there is nothing wrong with being friends with an ex. But its your relationship so the two of you have to figure out the rules that work for both of you!
Kaitlynn What if it's some random person on Facebook that's apparently married? The only reason this bothers me is because my boyfriend told me he didn't want any girls on his Facebook including me and his sisters and mom but yet he's talking to her and possibly others. Apparently it's on a "car" Group. How many girls know a lot about cars. I know it's possible but still...
- Merarri @Kaitlynn, have you told him that this friendship bothers you?
- Jenna @Kaitlynn I would be worried if my boyfriend wouldn't even add me to Facebook... Makes you wonder if he's using Facebook to connect with other women because if he doesn't add you then he can't really say he's in a relationship with you... Which will broad cast his "takenness"
Tara What if we come from a place of not jealousy but empowerment, use our frustration to our advantage, instead of questioning, maybe we make statements ? Turn the tables on the men, enjoy our life outside of him, have a plan to do something without him and being very vague about it with him, not to play games but to draw him back to you...? Always been curious if that would work.
- Merarri @Tara, Try it and report back to the AWS girls!
Cartelea @anmarie yeah, you should,if he had nothing to hide he would introduce her to you.
Cartelea There not to be trusted full stop. Saying this from experience
Anmarie What if he dont want me to meet his female friend? Should i be worried?
- Merarri @Anmarie, Yes he should be very open about his female friends. It's a major red flag if he wants to keep them hidden from you.
- Roma @Anmarie yes if he's hiding them he's hiding more than that
Vanna Mine immediately gets angry any time I ask nonconfrontationally about his friends...and then wonders why I don't trust him. I am so screwed :/
- Merarri @Vanna, Why does he get angry? Does he have something to hide?
Moniqueiman I just left because of this. * Applause to the woman that have the ability to put up with this 👏.
Brenda What if it's an ex? How can I deal with it? Especially when I don't like her and lost respect for her.
Roma My husband has recently reconnected with a woman from his past she is single and went through a 13 year abusive relationship that is why they lost touch not to mention he was interested in dating her back then. At first she was calling and texting all the time even skyping him. I complained she somewhat backed off he often goes to her house without me and stays the night so I went batshit crazy showed up at her house at 2:30 in the morning then three days later cussed her out and threatend to kick her doors in. But they both swear there is nothing going on that it's just a friendship now the woman is terrified of me I would be too in her position . But I realized that it's a trust issue my husband has never lied to me or strayed but I keep not trusting him around women who he swears are friends. Help what do I do now?
- Tania @Roma he should be able to tell you when he sees her and him staying the night is weird; is he is married he should be home.. Just my thoughts. But you're right, I'd have gone crazy too.
Falynne Female friends? What female friends? Hahhahhahahah
de_contra I just moved to this state a year ago and I started to date my now boyfriend almost immediately. Little did I know he was single for 2 years prior and quite the social butterfly. I have to constantly deal with girls left and right, he assures me none of them want to be more then friends but when I have gone out to hangout with these people they have been nothing but rude to me. How do I deal with that one? Because currently I am just hurrying myself in my studies at home alone every night and weekend to avoid it.
- Merarri @de_contra, If rude girl acts flirtatious with your bf, obviously she has ulterior motives. If she did want your boyfriend for herself, her method is working because you feel excluded from hanging out. Don’t give her that power. Go hang out with your man. Be confident in your relationship! If possible, bring along a few awesome girl friends so that you are ensured a good time and you don’t feel left out.
Juli What if it is his ex wife who still depends on him for everything?
- Merarri @Juli, If it's making you uncomfortable, then he has to distance himself from her. Your feelings should matter a lot more than an ex.

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