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7 Ways to Find the Root of Your Jealousy in a Relationship ...

By Heather

Jealousy in a relationship is something that can destroy it. I know that I am a very jealous person, but I have to tone it down, otherwise it could break up my relationship over nothing. If you are a jealous person, have you ever thought about your jealousy in a relationship? Have you ever tried to find the root of your jealousy? Are you justified in it? Take a look below at some of the roots of jealousy and what you can do to help calm your jealousy down!

1 Understand the Basis

First and foremost, you’ve got to understand the basis of your jealousy in a relationship. Jealousy is a natural emotion that everyone feels at some point, but the strength of jealousy varies. If you are constantly jealous and your partner has never given you a reason to be, take that into consideration. Why are you jealous? Well, it all boils down to feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt and even some lack of security in your relationship.

2 Believe in Yourself

In order to combat your jealousy, you’ve got to believe in yourself. You are worth something, your partner loves you, and they do want you to succeed. Once you start to believe in yourself, it will be leaps and bounds better in your relationship overall and you won’t feel jealous constantly.


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3 Believe in Your Partner

Next, you’ve got to believe in your partner. If you’ve been hurt by them in the past, this is a harder step but often times, the root of your jealousy could be based in the past. Don’t do that! It’ll do nothing but hurt your relationship in the long-term.

4 Have They Given You a Reason to Not Trust Them?

This is a big one. Has your partner ever given you a reason not to trust them completely? Have they cheated on you? Been dishonest in some other way? Think about this before you immediately jump to being jealous. If they haven’t, why do you constantly feel jealous?

5 Don’t Second Guess

When you are constantly second guessing not just your partner, but also yourself, you are going to make yourself jealous. Is he really going out with his friends? Is she really just eating with a co-worker? These hypothetical questions can make you crazy! Why put yourself through that?

6 Think before Acting

Whenever you are jealous, you’ve got to remember to think before you act. Why? Because jealousy is a terrible thing that can cause you to do a lot – including ruin something that could be great. Instead, think about your actions and if it doesn’t look like a good idea, don’t do it!

7 Understand Jealousy Can Destroy

One note to remember about jealousy is that it can ruin everything! Finding the root of your jealousy is truly something that can make all of the difference. Are you girls and guys ready to figure out why you are jealous and stop it? Let's really kick this habit!

Now that you know some of the common things that can make you jealous and why you might be jealous, let’s stop it. There is no reason, unless you are given one to be jealous. So, have you ever been jealous in a relationship? How did it turn out? Was it bad? Share your experience below!

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