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7 Points to Remember if You Hate Being Single ...

By Alison

Do you hate being single? Many people feel that there must be something wrong with them if they can't find a partner, and that they are only complete if they are in a relationship. But being in a relationship isn't essential, and can even be quite problematic. Being single has many advantages. Here are some points to remember if you hate being single.

1 Other Girls Envy You

If you hate being single, remind yourself that other girls envy you your freedom. However happy you are in a relationship, there are times when life seems that it would be so much easier if you were single. Perhaps they wish they could do what they wanted and not have to consider someone else when they make decisions.

2 Relationships Don't Solve Everything

We've probably all fantasised at some point about Prince Charming coming along to solve all our problems. However strong you are, life can be tough, and it's good to have someone to lean on. However, being in a relationship doesn't make all your problems magically disappear. Don't expect a partner to solve your difficulties for you.

3 You Complained when You Had a Boyfriend

We tend to blot out the less pleasant memories, and think nostalgically of the good times. Don't you remember how you used to moan about your boyfriend and his annoying habits? Think back, and you'll recall how you complained about him leaving his dirty laundry on the floor, or how he spent too much time with his friends watching sports.

4 Possibilities

The good thing about being single is that there are so many possibilities for romance. That really amazing guy could be just around the corner. You could meet him anywhere, at any time. Plus the single life offers you a multitude of other possibilities regarding work, study and travel.

5 Be Proactive

If you do want to find a relationship, then you are the one who needs to do something about it. It's true that you often meet someone when you least expect it, but you still need to take some initiative. You won't meet anyone sitting at home with a box set of Mad Men. Get out to some places where you will come into contact with single guys.

6 Are You Ready?

You should ask yourself if you are actually ready to be in a relationship at the moment. Sometimes we are not in a good place because of other issues in our lives, and the search for romance will be better postponed. Or perhaps you have not recovered from a previous break-up. Although you may not enjoy being single, it can be the best choice right now.

7 Freedom

Being single means you have complete freedom to do what you want with your life. However happy you are in a relationship, having a partner means that you have to take them into account when making decisions about your life and career. As a single girl, you can move to a new city for work, study, or simply because you want to.

Being single isn't all bad, so don't fret if it feels as though you've been without a boyfriend forever. A partner should be an enhancement to your life, not an essential part of it that you can't do without. Enjoy your single time, and someone may come along when you least expect it. Which do you prefer - being on your own, or having a relationship?

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