7 Ways to Tell if You Are Gay ...


7 Ways to Tell if You Are Gay ...
7 Ways to Tell if You Are Gay ...

Being gay is something that isn't a choice, but there are ways to tell if you are gay. If you are having sexual feelings toward the same sex, if you constantly are confused about who you like and if you have some unexplained attraction, those can all be ways to tell if you are gay. It took me a long time to realize that I was gay, but I am and now I am out and proud. It's a hard road, but it's one that can be easy to spot, if you know what you are looking for.

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Unexplained Attraction to the Same Gender as You

One of the surefire ways to tell if you are gay is if you have a lot of unexplained attraction to the same sex. This isn't a bad thing, this is something that is normal and you shouldn't try to repress it at all. If you feel attraction toward the same and opposite sex as you, that could dictate if you are bi-sexual too.


Constant Feelings of Guilt

When I was first realizing that I was gay, I had a lot of feelings of guilt. Guilt that I was going to disappoint my parents and upset my family. I didn't realize that these feelings of guilt could be one of the ways that I could tell if I was gay. I just thought that I was feeling guilty or depressed from events totally unrelated. If you have a nagging feeling of guilt a lot of the time, think about what sex you are attracted to.


Sexual Attraction to the Same Sex

How about your sexual attraction? I can think a guy is hot or cute, but for me, I wouldn't want to date one. I have a girlfriend and that is who I want to be with. What about you? Do you think that you could sexually be with the opposite sex? If the answer is no, that is a sure way to know if you are gay or not.


Fantasies That You Have

Everyone has fantasies at some point, what types of fantasies do you have? Do they involve the same sex or the opposite sex or both? Do you think that you could be fantasizing about the same sex because you want to be with someone of the same sex? These are things to think about when you are looking for ways to tell if you are gay.


Ignore Stereotypes

Whether you are a girl or a boy and you are just exploring if you are gay or not, ignore every stereotype out there about gay men and women. I am not a butch anything, I am just me. You don't want to get caught up in how you are 'supposed' to act because you might be gay; instead, focus on who you are.


Experiment with Your Feelings

If you really think that you are gay, it's okay for you to experiment with those feelings with other gay kids. It's okay for you to explore those feelings and for you to really find yourself and find out what you like. Don't let anyone tell you that it's wrong, because it's not; it's natural.


Research Online

Finally, researching online is one of the best ways to see if you are gay. Truthfully, I did a ton of research before I finally came out, to see if my feelings were natural and to really see the best way to come out. It's hard, but so worth it!

Having the feeling that you are gay is really difficult to handle in the beginning, but it is a natural feeling and one that you should look into. If you think you might be gay, it's okay. Don't worry and don't come out until you are ready to! Are you out? Please feel free to share your experiences!

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I accept everyone the way they are and have to love my neighbor because that is what god wants us all to do. But that doesn't mean that I have to agree with what gay/lesbian/ bisexual ect. People believe in. I accept them the way thy are once again but If you read the Bible, It is written that that is a sin.

these were good

I just proved to myself how straight I am.

You should write an article about coming out... And on the not list, put social media XD learned the hard way!

I myself also started to want to know more about like Ellen, and Sir Elton John, and like Tegan and Sara, I found myself obsessed with \"The Fosters\" and just about anything with other gay people in it.

I will always love the sinner but not the sin. And btw, just wanted to say that in the word of God, you have to fight your temptations and pray to him to follow his word and not commit this sin. Love you all. God bless you guys 😊

I don't know that's just why I looked this up tonight before school I think I have a crush on a girl I don't know you guys and that's why it's so easy to say it on here I haven't said it to anyone though not even my best friend and I'm scared to so i research definitely indeed I'm the new kid at my school and I met her in the office when I was enroll ing we have French class together and she admitted she doesn't swing that way in the boy area and she dresses like herself sporty and she doesn't where make up like me I don't where make up and she's down to earth to... I really think I like her... And I've cried because of the fights of gay rights but now I cry for a different reason confusion and the bullying I would have to deal with if one day I did get to hold her hand down the halls of school. It's a scary thing. But I know I'm looking forward to seeing her tomorrow.

I really do agree with this article. Like, when I was dating girls I felt no physical attraction, and when I looked at a cute guy I felt like I was cheating. After coming out its amazing the support and opportunities it has given me! I totally support comin out at the right time though, not to early or late! :)

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