We women know exactly what goes through our minds during a fight. But trying to figure out what your man is thinking can leave you feeling stumped. This is an inside view of what’s really going on in their minds. Some things are very close to how we feel in the midst of an argument and some of them are vastly different.
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1. That You Don’t Respect Him
This one was mind blowing to me the first time I heard it. In the middle of an argument, men are offended because they don’t feel they’re being treated with respect. Women are upset because they feel their man is being very harsh and unloving. My opinion on this was who cares about respect when love is what matters? But the truth is that men care a lot about it. Respect is a very big deal in their masculine world.
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According to relationship experts, men often feel disrespected during arguments with their partners. This is because men place a high value on respect in their masculine world. In fact, studies have shown that men's self-esteem and sense of worth are closely tied to how respected they feel by their partners. Additionally, men may interpret certain behaviors or words as disrespectful, even if that was not the intention. This can lead to misunderstandings and further escalate the argument. It is important for both partners to communicate their feelings and needs in a respectful manner in order to avoid damaging the relationship.
2. They Think of Escape
Most women want to see a fight through to the end. Men aren’t this way at all. They often think of escaping during an argument. That’s why so many of them check out by taking off with their friends or just leaving when they’re upset. While arguments do need to be worked out, there’s some wisdom in giving your man time to calm down. He’ll be more ready to talk after he’s had time to think.
Frequently asked questions
Honestly, it's not that simple. Some guys have a lot of pride, and fighting can be a way to defend that. Others might feel like they have to prove something to themselves or others. And sometimes, it's just about bottled-up emotions needing an outlet. Crazy, right?
After a fight, some men feel regret and worry, just like anyone else. They might feel bad about what was said or anxious about the relationship. Others might feel relief if things got resolved, though it really varies from person to person.
Fights can be tough, but they also show that both people care enough to work through their issues. They can help strengthen the relationship when handled maturely. It’s all about learning from each other, even when it’s difficult.
Well, it depends on what kind of 'fight' you're talking about. In terms of physical strength, it varies a lot between individuals. But in an emotional or verbal argument, women can definitely hold their own and even come out stronger. It's not about winning, though, right?
Believe it or not, many men are just as confused and hurt during fights as we are. They might be thinking about how to fix things, or they could simply be overwhelmed. It often depends on the guy and the situation. Sometimes, they just need space to process their feelings.
3. That You Don’t Understand Him
This one goes both ways. Women and men both feel misunderstood during arguments. There’s a little trick that can be very helpful here. It can be a good idea to tell your man what you think he means and ask for clarification. Many times what we think they mean isn’t what they really mean at all.
4. That You Complain a Lot
Men tend to think that women complain a lot. We women know that there’s usually a very good reason for our complaining, right? But since women are generally more talkative than men, they can get overwhelmed when we state the problem in six different ways. It’s sometimes best to say what’s wrong once in a direct manner. Men are usually more willing to communicate when you’re direct with them.
5. That You’re Way Ahead of Him in the Fight
Women are usually verbal queens. We’re pretty good at verbal battles. While men can hold their own in an argument, inside they feel like they're losing. Men need more time to process and think than we do. Women instantly know what our feelings are. They often don’t.
6. That It’s a Stupid Fight
Men and women both feel this way at times. Have you ever found yourself in the middle of an argument and wondered why you were fighting? That’s usually a sign that you’re fighting over something trivial. Those are times it’s good to call a stop to the fight. Decide to let it go and enjoy your day together.
7. That You Assume the Worst of Him
In the middle of an argument, men are often frustrated because they feel you’re assuming the worst of them. He may feel you don’t want to understand him. He’s probably also thinking how much he adores you and doesn’t know why you can’t see that. Both men and women can feel their partner assumes the worst of them. You’ll have fewer and shorter arguments when you both give each other the benefit of the doubt.
These are 7 things men often think during a fight. Do some of them surprise you? Do you see these points in your man when you look back at your arguments?
Comments
Megan: That you're just nagging & he is 'right,' & you are,'wrong.'
Katie: Well said Megan
Janice: Terrific article. Thank you. Although I've never put this all tgther myself-- my experience seems to indicate your spot ON
Kusu: Hi i got married 3 months ago i was stressed under relationship that all to includes through in-laws. Now i cm to vacation to my mom. Before that had indirect fight wit my spouse don't know he z not answering my cal from 1 month. Really i lost my patience tel me he z really had love towards me. I'm n confusion
Gracie: This is exactly what my partner thinks. Oh boys.. 😆
Charbar: Great topic!
Zelig: Yes 1 is true !
peony: Yes but making up is so much better
Josey: Thanks
Nanda: Thanks a lot !!
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