Whether we realize it or not, we're always doing little things to test our boyfriends to evaluate their potential. Sometimes we understand exactly what we're doing and look for the "right" response. At other times, we don't even realize that we're testing him until we hear him give the "wrong" answer and become upset over it. If you don't think you've ever evaluated your boyfriend, here are a few things that most girls have done, whether they realize it or not:
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1. How He Treats the Waiter
You probably didn't take your boyfriend to a restaurant for the sole purpose of seeing how he treated the waiter. However, once you're sitting at that table and your server approaches, you're going to pay close attention to his reaction. Does he smile at the waiter? Does he yell when the waiter brings over the wrong meal? Does he leave a good tip? All of those things are sneaky ways to judge a man's personality.
2. If He’ll Text Her First
Have you ever woken up in the morning, eager to talk to your boyfriend, but stopped yourself from sending the first text? If you have, it's probably because you wanted to see how long it would take him to message you. You might do the same thing with the words "I love you." Even though you're crazy over him, sometimes you just want him to say those three little words before you do.
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Honestly, it's all about making sure he's the right fit! We want to feel secure and loved, and these little tests can give us some insight into how he really feels.
Oh, there are so many! You could see how he reacts when you're upset, or how he behaves around your friends. Those little moments can reveal a lot about his true colors.
In moderation, sure! It can be helpful to know where you stand in a relationship. But remember, it's also important to communicate openly and not rely solely on these tests.
They can, especially if the results show something concerning. But it's all about taking those insights and having open conversations to strengthen the relationship.
Sometimes they do! But often, they're just being themselves. It's kind of a natural way to see how they react in different scenarios without any pressure.
3. If Her Friends like Him
Some women introduce their mate to their friends in order to see what they think of him. Other ladies make the introductions because they just want to have a fun time hanging out as a group. No matter what the case may be, once a woman's friends meet her boyfriend, they're going to share their opinions on him. Even though a bad opinion might not break a couple up, a woman would much rather hear a positive review to know that she's on the right romantic path.
4. Asking about Her Outfit
Have you ever asked your man if he likes your outfit, or if "your jeans make you look fat?" If you have, then there's only one correct answer. As much as we admire honesty in a man, we aren't going to be happy if he insults our fashion choices.
5. Commenting on Another Girl
Here's another test that you might not purposely give him, but it happens nevertheless. When you see a pretty girl in person or on the television and comment on how gorgeous she is, your boyfriend needs to find a way to respond. If he agrees, then you could get jealous. But if he disagrees, then you know he's just a liar. It's a lose-lose situation.
6. If He's Actually Listening
Have you ever stopped in a middle of a story to ask your man what you've just said? Even if you know your tale is boring, it's frustrating to realize that your partner hasn't been listening to a word that you've been saying.
7. How He Treats His Mother
The only thing more important than how he treats the waitress is how he treats his mother. If he talks down to the woman who raised him, then he might be a troublemaker. Unless she did something to deserve the negative treatment, you should watch out, because he might end up treating you poorly in the future, too.
When you're in a relationship, it's hard to avoid testing your boyfriend, even if you know you'd love him regardless of whether or not he fails the tests. Have you ever used any of these tests to purposely try to evaluate your boyfriend?
Comments
Nia: My mother always told me that number 7 is extremely important. She says that how a man feels about his mom will determine the type of relationships he has with females. I am not sure if I agree or disagree yet..
June: But yes the majority of mothers try their best and deserve to be respected
Jessica: I totally agree with #7
Wendy: I completely agree with number 7.
Fjdjsjd: If a guy doesn't find a girl attractive an tells you he's a liar? Wtf just because I find someone pretty doesn't mean my boyfriend will
Jenna: I think a good response to #5 would be "she is pretty, not as pretty as you are though"
Alyx: I agree with June bug. Yes it's important, but don't just avoid a guy because he doesn't adore his mother. My current partner's mother was incredibly mentally abusive, and I pushed to go meet the family, and it was a complete disaster. If I could I would have not gone at all and just listened to the "I don't like to go see my mother, she hates everything I do" because the fights in that household were horrible and heartbreaking. I got insulted tons too. I would rather have Gordon Ramsey as my in law, he'd be less mentally abusive.
Meg: The best response for number 5 is "she's not nearly as pretty as you"
Bunny: You might agree with me or disagree but in all honesty his mum comes first!! He he is unfair to you and does it to spite you then the whole thing is wrong !!
Kailee: Charts? Respectfully of his mom doesn't concretely mean he'll be the same w you...this "testing" is very high school. If you're confident w yourself you don't need this testing sh*~. ***It's also a two way street ladies*** If my man is kind, sensitive and attentive to my needs, respectful, kind, courteous etc... these are important to me. Giving ya'll a situation that should raise a red flag, personal experience here, if he constantly chooses his mother over you, let him go, I swear on a stack of Bibles. If your bf has sisters, bonus, he knows how to treat women, again my experience. Omg, I should write a blog cuz this is longggg, last but not least, watch out for signs of a narcissist, you will NEVER be the same after dating one. If ya wanna know their traits, google it, it might be the best thing you've ever spent time researching. Lastly FOR REAL, if you're confident in who you are, what you have to give this world, your man looking at beautiful woman should not be an issue, he's with you not her! Just saying xo
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