What Makes a Person Fall in Love?

Holly

Love is a tricky thing to study, because there's not a concrete set of rules to determine when and why one person falls for another. However, people tend to respond lovingly to certain traits and emotions. They're the catalysts that cause you to eventually develop strong feelings for a person you've become close to. Here are a few things that can make a person fall in love:

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1. Something Nice to Look at

You can love with someone without finding them attractive, but looks frequently play a big part when it comes to falling for someone. After all, when you think that someone is sexy, don't you want to get to know them better? Their appearance acts as a stepping stone to love, drawing you in, and giving you incentive to get to know their personality, which will be the ultimate reason why you fall head over heels for them.

2. That Special Chemistry

It's difficult to describe what chemistry is, but it's easy to tell if you have it with your partner. If you have chemistry, then each touch and kiss will feel electric. Every time you look at them, you'll feel like you're exactly where you're meant to be.

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3. Comfort from the Start

When you find the love of your life, you'll instantly feel comfortable talking to them. Even though you've only known them for a few minutes, you'll feel like they've been in your life forever. The best part about being comfortable with your partner is that there are no awkward silences. Every second spent together is cherished, whether you're speaking or not.

4. Same Taste in Shows

It's said that opposites attract, but people commonly fall for others who have the same set of interests. Maybe you both love the same TV shows, or maybe you're both studying the same field in college. Either way, it gives you something to bond over, which will help you two get closer, and ultimately fall in love.

5. He's Your Superhero

It's easy to develop feelings for a man when he makes you feel safe, like nothing could ever hurt you. In fact, you wouldn't even mind if something were to hurt you, because all that matters is that your man is there by your side. When you're with him, you wouldn't mind if the world ended, because you'd be with the one person you truly loved.

6. Top Notch Human Being

When you admire someone's talents and respect them as a person, it's easy to fall for them. After all, you don't want to be in a relationship with someone whom you don't respect. You need a man who you believe is a valuable member of society and actually contributes to the well being of the world.

7. Smiles All around

It's rare to feel truly happy, so when you find someone who can make you smile when you're at your lowest point, you'll want to keep them around. If the mere sight of a man or the sound of his voice gets you in a better mood, then you're on the fast track to falling in love.

Love is a funny thing, because it's hard to pinpoint exactly what causes it. It tends to be a grouping of a bunch of qualities and emotions all blended together. What do you think made you fall in love with your partner?

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Totally agree!

I've discovered that he is just as much of a nutter like me, there are always sparks flying when we contradict each other, we have the same tastes, the chemistry is beyond me, we just love each other's quirks, we find it hard to stay annoyed with each other for long and we both feel complete with each other. Never felt like this before. Is this what real love feels like? And if it is, it feels amazing!

In a better world, #7 would be at the top of the list...and #1 would relegated to #99! Good question, Grayce...as Holly noted in her preface, there are no set standards for love, whether you are falling in love, or out of love...my life experience has taught me that love is just a stepping stone, as Holly said. I think, because the state of being in love can be so euphoric, people want love to be the final destination. The final destination is, imo, commitment, that's when two people have accepted each other's faults and flaws, and you are more in love with all those traits you can't and don't see in your partner...

i love being in love!!!!

Don't forget about being yourself. A person loves someone who isn't hiding the real them. Imagine if things were to get serious and the entire time you have been faking who you REALLY are. Also, honestly! People love an honest individual when your opinion or outlook is asked by your partner be honest...no matter how it may make them feel or think. The world needs more honest people!

What about what makes people fall out of love?

We had the same quirks like both right handed and eat left handed. Amazing chemistry, felt like I have known him my whole life. A feeling of belonging and coming home.

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Literally word for word, is exactly how I feel. Right up to the "feeling safe" part! Kinda scared me at how accurate all of this is.

I was very scared because a man I've only known for two weeks embodies everything this article sats. We speak to each other everyday. From the moment we met the chemistry was insane. He has already told me he's in love with me. And its still exciting but scary all at the same time