Wanting your ex back is perfectly normal. After sharing so many happy moments together, learning everything about one another, and falling in love, it's okay to miss that. But, know the difference between getting back together because it's convenient and getting back together because your relationship has the potential to be better than it was.
If it's been a few months since your breakup and all you can do is think about your ex, give him a call. If it's been over a year and you know you're doing fine on your own, why look back? Keep movin' forward, girl! That's just my opinion - but, of course, the only thing you can do is follow your heart. Here's some things to consider before taking your ex back:
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1. It Won't Be the Same as before
Don't go into the relationship thinking things will be exactly how they were before. Chances are, if you had a messy breakup, both of you will have your guards up for a while. The pain from the breakup will change the dynamic of the relationship. It'll take a while to learn to trust each other again but if you're willing to work at it, patience is key.
2. Not Everyone Will Support Your Decision
Ultimately, the decision of whom you date is yours. However, that doesn't mean your best friends will be 100% happy about it. If you were hurt during your breakup, your friends don't want to see that happen again. They're trying to keep your best interests at heart. Give them some time to come around and accept your decision!
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3. Root of Your Breakup
Before even considering getting back together with your ex, ask yourself if you ever fixed the root of your problem? Was the breakup caused by infidelity? While we all want to believe that people can change, how can you ever be so sure? Figure out WHY you broke up, and how you can move past in that in your future relationship.
4. Is This an Old Habit?
It's easy to fall back into old habits with a familiar person. Are you getting back together just because it's easy and you're tired of feeling lonely? If you're not sure that you have genuine feelings (again), don't waste your time.
So, after taking these things into consideration, will you be taking your ex back? Sound off in the comments!
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I have recently got back with my ex boyfriend, we have been together since April and spilt up 5 years ago! It was a very messy breakup with a lot of heartache, but I can honestly say I've never been happier! We have both changed so much and have got together for all the right reasons. I'm not saying it would work for everyone, but it's working pretty well for us. I think all relationships are different and all have problems, it's just about respect and understanding.
I support Karen's stand 100%!
As long as the two are willing to work on it I see no problem. To each it's own
No way to take your ex back! If it didnt work the first time, it won't work the second time either.
i agree with Yvonne :)
I split from my ex in feb he said he didn't want me. I was getting over him when he came back on the scene it turned out he'd been in contact with his ex,he told me he loved me and wanted to be with me He promised he wouldn't do it again. But lo and behold 3 weeks ago he did it again I was devasted as I put my faith and trust in him. It now turns out that he had been in contact with his ex again and been talking to her when we were together. He says he's in love with the both of us. I have my children to co udder and as much as he means to me I'm not going there again I deserve that fairy tale ending the same as everyone else. And to anyone out there never go back to your ex.
It breaks my heart to hear of women tht are subject to the type of man tht cheats and comes back when it's convenient like you're the flavor of the month. I've been in quite a few relationships but nvr nvr take a man back if he cheats on you. He will nvr change this is who he is. He will nvr love you as much as he loves himself. Men like tht are nvr satisfied. Always looking for something else. You deserve btr! It's always btr to be alone than in bad company. Once you're happy single by yourself you'll attract a btr kind of man. Nvr go back to an ex it didn't work for a reason. #Not worth it!
Sidenote: it took me 2 years to completely leave my ex alone. Best decision I've made. I could tell he hadn't fully changed in almost 3 years. Sad, but reality is people don't change over night.
have some standards, you broke up for a reason, we move forward not back.
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Becky:I have recently got back with my ex boyfriend, we have been together since April and spilt up 5 years ago! It was a very messy breakup with a lot of heartache, but I can honestly say I've never been happier! We have both changed so much and have got together for all the right reasons. I'm not saying it would work for everyone, but it's working pretty well for us. I think all relationships are different and all have problems, it's just about respect and understanding.
Serene:I support Karen's stand 100%!
Yvonne:As long as the two are willing to work on it I see no problem. To each it's own
Chelsea:No way to take your ex back! If it didnt work the first time, it won't work the second time either.
Lisa:i agree with Yvonne :)
Super:I split from my ex in feb he said he didn't want me. I was getting over him when he came back on the scene it turned out he'd been in contact with his ex,he told me he loved me and wanted to be with me He promised he wouldn't do it again. But lo and behold 3 weeks ago he did it again I was devasted as I put my faith and trust in him. It now turns out that he had been in contact with his ex again and been talking to her when we were together. He says he's in love with the both of us. I have my children to co udder and as much as he means to me I'm not going there again I deserve that fairy tale ending the same as everyone else. And to anyone out there never go back to your ex.
Vnessa:It breaks my heart to hear of women tht are subject to the type of man tht cheats and comes back when it's convenient like you're the flavor of the month. I've been in quite a few relationships but nvr nvr take a man back if he cheats on you. He will nvr change this is who he is. He will nvr love you as much as he loves himself. Men like tht are nvr satisfied. Always looking for something else. You deserve btr! It's always btr to be alone than in bad company. Once you're happy single by yourself you'll attract a btr kind of man. Nvr go back to an ex it didn't work for a reason. #Not worth it!
Wanda:Sidenote: it took me 2 years to completely leave my ex alone. Best decision I've made. I could tell he hadn't fully changed in almost 3 years. Sad, but reality is people don't change over night.
KaReN:have some standards, you broke up for a reason, we move forward not back.
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