There are a lot of things no-one should do in the beginning of a new relationship. Sometimes it’s pretty hard to realize what those things are, especially if all those butterflies in your stomach can make you not think straight. Nobody’s perfect when it comes to knowing how to behave in the beginning of a new relationship, but with a little bit of help, you will see that it’s not that hard to control your emotions and behave in a more appropriate way according to the stage of your relationship.
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1. Don’t Lie!
I know that sometimes you may feel a little bit insecure, but you should get a hold of yourself and on your feelings and don’t do the mistake most people do in the beginning of a new relationship: don’t lie! Honesty is always the right thing to do in every situation, especially when it comes to your love life. Don’t lie, whether you are tempted to do it because you wanna improve yourself and you think that by lying you will win somebody’s love, or because you don’t wanna hurt somebody’s feelings in case you are not that interested after you got to know them better. By being honest, you’ll be able to avoid those unpleasant situations that may appear afterwards.
2. Don’t Play “Hard to Get”!
Of course, you shouldn’t be too available either but there’s such a thin line between hard to get and overly convenient. You should try to find the perfect balance between those two attitudes so you won’t have any problems about knowing what to do in the beginning of a new relationship. Don’t postpone dates if you are not really busy, answer your phone or your text messages and be honest! You will see, that for some people playing hard to get, it can be the thing that will drive them away because they are quite busy so they don’t have time for any games.
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3. Lay off Those Drinks!
I know that if you are a bit insecure or shy, you might be tempted to have a few more extra drinks because you might think this is the best way to be braver, more sociable or even more interesting. Well, you couldn’t be more wrong, especially if you are not used to drinking! You might get sick because of all those cocktails and trust me, no one likes someone who appears to have a drinking problem, not to mention, being in a relationship with a this kind of person. So, try to be well-balanced and remember that most people think shy people are in fact, adorable.
4. Don’t Hurry!
Another thing you shouldn’t do in the beginning of a new relationship is hurrying and throwing yourself head first into that relationship. You might scare your partner if you call him 20 times a day or if you make plans for your summer vacation together, when you’ve only dated for a couple of times. Don’t tell them how many kids you wanna have or what color would be the curtains of your dream house. You’ll only scare them away and they might not get to know the wonderful person that you really are.
5. Don’t Move in Too Quickly!
Another thing a lot of people in the beginning of a new relationship are tempted to do, is moving in together even though they’ve only been a couple for a month or two. Remember: you have no reason to hurry, wait a little longer to get to know your partner better. This thing takes time, just wait ‘till the butterflies calm down a bit so you will be more reasonable, because such a step needs some planning and analyzing. It’s a pretty big deal and I’m sure you wouldn’t wanna move back after a couple of weeks if you’ll realize you partner is not what you though him or her to be.
6. Don’t do All the Talking!
I know it may be tempting to try to impress your partner by always talking about all your accomplishments and about all your wonderful qualities. But try not to bore him (or her), just let him (or her) discover all by themselves all there is to know about you. Don’t spoil that pleasure and keep in mind that a little bit of mystery is always a good way to spice things up in your relationship. So, try to avoid doing all the talking and give your partner the chance to ask you a few questions.
7. Don’t Have Sex on Your First Date!
I know I said that you shouldn’t play hard to get, but you shouldn’t be too available either. I know that you might think your date is the one for you or that you really have something special which will turn into a beautiful relationship, but try to keep your feet on the ground and don’t go with the flow if you want more from someone than a one night stand. So, don’t have sex on the first date and make him (or her) work for it!
There are so many things you might be tempted to do in the beginning of a new relationship because you wanna please your partner and this way, you can make a lot of mistakes too. Do you have in mind any other mistakes you need to avoid in the beginning of a new relationship? Please share your experience with us in the comments section!
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Denise: @Shelby Lynn I dislike the fact you say It's a self respect thing. It is not. Trying to make it work with someone is to discover whether or not you connect with them on every level - also sexually. Waiting until you're married and then discovering that you can't connect with your spouse in bed... That will not make a happy marriage.
Magali: My mom said guys get tired of a girl who is easy, if a guy leaves just because you don\'t sleep with him then he is obviously a jerk who only wanted you for one thing! A man who sticks around even when you don\'t sleep with him is someone who is actually interested in you! I don\'t care how old fashioned it may seem, but I agree with Shelby Lynn!
Lorin: Save your self for marriage . Purity is the best gift u can give to your spouse
Vennybowvenny: Interesting, I agree on holding off the sex until he works for it. Lol. I decided to wait until we get really serious and committed to one another even though we are seeing eachother exclusively. If you like it then put a ring on it!!! Lol. My bf is really impressed that i don\'t want to copulate. He is the hottest thing but it\'s all self control and self respect. I\'m actually having the upper hand in this relationship and enjoying the love that he\'s giving to me. Work it!!! But there\'s no harm in other safer ways to please eachother! Just saying lol
Brenda: I respect that some people would like to wait till marriage to have sex, but please don\'t go around saying that\'s disrespectful to your own self. That\'s ridiculous, it is in no way disrespectful unless your out walking the streets selling your body. There\'s nothing wrong with premarital sex!! Some people would rather just know beforehand what kind of situation they are getting themselves into because that\'s how affairs and cheating start, one person was dissatisfied so they go seek it elsewhere... Again this is my personal opinion but you can do whatever you like just be safe and don\'t do anything you don\'t feel comfortable doing. Don\'t allow yourself to be pressured.
Denise: As I thought my now boyfriend was going to be a one night stand, we had sex even before our first date. It's a crazy story, we've done it all the wrong way, but we fell in love like never before and he never left after that night. We've moved crazy fast but we are crazy happy. I always thought that all of the things on this list are obvious relationship killers, but in reality, it all depends on the person you fall in love with. Sometimes all you can do is forget the risk and take the fall. If it's meant to be, it's worth it all.
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