Are you in the midst of a long distance breakup? If you’re going through a breakup right now and would like some tips on how to survive it, I’ve got some helpful suggestions that might work for you. Breakups are incredibly hard, but the fact that your relationship was long distance might actually make the healing process a little easier. With that said, let’s take a look at some of the things you can do to help make this difficult long distance breakup a little less painless.
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1. Give Yourself Time to Grieve
First and foremost, when you’re dealing with a long distance breakup, give yourself private time to cry, yell and just grieve. You’re going through a loss and it’s a huge change to your life! Don’t try to bottle all of your feelings up or place unrealistic expectations on yourself to get over the whole ordeal within a certain amount of time, it’s unhealthy. It takes time to heal and everyone reacts differently to breakups.
2. Keep It Private
When you’re going through a breakup, as much as you want to cry to other people, try not to! Of course you should vent to your close friends and tell them what happened. But what I’m talking about is going out and bursting into tears to random people. I know it sounds harsh, but having to explain yourself to strangers can be awkward and meeting new people is extremely difficult if you’re crying. Why not lay low for awhile and give yourself time before you get back out in the social scene?
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3. No New Friends
Right after breaking up is not the best time to start being friends with your ex. The wounds are still fresh and it’ll be really hard for you to try to be friends with someone you very well still have feelings for. Staying in touch with your ex immediately after the breakup can make the healing process that much more difficult, so if you want to stay friends with your ex, give it time and revisit the situation at a later date.
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When it comes to long distance breakups, it is important to remember that it takes time to heal. Right after the breakup, it is not the best time to try to be friends with your ex. The wounds are still fresh, and it can be difficult to try to be friends with someone you still have feelings for. Staying in touch with them immediately after the breakup can make the healing process more difficult.
It is important to give yourself time to grieve and process the breakup. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that come with the breakup. Take time to reflect on the relationship and what went wrong. It is also important to remember that it is ok to take a break from social media and other platforms that could remind you of your ex.
It is essential to take care of yourself during this time. Make sure to get enough sleep, eat healthy, and exercise. Spend time with friends and family who can provide emotional support. Consider joining a support group or talking to a therapist if you need additional help.
4. Stay Busy
While you’re going through a breakup, one of the best things you can do for yourself is to keep busy. Clean out your room, put in some extra time at work or start a project you’ve been wanting to do. If you spend too much time doing nothing, you can drive yourself nuts obsessing about things or looking at old emails and photos, which makes the healing process that much longer and more difficult.
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Engaging in new activities can also be incredibly therapeutic. Consider taking up a hobby like painting, joining a local sports team, or volunteering at a community event. It's about channeling your energies into something productive that's also enjoyable. By expanding your horizons and meeting new people, you're forging fresh memories and experiences. This doesn't just distract you; it helps to redefine your sense of self away from the context of the relationship. And remember, it's perfectly okay to ease into social activities when you're ready – there's no rush in your journey to heal.
5. Write It down
If you don’t like to talk about your feelings to others, writing them down can be really helpful. Start a journal to jot down how you’re feeling and use it to help yourself move on. That means no writing about what you miss or love about the other person or how much you want to get back together with them. Think about what you learned from the relationship, or perhaps what you’ve learned about yourself and your needs and wants.
6. Get Offline
Another helpful tip to keep in mind after a breakup is to stay off the internet. If you were in a long distance relationship, chances are you two spent a lot of time chatting online or emailing one another. Don’t give yourself the option of being able to check up on your ex through Facebook or read old messages. Instead, use your time to rediscover your old passions or learn something new!
7. Have Fun
Once you’re ready, get out there and have fun! Catch up with your friends, go on a road trip or take a vacation somewhere you’ve always wanted to go. You won’t be able to have fun or move on if you’re always at home hiding! There’s a big world out there that’s waiting to be explored! Get out there and have some fun!
I know things are really rough right now but it will get better with time. I know breaking up with someone is really hard, but trying to stay positive, keeping busy and having a shoulder to lean can make the situation much less overwhelming and stressful. Have you ever gone through a long distance breakup?
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nat18: Thank you for the help my long distance relationship ex boyfriend broke up with because he to busy with college and his job....He told me that he didn't love me anymore and it's was best that we finish now then later when he promise me we where going to get married and all that stuff...I feel so heart broken and don't even want to keep going.... I just really love him and don't want anyone else to be with me :( :( :( happened yesterday
Jeanette: All tips are good. My ex wants to be my (friends) after him breakup with me (got along 14yrs together) and I thinks his is a stupid selfish, in that time I send him flying. Now, after 5 months (no calls, texts or contact with his friends) I thanks for leaving me. I've met other people and Im very happy without him around me. :)
Kaylie: I guess I wasn't worth it anymore
Valerie: Its literally so hard to even get up in the morning. As soon as I wake up its the first thing on my mind, and I feel depressed when I know I should be happy to be alive. Its the last thing I think about at night. All these movies and songs about love, especially our favorites, gets me really low. We were long distance but couldve easily made it work. Now all thats left is heartbreak, wonder, and hurt.. alot of hurt.. the only person I ever envisioned a future with. @kimara I can relate to you completely. @Kaylie thats ExacTLY how I feel. :(
Kimmy: I'm going through it right now. It's just so hard :(
Radhika: Nywzz thnks..!!
Fritzie: This helps! We broke up today and its our "monthsary" he never care.
sharon: this helps alot I was with my ex for two years he tried to come over and see me in December I'm from the uk they didn't let him in cause he didn't have any bank statements I went to see him for two weeks in the states we got on so well we were going to get married and I was going to move over their while i was their he read up the requirements for us to get married and for me to get a green card and he dosent fit any of the requirements he lives at home and has no car and works for his mum and dad in their painting business and their was no way we could be together as it would take ages for him to get a car a new job and house I said I'd wait as I loved him that much but when I got home he said he just wanted to be friends this was on Monday haven't heard from him since I'm so heartbroken about it all
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