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10 First Date Mistakes to Avoid ...

By Lisa

If you have a first date coming up then you’ve got to read up on these first date mistakes to avoid! We all know how nerve-wracking first dates can be, but there are definitely some things to look out for when you’re getting to know someone new. Assuming you want to see this person again, let’s make sure you make a good first and lasting impression by noting these avoidable first date mistakes, and get ready to book that second date!

1 Two Drink Maximum

We might want to loosen up when we’re in potentially awkward social situations, but drinking too much is definitely one of the first date mistakes you want to avoid! If you can handle more than two drinks, have another, but anything over three drinks and you can end up in a totally awkward and embarrassing situation! We all know that being a hot mess is not cute!

2 Ex-Games

Another first date mistake to avoid at all costs is mentioning your ex. Regardless of whether you talk them up or profess your undying hatred for them, it’ll come across as inappropriate and really, why even bring them up?! If you’re still hung up on your ex, give yourself time to heal before you start dating. If you’re ready to move on, then don’t look back!

3 Cell Block

I think we all have that friend who is constantly attached to their phone texting, emailing, tweeting and updating their status. Since we know how annoying that can be, don’t do it to your date! If your friends want updates, wait until you’re home or at least until you’re alone. Being preoccupied by your phone can make you appear impolite and I know you’re a sweetie!

4 Q&a

Other things to avoid on a first date include talking too much about yourself and asking too many questions. You don’t want to interrogate your date and, at the same time, you don’t want to go on and on about yourself. Some experts will say not to ask more than three questions in a row and to ask a question back for two questions asked. Just put yourself in your date’s shoes and remember the golden rule!

5 Break in

If you planned a hot outfit for your first date, do yourself a favor and don’t wear anything brand new. Whether you’re talking shoes, underwear or clothes, anytime you wear something you’re not used to you’re running the risk of having a wardrobe malfunction or spending the night being uncomfortable. Break in your shoes beforehand and make sure your clothes fit comfortably before wearing them out.

6 Dress Code

Speaking of clothes and things to avoid on a first date, you want to dress to impress but appropriate. You don’t want to dress too provocatively or you could end up sending the wrong message. At the same time, you don’t want to go to casual where it looks like you didn’t put any effort in. Wear something flattering but still leaves something to the imagination!

7 Proper Primping

Don’t make the common first date mistake of primping at the table. No matter how small of a touch-up you need to make, excuse yourself to go to the restroom before you preen. Breaking out your compact mirror and fixing your face in front of your date can come off as rude to others and your date.

8 Keep It Simple

When it comes to accessories, fragrances and makeup, it’s best to keep it simple. Too many accessories can be awkward and cumbersome. Too much perfume can be overwhelming and a total turnoff. Also, stick to makeup you’re used to so your makeup is seamless and natural looking.

9 Unpacking Your Baggage

Another first date mistake to avoid is to unpack all your baggage on the first date. Yes, you want to be upfront and honest, but you don’t want to go into an hour long rant about your personal problems when you’re still feeling someone out! Once you’re in a relationship, there’s plenty of time for that so don’t be in a rush to reveal all!

10 Be Yourself

You’re beautiful and awesome whether you realize it or not. Try your best to be cool and calm and be yourself. After all, you want to be honest with your date and you want to present your true self. If your date can’t handle the real you, then you move on the next! You’re too amazing to try and be someone you’re not just to impress someone!

I know you have a lot to worry about on a first date but just remember to keep these tips in mind! Even if your date doesn’t go as perfectly as planned, you’re human and we all make mistakes. Above all, remember to have a good time and be yourself! Do you have any first date tips to share with us or things you wish you knew about before you went out?

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