How to Be a Good Girlfriend Even during the Rough Patches ...

By Alison • May 29, 2015

It's easy to forget that the path of true love never runs smoothly. Even the best relationships hit rough patches! And when we're cross with our partner we distance ourselves, or act like they're ruining the relationship. But if we accept that there are difficult times between couples, we are showing maturity and being a good partner. Here's how to be a good girlfriend, even during the rough patches …

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1. Accept His Flaws

When things are a little tricky between you and your boyfriend, it's easy to focus on his flaws and get even more cross with him. But his flaws are part of him, and nobody's perfect. It's far more realistic to accept him as he is, rather than wishing he was something he's not.

2. Support His Decisions

Supporting his decisions is one way of being a good partner, even if you don't always agree with them. You do have a right to be concerned how his choices will affect you, but equally he has the right to make those choices. Maturity means supporting what our loved ones do, even if we don't always understand or agree with them.

3. Be There when He Needs to Talk

Men have a reputation for never wanting to talk about their feelings, but that's not always true. If he needs to talk, be there for him. If you're having problems, talk about them as adults; don't distance yourself or flounce off in anger. Mature people discuss their issues. And try to 'read' him, so that you can tell when he needs some gentle encouragement to talk.

4. Wait It out

Every relationship has its rough patches. There isn't one single couple in the history on mankind that's never had an argument! So sometimes the best thing you can do for your partner and your relationship is wait it out. Don't assume at the first sign of trouble that your relationship is doomed! See it as something that's perfectly normal - you have to take the rough with the smooth.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Remember That It's Not All about You

We can be rather selfish in relationships and see ourselves as the priority. But remember that it's not all about you. His feelings and thoughts count as well. Sometimes it's only fair to let him follow his own path, so if you're getting cross with him because he wants to do something you're not happy with remind yourself that there are two people in the relationship.

6. Work at It

The best relationships are between people who are willing to stick it out and work at it. It can't be all romance and flowers, and we need the tougher times so that we can appreciate the better times. Be a good girlfriend by putting the effort into the relationship.

7. Give Him Space

Finally, as well as being there when he needs to talk, you should also know when it's better to give him some space. As much fun as being in a relationship can be, it can also be intense and sometimes a bit stifling. Know when he needs to be by himself, and don't push him to always put you first.

Being a good girlfriend doesn't mean being a doormat, but rather being accepting and considerate of his feelings and needs. Do this, and your relationship will be stronger. What do you think are the three most important aspects of a relationship?

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  • Shaila

    2016-11-09T04:12:02.915Z

    What should I do?? Nowadays i dont really know on how to become a better girlfriend and im so afraid to lose him if i dont get his trust back..
  • Nancy

    2015-05-30T07:44:21.839Z

    My boyfriend and i both do this. Its not a one way street. We both put in the effort because thats the only way this relationship will work.
  • Dana

    2015-07-20T21:16:24.298Z

    Felicia 3015. Run and run fast. He sounds like a narcissist. You'll never win!
  • She

    2015-05-31T17:12:30.064Z

    @ramen I agree to the 5th power
  • Pl0x

    2015-05-30T12:00:48.069Z

    The only way any relationship can get over the rough patches is when both partners are patient and understanding. Demanding that your SO does the things in this article first is counterproductive. That being said, if your SO is incapable of doing any of these things, your relationship might be worth reconsidering.
  • Kaitleen

    2016-12-12T06:52:11.299Z

    @Shaila We all need a man who is more then happy with us and shows us off to the world and makes us there number 1.
  • Shaila

    2016-11-09T04:09:42.028Z

    I have a problem i lied to my boyfriend coz theres only one reason maybe he might get mad if I tell him that my friends know about us.... like I have sex with him? Coz im drunk at that moment and my friends tell everybody
  • Claire

    2015-05-30T03:46:47.877Z

    Having a 'finance' who, when he does go out, stays out until 5-6am. I can't deal with a relationship like this. It's driving me nuts. He thinks he isn't doing any harm but he couldn't give a shit how it's effecting me.
  • She

    2015-05-30T01:23:40.634Z

    Shit...reading this & realizing that I fucked up
  • Felicia3015

    2015-05-31T18:58:46.720Z

    My boyfriend always wants to stay distant from me we get in a spat he's like leave alone r if things don't go his way he gets all mad at me an tries to boss me but I don't let him at all and that makes him even madder do you think I'm in a unhealthy relationship? Comment as much as you want an feel be 100 with me everyone who reads this please ty😚
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