How to Be a Good Girlfriend, Even during the Rough Patches ...

By Alison • May 29, 2015 MD

It's easy to forget that the path of true love never runs smoothly. Even the best relationships hit rough patches! And when we're cross with our partner we distance ourselves, or act like they're ruining the relationship. But if we accept that there are difficult times between couples, we are showing maturity and being a good partner. Here's how to be a good girlfriend, even during the rough patches …

1. Accept His Flaws

When things are a little tricky between you and your boyfriend, it's easy to focus on his flaws and get even more cross with him. But his flaws are part of him, and nobody's perfect. It's far more realistic to accept him as he is, rather than wishing he was something he's not.

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2. Support His Decisions

Supporting his decisions is one way of being a good partner, even if you don't always agree with them. You do have a right to be concerned how his choices will affect you, but equally he has the right to make those choices. Maturity means supporting what our loved ones do, even if we don't always understand or agree with them.

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3. Be There when He Needs to Talk

Men have a reputation for never wanting to talk about their feelings, but that's not always true. If he needs to talk, be there for him. If you're having problems, talk about them as adults; don't distance yourself or flounce off in anger. Mature people discuss their issues. And try to 'read' him, so that you can tell when he needs some gentle encouragement to talk.

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4. Wait It out

Every relationship has its rough patches. There isn't one single couple in the history on mankind that's never had an argument! So sometimes the best thing you can do for your partner and your relationship is wait it out. Don't assume at the first sign of trouble that your relationship is doomed! See it as something that's perfectly normal - you have to take the rough with the smooth.

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5. Remember That It's Not All about You

We can be rather selfish in relationships and see ourselves as the priority. But remember that it's not all about you. His feelings and thoughts count as well. Sometimes it's only fair to let him follow his own path, so if you're getting cross with him because he wants to do something you're not happy with remind yourself that there are two people in the relationship.

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6. Work at It

The best relationships are between people who are willing to stick it out and work at it. It can't be all romance and flowers, and we need the tougher times so that we can appreciate the better times. Be a good girlfriend by putting the effort into the relationship.

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7. Give Him Space

Finally, as well as being there when he needs to talk, you should also know when it's better to give him some space. As much fun as being in a relationship can be, it can also be intense and sometimes a bit stifling. Know when he needs to be by himself, and don't push him to always put you first.

Being a good girlfriend doesn't mean being a doormat, but rather being accepting and considerate of his feelings and needs. Do this, and your relationship will be stronger. What do you think are the three most important aspects of a relationship?

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  • LaDonna

    2015-05-30T02:57:27.684Z

    Love this article I needed that advice since I am in a new relationship thanks for this wonderful article! :-)
  • Felicia3015

    2015-05-31T18:58:46.720Z

    My boyfriend always wants to stay distant from me we get in a spat he's like leave alone r if things don't go his way he gets all mad at me an tries to boss me but I don't let him at all and that makes him even madder do you think I'm in a unhealthy relationship? Comment as much as you want an feel be 100 with me everyone who reads this please ty😚
  • Dana

    2015-05-30T16:10:47.706Z

    Yep, I'm with you She Loves Love.
  • She

    2015-05-31T17:11:10.859Z

    Akki crawston I think you should, why not? I think it's cute very romantic
  • Pl0x

    2015-05-30T12:00:48.069Z

    The only way any relationship can get over the rough patches is when both partners are patient and understanding. Demanding that your SO does the things in this article first is counterproductive. That being said, if your SO is incapable of doing any of these things, your relationship might be worth reconsidering.
  • Allana

    2015-05-30T14:18:08.825Z

    This exactly what I have been trying to explain.... To a friend of mine.
  • Ashley

    2015-05-30T12:46:44.603Z

    I agree with this post!
  • Cheyanne

    2015-05-30T06:31:49.914Z

    Its easier to find a girl that has all these qualities/does all these things then it is to find a man that does all these things....
  • Aubrey

    2015-05-31T07:24:02.303Z

    She Loves Love I'm with you too.
  • She

    2015-05-31T17:11:36.398Z

    Dana, glad I'm not the only one
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