By Lauren • 7 Comments
Having trouble getting a date? Have you got your eye on someone but don’t know how to get their attention? Are you just not a natural flirt? Flirting is an art and it can be learned. Honestly! Here’s how to flirt better than you’ve ever flirted before.
First thing to know about how to be an expert flirt is that more people practice in front of the mirror than you would think! And hey, why not? If it takes saying a few lines to your own reflection for them to stop feeling awkward coming out of your mouth, then go ahead and say them! Be careful though, you don’t want to practice to such an extent that what you say starts to sound robotic.
Want to see how good your game is? Why not try it out on a few platonic friends of the opposite sex and see how they react to your charms. If all of a sudden they seem a little more interested, then you know you’re doing well. If they’re not so impressed than ask what you’re doing wrong and try to fine tune. Feedback is always helpful!
If you overthink it and fret too much about making a fool of yourself, you are never going to make that step and open up to somebody in a flirty way. Be brave, be bold and go for it when you feel the time is right. It’s no secret: guys like to flirt with girls, so make yourself a willing participant and I am sure you will get a good response!
Don’t make it totally obvious, but next time you are out in a club with friends, take a look at a couple nearby who are flirting with each other. Are they doing things that you do not? Do you think it might be worth trying to replicate for yourself? Taking notes from a distance might seem a little creepy, but hey, if you discover something that you like it will be worth it!
So you’ve spotted a guy across the room that you like the look of. Take a minute or so before you walk over to think about and plan what you are going to say. There is nothing more embarrassing than going over and then drawing a conversational blank, so give yourself a little prep time to avoid any awkward silences that could potentially occur!
Just because something you did didn’t particularly work on one guy, it doesn’t mean that it won’t work on the next! All men, just like all women, are completely different, so it’s pretty much useless to try to fine tune a flirting routine that only caters to one kind of person. Get out there on the dance floor and get as much experience as you can. Flirting is fun after all, and it never has to lead to anything more if you don’t want it to!
At the end of the day, there is no point in pretending to be someone that you’re not when flirting with somebody, because one, you will not be able to keep it up, and two, if the guy is interested in the person you are pretending to be, he might not necessarily be interested in the real you if it is completely different! Act natural, be honest, and hopefully you will attract the right kind of attention from the right kind of guys.
Are you ready to get your flirt on?