Some men are hard to figure out. They'll act like they like you one day, but then they'll ignore you the next. If you've been trying to figure out whether your crush has been too busy to contact you or if he's just not interested, you no longer have to worry. Here are a few signs that he's not actually busy, and that he's just blowing you off:
1. His Excuses Never Make Sense
If he tells you that he can't hang out, because he promised his mom he'd wash her car, then he's blowing you off. It only takes a few minutes to wash a car, so he could make time for you if he really wanted to.
2. He Never Actually Gives You an Excuse
Maybe he never even gives you an excuse at all. If he simply tells you that he can't hang out, and doesn't provide an explanation, he probably doesn't have one.
3. He Won’t Answer Your Texts
If he'll answer your sister's messages in five seconds flat, but takes days to answer yours, he's blowing you off. He has time to talk to you, he just doesn't want to.
4. He Cancels All of Your Plans
Canceling plans once is understandable. But making it a habit means that he just doesn't want to put in the effort to see you.
5. His Phone Goes to Voicemail after One Ring
Phones take a while to go to voicemail. If it goes to voicemail after one ring, it means he pressed "ignore" on your call.
6. He Takes Days to Answer Your Texts
It's not that difficult to answer a simple message. If he can't get back to you in twenty-four hours, it's because he doesn't want to.
7. He Posts Partying Pictures on Social Media
If he tells you he's busy with work, but you always see pictures of him partying with friends on Facebook, then he's a liar. It's as simple as that.
8. He Always Cancels at the Last Minute
If he cancels at the last minute, you're probably his backup plan. He found better things to do.
9. He Claims His Phone Died
Everyone carries around their charger. There's no excuse for your phone dying.
10. He Never Starts the Conversation
You shouldn't always be the one starting the conversations. If you are, he probably doesn't want to have them.
11. You See a "read" Receipt on Your Messages
If he had enough time to read your messages, he had enough time to respond.
12. He Never Seems Interested in Your Convos
Does he answer every text message with "k?" Then he isn't all that interested in what you have to say.
13. You Have to Text Him Ten Times in a Row until He Answers
If you have to double text him to get him to answer, it's a bad sign.
14. He Won’t Give You a Rain Check
If he wanted to spend time with you, he'd make new plans with you after he cancelled old plans.
15. He's Unemployed
If he's unemployed and out of school, what could be taking up so much of his time?
16. He Talks about Other Girls
This means he's trying to let you down easy. He wants you to know that he's crushing on others, so you'll stop crushing on him.
17. He Forgets Your Name
If he calls you by the wrong name, he definitely isn't interested.
Men aren't all that confusing when you stop to examine their behaviors. Has a certain someone been blowing you off lately?
Frequently Asked Questions
- How can I tell if he's just busy or not interested?
- It's really all in his behavior. If he's genuinely busy but interested, he'll make an effort to communicate, even if it's brief. He won't leave you hanging for days or make you feel ignored. If he's not interested, he'll use 'busy' as an excuse to distance himself without hurting your feelings directly.
- What are subtle signs that show he's busy but still interested?
- Look for things like quick texts saying he’s swamped but thinking of you, trying to rearrange plans instead of just canceling them, or small gestures to stay in touch. Even if he's short on time, his effort to keep you in the loop speaks volumes.
- How do I know if he’s making excuses instead of being genuinely busy?
- Pay attention to his consistency. If he frequently bails with last-minute excuses, rarely follows up, or avoids making future plans, those are red flags. Someone who wants to be with you will be clear about rescheduling and show genuine regret for missing out.
- Is it possible for someone to be too busy for a relationship?
- Yes, sometimes life can be overwhelming with work, family, or personal commitments. But remember, even the busiest people make time for what (or who) they truly care about. It’s about prioritizing, and if you’re important, he will find a way to make space for you.
- What should I do if I feel like he's always too busy for me?
- First and foremost, communicate your feelings honestly. Let him know how his busyness is affecting you. It's important to set boundaries and decide what you are willing to accept. If it seems like he’s perpetually too busy, it might be worth considering if this relationship aligns with your needs.