Breakups are tough. Everyone tells you that there are other fish in the sea, you're better off, and you should just get over it, but it's not that easy. Every breakup is different, every reason is different, but there are lots of similarities, too. The pain, the regret, the hope – those are usually the same. It's just that nobody ever tells you the full truth about breakups.
1 Typically, the Love Doesn't Just Disappear
You can't just turn it on and off like a light switch, even if your ex was horrible and your breakup was messy.
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2 And It's Possible to Love Someone and Hate Them at the Same Time
You'll probably feel a whole big mix of things after your breakup, in fact.
3 Certain Songs, Movies, and Books Will Hurt You Too Much for a While
It might be a while before you can listen to certain songs, watch certain things, and go to places that remind you of your ex.
4 Sometimes Venting Your Vitriol Really is the Only Way to Feel Better
Everybody always tells you to rise above it, and you might resist the temptation, but it's understandable if you don't.
5 You Might Want to Get Back with Your Ex … a Lot
If you really think it's a possibility, you might want to surround yourself with friends and family for a while, so you don't send any texts or make any calls you'll regret.
6 You Might Even Be Willing to Put Yourself in Some Really Painful Situations
For example, you might force a friendship with your ex just to keep them in your life, even though it hurts.
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Breaking up is never easy, and it can be even more difficult when it’s with someone you once cared deeply about. It’s a painful process, but many people are willing to put themselves in difficult situations in order to make it through. You might be willing to put yourself in some really painful situations, such as forcing a friendship with your ex, even though it may hurt. This can be a way of maintaining a connection with them, even though you’re no longer in a romantic relationship.
It’s important to remember that forcing a friendship with an ex is not always the best way to cope with a breakup. It can be hard to accept that the relationship is over, but it’s important to respect the other person’s wishes and to move on. It’s also important to remember that forcing a friendship can be emotionally draining and can cause more pain in the long run.
If you’re struggling with a breakup, it’s important to take care of yourself first. Make sure you’re getting enough rest, eating healthy, and engaging in activities that make you feel good. It’s also important to reach out to friends and family members for support.
7 It's Possible You'll Insta Stalk Your Ex without Even Really Wanting to
Facebook and Twitter, too – the urge to see what they're up to and how they're dealing is just too much sometimes.
8 You'll do Your Fair Share of Wallowing, and That's Okay
Wallow as much as you need to until you start feeling more like yourself – you need time to heal and grieve.
9 Even Though It's Not True, You'll Feel like You'll Never Love Again
Better things are waiting for you in the future, and you'll realize that in time.
10 It's Common to Isolate Yourself for a Little While
While you're grieving or raging or wallowing, you don't always want to be around other people.
11 You Might do Some Things You Aren't Proud of
Like eating the entirety of your fridge or drunk texting your ex.
12 Like Trying to Make Your Ex Jealous
This is a possibility, too, and it's understandable, honestly.
13 Or Flirting/hooking up with Their Friends
So is this, I think almost everybody feels that way, whether they go through with it or not.
14 You Might Decide You Need a Revenge Rebound
The revenge may or may not pan out the way you want it to, but sometimes a rebound is exactly what you need.
15 And It's Totally Possible You'll Get a Dramatic Haircut
This is a popular breakup trope, but it's kind of true, you know?
16 There Will Be Days when You Don't Even Want to Change Your Clothes
This goes hand in hand with the wallowing, but more than that, you may go through a period where you don't care about anything at all.
17 And Reminders of Your Ex Will Either Hurt You or Drive You into a Rage
So, you might wind up holding your ex's shirt and sobbing into it or collecting all the stuff that's still at your place and lighting it on fire.
The most important thing to remember, though, is that it will get better. Your heart will heal!
